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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

That's what I need tonight. Put a fork in me.

Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.

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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, May 12th (Sunday)


Vent away. We are here for you.

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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

((((yewtree)))) We're here, honey.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, May 12th (Sunday)



Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52583 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 16671
Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, May 13th (Monday)

Thanks for the hugs. I know, Mother's Day is the 2nd largest Hallmark Holiday. I know I should not have expectations of a parade and flowers .... but I don't think it's too much to ask for more than a text message at 5:00 PM or a fly by phone call late in the afternoon.

I knew my son was going to be out of town this weekend. I knew my daughter was going to work today so the other Mom's could be home with their families.

But when my son arrived back in town he called me to say he was coming by. "After I go by Dad's because he's having a dinner for his Mom."

My Mom didn't even get a phone call. From either one of them. I suspect my daughter went to her Dad's for the dinner and didn't tell me.

So my son shows up, at 8:00, stays for 1/2 an hour. No card. But he did give me my favorite lotion from his new GF. Not from him... from her.

I am grateful for that, she's a nice young woman.

As I sit and examine all of my feelings about this...

I was perfectly fine spending Mother's Day all alone. Until I found out MY children were spending Mother's Day Dinner at their Dad's house with HIS mom.

Thanks Kids. Thanks a lot.

Tonight I want to join the witness protection program and live far far away.

Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.

Posts: 4692 | Registered: Oct 2007
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Default  Posted: 6:53 AM, May 13th (Monday)

Mothers Day is great when the kids are little; it's so sweet to get a home made card and a plaster cast of their little hand. However, it's an artificial holiday as far as I'm concerned.

I'm sorry it upset you. You should talk to them; they should know how you feel.


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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry. I had a crappy day too. My 2 oldest didn't even say boo to me about Mothers Day.

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Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

Aw, yewie.



Fidelity isn't a's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

That's just messed up!

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

This is one of those days I was reminded what an NPD I was married to. He even controls Mother's Day.

I don't feel like I should have to plan the day with my kids, and I should not have to ask them to spend time with me.

I feel confused and hurt, but I also have other things on my plate that have really made me realize how I have gained a tougher skin and learned to let things go.

It's up to me to communicate with my kids, and let them know my boundaries and my desires. This was a wake up that I need to do that.

I think I am learning that I cannot expect them to read my mind. If I want something, I will be more assertive in asking for it, just like I do at work.

I'm good at my job because I'm good at setting boundaries and being clear about what is expected of my staff. At home, I take whatever crumbs are swept my way.

Lesson learned. Time to let people know what I want, need, expect.

Me(BS)45(at the time of D-day)

Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.

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