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Shock-n-awe
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Member # 34869
Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, May 12th (Sunday)

Almost 3 years from the day he said he wanted a divorce, 1 year from the day he moved out, and almost 6 months from the day we were divorced and it feels as if it still hurts the same as it did 3 years ago. Everyone keeps telling me that time will heal all. I am still waiting. I don't know if it is Mother's Day getting to me or not. I tried to have the best day with my kids, but I couldn't help having this feeling of major loss today. I miss my family. I hate seeing the pain in my daughters eyes. I have not cried in a long time, but I couldn't help it today. I cried and I cried. I know it will get better, but today I am just so sad. Thanks for listening and letting me talk it out here. I hope all you mothers out there had a great day!


BW 35
WH 33
2kids (DD 5 DS 3)
Married 6 years Together for 10
Filed for divorce

Posts: 266 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
nolight
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Member # 32785
Default  Posted: 3:51 AM, May 13th (Monday)

I have no advice SNA, I just wanted to let you know that someone is here. Look after yourself today, and remember we all heal in our own timeframe if you compare how you are now to how you were are at the star of this I bet you would find you have made some great advances. (((SNA)))

Posts: 464 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 6:20 AM, May 13th (Monday)

((SNA))

Its not just time its what you do with that time too.

I read a quote today:

The harder you work the harder it is to surrender - Vince Lombardi

Its a hard habit to break. Detaching is hard work. Acceptance is agony. Surrender took most of my energy for a very long time. I've found a deep well of strength in surrendering.

Times like these I needed someone to hold me while I cried my eyes out. Let it out friend. I held it together for my girls and for my friends/family but I also gave myself lots of time to cry and grieve.

If you're OK your daughter will be OK. She needs you to be OK. You need you to be OK.

You're going to be OK. You will get through this.


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Posts: 5443 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Shock-n-awe
Member
Member # 34869
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, May 13th (Monday)

Thank you for your responses. I really do appreciate it. I am feeling better today. I just never wanted this divorce and it hurts. I did what I had to do though! Thank you


BW 35
WH 33
2kids (DD 5 DS 3)
Married 6 years Together for 10
Filed for divorce

Posts: 266 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Topic Posts: 4