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User Topic: is this normal?
meplustwo
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Member # 39082
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, May 13th (Monday)

So, we are reconciling. Just beginning so its slow goin'. Today I just feel like I don't know if I really want to spend the rest of my life with him. He is depressed. He suffers from migraines and is incapacitated. I keep having thoughts of them together and his emails telling her the things I would love to hear from him like "you looked so hot today" and "I'm so jealous that other people get to see you all day."
I love him. I want an intact family. I think he can be a great husband. I just want to feel wanted, loved, adored and right now, I don't.
Anyone else reconciling and having days where they wonder if all this is worth it?


Me(34) - BS
Him(35) - WH
Married: 9 years
Two Kids: 4 and 6
D-Day #1: 7/12, D-Day #2: 4/24/13
Affair: EA to PA with coworker
Status of A: Says he broke it off after I went to her house and confronted both of them

Posts: 59 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Maine
catlover50
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Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, May 13th (Monday)

Yep, completely normal. They don't call it a roller coaster for nothing!

Hang in there! Hugs!!



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1748 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Tripletrouble
Member
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, May 13th (Monday)

Yes! One day will be great and the next day I never want to see him again.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
gonogo1
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Member # 25518
Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, May 13th (Monday)

I am raising my hand . One day I love him and in a matter of hours I want to never see his face again . Go figure

Posts: 1625 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: East Coast
betraydtwice
Member
Member # 38921
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

So true. Everyday is different. Today I'm in the why bother phase. Wondering if I am wasting my time and if I love him at all anymore. Don't know....wish it was clearer

Posts: 148 | Registered: Apr 2013
TrustGone
Member
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 12:16 AM, May 30th (Thursday)

Yes. We all feel like that at times. It is completely normal to feel this way. Hang in there, tomorrow is a new day and who knows where you will be then. Sorry, I know it sucks.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
sodamnlost
Member
Member # 37190
Default  Posted: 1:07 AM, May 30th (Thursday)

I wonder it pretty much every day :-(


If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck - it's not a fluffy pink unicorn squirting liquid rainbows, complete with pots of gold out of it's ass.

Posts: 769 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Nowhere pretty
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