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Thorston
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Sad  Posted: 3:40 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

So after waiting for her lawyer to get his S*^t togther and get a seperation agreement, we finally got it done and I had it chacked out by my lawyer last week.

Yesterday I packed all the stuff I am taking into the car and moved out. Even though i knew this was coming for months, it was way harder then I thought it was going to be. I think part of it was that STBXWW was upset as well. She has not shown any real emotion in a long time so that sort of suprised me. She was crying and hugged me and even now, just typing that makes me water up.

I have been on AD's for a couple of months now and have not felt really good all things considering. And then today, I can not stop crying. Not full out crying, but bouts of tearing up.

And the topping on the proverbial cake, is today, even though we are going to be NC, she sent me a email wishing me a Happy Birthday. I did not know how to reply so all I could say was Thank you.

Sorry for the rant, but just had to get it off my chest.


Me: BH 38
Her: WW 34
Married: 4 years, togther 8
D-Day #1 10/20/12
D-Day #2 12/23/12
EA>PA 2/2/2013
D-Day #3 3/2/12

Posts: 63 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: ON, Canada
SBB
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

((Thorston))

It gets easier - I promise. Her tears were not for you or your M, but for herself. A right little pity party and I'm sorry you had to witness it.

Hardcore NC now. Don't contact her or respond to or even acknowledge anything that isn't essential.

It will help you detach friend.

NC = No New Hurts.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

(((Thorston)))

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

((((Thorston)))) I'm so sorry. Sending you strength and comfort as you adjust and process this major change.


You can call me NIK

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-Hayley Williams


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