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Stangfreak
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Member # 35157
Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

My WH, who has posted about wanting to be with me has been in contact with OW again. She has been texting me and he told her about all of my threads on Surviving Infidelity and provides her with a link. I will be laying low for the divorce process because my thoughts and emotions are none of her business. I will also be filing for divorce. Thank you for all of your love and support through this trying time. I will miss you all.


"Some glad morning when this life is o'er, I'll fly away.
To a home on God's celestial shore, I'll fly away.
I'll fly away, oh glory, I'll fly away (IN THE MORNING!)
When I die, hallelujah by and by, I'll fly away!"

Posts: 85 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Alabama
childofcheater
Member
Member # 33887
Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

So sorry Stang!!! FTG!


Me: 36 yo, him 35
Married 14 years together 18
3 kids: DD9, DD7, DS4
DDay 2/9/12 found suspicious text to coworker
Status: in R, work in progress

Posts: 288 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: East Coast
PurpleBirch
Member
Member # 39170
Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

Wow that bites. Thoughts and prayers are with you.


Me: BS (32)
Him: WH (31)
Married 3 years.
Confessed to PA April 21 2013.

DS (6), DS (18 months)

Aug 30 2013 He gives me back his ring with an ultimatum: "Get over it or get out".

Status: Done like dinner


Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2013 | From: The frozen North, eh?
Chefj9
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Member # 38604
Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

((((Hugs)))) so sorry


ME - BS 49, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 25, 15, 15 and 12
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere

Posts: 461 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Texas
Getting to Happy
Member
Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

FTG!!! FTB!!!

Oh Stang. I am so sorry.

Stay strong.

Sending you light and strength.


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1138 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
BaldwinBeauty59
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Member # 35507
Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, May 14th (Tuesday)

DAMN!!! This is one of those times I wish we weren't anonymous. I would love to fire off an email to both those POS assholes and tell them how fucked up and disgusting they are. What a total waste of space those two losers are. You deserve better than that sorry ass man you call husband. Very soon you will realize what a lucky escape you had by divorcing his sorry pathetic ass. You have nowhere to go but up from here so enjoy your new freedom.


Me - BW (53)
Him - WH (56)
OW - skanky whore coworker
Married 33 years
DDay1 8/10/11
DDay2 8/15/11
DDay3 8/28/11
2 grown children
Status - in R

Posts: 978 | Registered: May 2012
avicarswife
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Member # 35799
Default  Posted: 4:34 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Honey I am so sorry - what a POS - you deserve so very much better.


What sort of people do that kind of thing?? I can't imagine people being so narcissistic that they could even read about the pain and destruction their sicko fantasy has caused. Wow, she must be a real nasty piece of work!

PM us when you want to chat.


BS: 47 (me)
WH: 51
Married 26 yrs, 3 kids (16-24)
D-Days 2012: 23 - 24 May + TT
D-Day 2013: 12 Apr OW#3
mOW #1 EA yrs PA Feb 2009-end 2011
mOW #2 EA months PA 4 months 2010
OW #3 PA single time 2010
Status: Maybe 'R'

Posts: 711 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: "down-under"
SoVerySadNow
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Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

((((Stangfreak))))
Even if I was a POS OW, like your WH's whore, I hope to God I'd have the bit of intelligence it would take to see WH for the disordered unfaithful idiot that he is and be terrified. There is zero chance they will make it. She will know that he will lie and cheat. How fun their relationship will be with that constantly between them.
They deserve everything bad- and they will get everything bad in time.
Sad pathetic souless black holes that they are, it's a sure bet.

ETA that I hope Jack317 has her read his posts too. Whore should ave the whole story, but then he is probably saying that he had to write that stuff. Cheater's handbook material.

[This message edited by SoVerySadNow at 8:23 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)]


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1280 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Dark Inertia
Member
Member # 30727
Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Now that is pretty fuuucked up. Your husband and the Ow are assholes.


"If I listened earlier, I wouldn't be here. But that's just the trouble with me. I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it."

Posts: 1176 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: The Ohio
5454real
Member
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry this has occurred. Nothing can keep you from reading though. On that note, unless he has your password, PM may be an option to keep in touch.

Anyone who would do such a thing must be a complete LOSER. Sleep at night must be fun as they contemplate how much morality means. Someone dumb enough to be with a guy like that? Wow, look at what he's willing to do to someone he took vows with. Really think you'll be treated better? Idiot.

Strength


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2552 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
k94ever
Member
Member # 11176
Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Wow....how incredibly wrong that is.

Lurk with us. And know that we don't forget.

{{{hugs}}}

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6453 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
sinsof thefather
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Member # 29295
Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

What a pair of sickos - him especially.


Stang do yourself a favour and get as far away from that cruel weirdo as fast as you can.


(((hugs)))


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1837 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
JanaGreen
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Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

What a fucking JERK. I'm so sorry.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6555 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

This has happened to other BS's here on SI. It's despicable. It's cruel. That they are laughing at your posts,your pain,that they are responsible for.

Only a truly broken,evil person would find amusement in another's pain.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7140 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
meplusfour
Member
Member # 38958
Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Your thoughts and insight will be missed. Stay strong.


BW (me)42
WH 44
3 daughters, 1 son
Married 10 years, together 13
DDay 3/14/2013, four year PA
In R
"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to the way they used to be."

Posts: 350 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Canada
krisdev
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Member # 22090
Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

OMFG, seriously? Geesh so they don't want to take ownership for what they did? Ok, so I'm guessing she contacted you because she thought this shit was funny? OMG. What assholes! I'm sorry that you're going through this.


He taught me so much, self worth.

