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Gottagetthrough
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Default  Posted: 6:17 AM, May 11th (Saturday)

At the beginning of r, I really felt close to Wh. He was getting sober, confessed tons of stuff, and was trying so hard

Now we live together, and are fully R.

He has a tough job, and I stay at home with the kids. Plus, he is bipolar I, so he needs decompression time (ie, go up to the bedroom & read sleep watch TV for hours)

Yesterday I was so tired. And he just went straight to bed at 6 when he got home.. Didn't eat dinner with us. Got up at 830 pm, and by then I'm dragging.

Why do I stay? I like being a sahm, I like the fact that by R with him, I won't miss a holiday or weekend or birthday ever again. We were in divorce court for a year before R and it was hell.

We don't even sleep in the same bed, at the end of the day, I just want ME time so I fall asleep alone on the couch reading or watching TV.


Posts: 1353 | Registered: Jan 2010
somanyyears
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Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, May 11th (Saturday)


..sorry, but it sounds like you are living separate lives under the same roof.. with not a helluva lot of real companionship, interest or passion going on here..

..kind of just going thru the motions..

..are you content with falling asleep on the couch watching Lawrence Welk???

..how long has this been the state of your existence?

..time to change things up and get out of this rut!

..take control of your life and really put some living into it..

..sending good mojo to you!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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