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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

Last night at MIL's house my H asked me what I wanted for Mother's Day. I said, "You're asking NOW?" He said yeah, I was going to go tonight. I told him if he had not gotten anything by then (nothing was going to be open but Walgreens), then to just forget it. I didn't want last minute and half ass.

But this morning I woke up and I was thinking about the special occassions he has forgotten or blown off. How my 1st MD after D-Day he wished his friend's wife a happy mother's day before he said it to me. And I started to cry.

He was in tbe bathroom and came out. He said, "Why are you crying? Did you really think I forgot your Mother's Day gift?" He was teasing me on Saturday. He's going to take me to Vegas July 4 weekend. He apologized for fooling me a little too well.

I told him I didn't need a fancy trip (although I am damn excited about it LOL). A folded piece of construction paper with a nice note is fine - just as long as he put thought into it. That is what matters to me. Not feeling forgotten.

And I got a sweet card from my daughter on Thursday that she made at school (she could not wait and wanted me to open it early). It said "I like my mommy best when she hugs me" and "my mommy is as pretty as a rose." Made me cry. Plus we got school pics back on Friday and they are, for the first time, awesome. It has been a good Mother's Day.

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 9:20 PM, May 12th (Sunday)]


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6802 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
LA44
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

Happy for you Jana! I had a good day too. My six year old wrote something like:

My Mom.
My Mom is spshol.
My Mom is smart and fun.
My Mom is 45.

Thanks, kid!

But honestly, my H just put a lot of effort into the day. There are things the boys can learn from their dad - and that's the "what not to do" stuff too. They are watching. And listening.

Well...start thinking about that Vegas trip!
LA


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, May 12th (Sunday)


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


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cheerless
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Default  Posted: 7:26 AM, May 13th (Monday)


My Mom.
My Mom is spshol.
My Mom is smart and fun.
My Mom is 45.

That is adorable!! Kids tell it like it is!

My DD15 wrote me a rap. It was very funny. But she needs to keep her day job (i.e., high school).

Jana, Vega$ is a great present!


♪I'm not fine; I'm in pain
It's harder every day ~ Maroon 5♫

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Theradin
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, May 13th (Monday)

Wow! That's a pretty cool surprise! It sounds like you may not be fully quite ready for surprises like that, but it still sounds very thoughtful of him.

Vegas, huh? I love the place. I have bittersweet memories of it, as my old memories of having an amazing time living there are slightly muddled with the fact that my WW used to travel there to meet up with her AP. Guess I'll need to work on rewriting those memories someday..!


ME: 33 BH
HER: 32 WW
Married: 8 years
Children: Yes
DDay #1: 02/22/2006 (ONS)
DDay #2: 09/23/2012 (EA/PA)
DDay #3: 12/07/2012 (EA/PA)
DDay #4: 01/03/2013 (EA/PA)
DDay #5: 01/24/2013 (EA/PA)
TT until 04/07/2013
100% NC: 04/18/2013

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, May 13th (Monday)

Oh no - I'm sorry Theradin! Vegas is someplace we've never been together (he's been before, but long long ago, before we met), so it's "clean" for us. (The whole state of North Carolina, however - ).

cheerless, if my daughter as a teen writes me a hilarious rap for Mother's Day, I'll know I've succeeded. That's awesome.

LA44, I love it! I hope you had a very spshol day!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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