I agree with numbanddumb.
Also, my WW is acting in a similar way to yours.
I tell her that she is important to me, but that right now I need to focus on healing myself.
I told her she's welcome to be happy and feel good even if I don't because of her actions. On the flip side of that, she doesn't get to tell me how to feel either. And right not I feel that my priority is me.
If she wants to do things together to strengthen the marriage, I'm all for it, but she needs to understand that I don't trust her yet.
She's told me that just because she had a long A it doesn't mean that I get to do whatever I want. That is true and I'm not doing anything to hurt her, except she now gets less attention from me. That attention, that effort, are all going into rebuilding me.
Life is all about personal responsibility. If you break your husband, you have to accept that you now have a broken husband.