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Member # 36072
Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, May 13th (Monday)

Yesterday, on mothers day, my father died.

Please keep him in your prayers.

He was a kind and gentle man and he will be truly missed.

Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.

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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, May 13th (Monday)


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, May 13th (Monday)

I'm so sorry.

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

Posts: 8116 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, May 13th (Monday)

Awwww, sweetie, I'm so sorry.


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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, May 13th (Monday)

Im so sorry.

BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14

Posts: 3104 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
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Default  Posted: 10:49 PM, May 13th (Monday)


Posts: 1761 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, May 13th (Monday)

(((dameia))) You and your dad are in my prayers.

Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

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Default  Posted: 11:23 PM, May 13th (Monday)

My condolences. You and your dad are in my prayers.



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5334 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 18522
Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, May 13th (Monday)


I'm so sorry.

Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 7829 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
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Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, May 13th (Monday)

So very sorry for your loss.

Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2128 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 6:09 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."

Posts: 38226 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))

M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I am so very sorry, dameia. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. (((((hugs)))))

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25850 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 7:26 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

So sorry for your loss Dameia.

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2483 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Member # 12041
Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry for your loss ((((dameia)))

“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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weeping willow
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Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My father died on Mother's day in 1987.


BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years

Posts: 1793 | Registered: Feb 2009
Member # 17460
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

So very sorry for your loss.

You are in my prayers.


Fidelity isn't a's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!

Posts: 21076 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)


I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)


I'm so sorry for your loss.

Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 11888
Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry

Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength
August Wilson

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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3850 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Faithful w/Love
Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

Im so sorry. Prayers to your family and you.

BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)


Posts: 2486 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
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Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry for your loss.


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert

Posts: 3247 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

(((dameia and family)))

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10440 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
Member # 17840
Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

(((dameia))) I'm very sorry for your loss.

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

Posts: 6656 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry for your loss. Mother's Day is on different dates, but will always be a reminder; a sad reminder. My Mother passed just before my bday and I spent my bday greeting people at her wake. Those who knew, wished me a somber "try to have a happy birthday anyway ". Every bday now, that's on my mind at times. (((Hugs)))

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry for your loss. My condolences.

BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.

Posts: 294 | Registered: Mar 2013
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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

Very sorry for your loss. Huge warm hugs headed your way. (((((((dameia))))))))

Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?

Posts: 25628 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

Sending prayers for your father and your family.

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

(((dameia))) I'm so sorry, I know losing a parent leaves such a void. Sounds like the kind of man who made a great dad. You're in my thoughts.

You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry for your loss.

(((((dameia and family)))))

Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)


I'm so sorry for your loss.

Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24608 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

So sorry for your loss.

"Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it."

Mark Twain

Me-BS 52
Him-WS 53
Together 33 years

6-5-06 Day of Reckoning

"The acquired inability to escape"

Posts: 1058 | Registered: May 2009 | From: swfl
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

My heart aches for you. I lost my Mom on Mother's Day this year, so I know how painful it is.


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I am so very sorry for your loss.

♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥

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Member # 36072
Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, May 17th (Friday)

Thank you everyone for the kind words, hugs, and prayers. I really appreciate the support.

Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.

Posts: 1179 | Registered: Jul 2012
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, May 17th (Friday)

Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4966 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, May 17th (Friday)


Sorry for your loss. I'm glad you had a good Dad.

BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5872 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

((((dameia)))) I'm so very sorry.

BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8889 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry. You have my prayers.

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry, I don't have words.


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