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User Topic: Can i change a signed mediation agreement?
MichelleRenee
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Default  Posted: 7:00 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

I felt down right bullied at mediation. The woman tried to get me to agree to every custody request my stbx had. I ended up giving in to too much. and our holiday schedule isn't very exact at all. We signed it yesterday. We are in CA. Does anybody know if I can change it and how that will affect my case with the judge. My lawyer hasn't replied yet and I am getting very worried.


Me - 37
lying cheating a-hole - 36
kids - 17,12,10
D-day 3/25/2013
Filed for divorce 3/26/2013

Posts: 66 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Chatsworth, Ca
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Bumping in hopes that others that have been through this will read and give advice.

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MichelleRenee
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Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Thank you jo! My lawyer hasn't emailed back either. I hate this process so much. Most nerve-wracking thing ever.


Me - 37
lying cheating a-hole - 36
kids - 17,12,10
D-day 3/25/2013
Filed for divorce 3/26/2013

Posts: 66 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Chatsworth, Ca
Jayne Doe
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I guess the lesson to be learned here is not to sign anything until you can either sleep on it or speak to your attorney.

If they don't like it, just get up and leave.

I'm sorry Michelle I don't have an answer for you, you are a little further along in the process than I am. (((hugs)))


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LonelyHusband
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

My understanding is that once they are signed they are signed. You can add a rider to the agreement, but both parties must agree to the addition and content. I know someone just went through the same thing. The whole point of them is to create a legally binding agreement that cannot be changed without both people agreeing.

[This message edited by LonelyHusband at 12:56 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

(((MichelleRenee)))

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doggiemom12
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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

If you signed then you will need to do an amendment. I am surprised that your attorney let you sign without talking to you. Talk to your lawyer and if you ever feel bullied again walk out.

I am very surprised the mediator acted this way. You can report her you know.


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Posts: 268 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: in divorce land
million pieces
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I am in MD, but we signed an agreement in mediation and we had so many days to say no to it. I am a little vague about it, it was over 2 yrs ago...


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1244 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
MichelleRenee
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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I just read the court website. I have 10 days to notify in writing of a cancellation. I would LOVE to talk to my lawyer first tho to make sure that is the best thing to do. I guess I'll get on the phone and start bugging him tomorrow.


Me - 37
lying cheating a-hole - 36
kids - 17,12,10
D-day 3/25/2013
Filed for divorce 3/26/2013

Posts: 66 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Chatsworth, Ca
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Call your family court clerk and ask them.

In Florida I think it is 3 business days to change your mind with no repercussions.

Good luck,

K


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