Posts: 50 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: krisdev
mysticpenguin
Member
Member # 38839
Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

What Baldwin said!!!!

On a serious note -- what an asshole. Karma is a bitch!


Betrayed

Posts: 306 | Registered: Mar 2013
purplebreeze
Member
Member # 31611
Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

So sorry that a place that gives such healing and peace is tainted with the knowledge that they are watching what you say.
Please continue to lurk (they can't follow that) and message some of the wonderful people that help so much. Remember, we are here rooting for you. Good Luck.


me 64
WH 65
married 44 years
DD Jan 16 2011

Posts: 354 | Registered: Mar 2011
hopefulmother
Member
Member # 38790
Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

So sorry Strangfreak...good luck with the D. Keep us posted later when the dust settles. We will miss you.

Well...if he did all that, then I guess she knows your posts....

Well-you disgusting OW...Strangfreak has more dignity and self-worth in her pinky finger than you have in your whole body. Good luck being happy with her ex...We all know you will constantly be worried about whether he will cheat on you too.

At least Strangfreak can look at herself in the mirror and hold her head up high.


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 918 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
Stangfreak
Member
Member # 35157
Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I have asked her not to contact me and she continues to do so. It is interfering with my work and home life. Please advise me in my course if action.


"Some glad morning when this life is o'er, I'll fly away.
To a home on God's celestial shore, I'll fly away.
I'll fly away, oh glory, I'll fly away (IN THE MORNING!)
When I die, hallelujah by and by, I'll fly away!"

Posts: 85 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Alabama
childofcheater
Member
Member # 33887
Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Document all contact and file a harassment report with the police.


Me: 36 yo, him 35
Married 14 years together 18
3 kids: DD9, DD7, DS4
DDay 2/9/12 found suspicious text to coworker
Status: in R, work in progress

Posts: 288 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: East Coast
hopefulmother
Member
Member # 38790
Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Agree with Childofcheater.

So angry...went back and read all his posts about the weekend before training. How sorry he was...blah blah blah.

Never noticed how focused he is on himself. How did that weekend go?


Me-BW 39
WH-39
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends for 20yrs dating since 2000
Married 9yrs with 2 toddlers
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.

Posts: 918 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
5454real
Member
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

who is paying for his training at the Academy? if it is a city or municipality I cannot believe they would be too happy helping fund his adulteress lifestyle. for that matter from what I remember of police academies, they have a code of ethics. that behavior would get most students kicked out.

talk to your attorney first.

just sayin


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2552 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
cdnmommy
Member
Member # 30182
Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Wow.

I should be shocked but I am not surprised at the quality of OW he chose given what he is like.

Document.


Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
1 great kid.
Reconciling and healing

Posts: 1725 | Registered: Nov 2010
Tearsoflove
Member
Member # 8271
Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

She contacts you when she's the cheating whore who sleeps with married men. He lies and contacts her and then provides her with personal information about you to cause more insult to the injuries he's already caused. Apparently, they are two people who get off on hurting others.

Definitely let her have him. They deserve each other. Let them self-destruct together. Hopefully, he'll marry her and then the mistress position will open up for some other woman.


"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson


Posts: 3968 | Registered: Sep 2005
NeverAgain2013
Member
Member # 38121
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

LOL...don't these low lives have anything better to do but read your posts and stalk you constantly?

Gee, she must be feeling a bit anxious about her married prize and what he's up to if she's SO interested in what you have to say.

Funny, I was just reading how another poster put a profile of her husband's ex-OW up on Cheaterville.com. After 8,000+ views and tons on comments on the ex-OW's profile, someone who knew her happened to see it and let her know that it was out there. Of course, she came crying to the BW and couldn't kiss her ass ENOUGH when she realized she was powerless to take it down herself and had to rely on the BW to do that FOR her. Ain't that a shame?

And boy, the ex-OW handed the BW everything she asked for once she realized the BW was the one holding all cards. Don't that beat all?

And wouldn't that be a riot if you did the same thing?

Just sayin'.

[This message edited by NeverAgain2013 at 3:15 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)]


Be careful - that 'knight in shining armor' may very well be nothing more than an assclown wrapped in tin foil.
ME: 50+ years old and cute as a button :-)
Ex-WBF: Just a lying, cheating, gravy-sucking pig - and I left him in 2012.

Posts: 1576 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: USA
Skan
Member
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Out them. Out them now. Send her harassing emails to everyone she knows along with the story of how the ho helped to blow up your marriage. And out him to his job, his family, and all of your friends. They should know what kind of faithless asshole is breathing the same air as them.

From what I understand Dear Old Jack flunked out of his training because he couldn''t man-up enough to pass his physical? Poor bebe''! Guess he forgot that you have to actually DO pushups with your arms and not other, equally inadequate, pieces of his anatomy.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4585 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
k94ever
Member
Member # 11176
Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

Have you documented these contacts?

If you have, take the list and see a lawyer. Have the Lawyer draw up a cease letter and get her served with it.

Most of them slither away when faced with possible legal ramifications.

k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6453 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
undonelife
Member
Member # 38421
Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

File a harassment report against her and take out a no contact order against her and him. Speak to an attorney to see if you can file suit separate from the D for mental stress and abuse.


Me: BS 53 Him: WH 51
M: 28 years
DDay 11/25/12 TT 9/9/13
OW:20 yrs younger McOW
Kids: 2 teens

Posts: 184 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Dark Hell
Getting to Happy
Member
Member # 35200
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

Document all contact and file a harassment report with the police.

BOOM!

...put a profile of her husband's ex-OW up on Cheaterville.com. ... Of course, she came crying to the BW and couldn't kiss her ass ENOUGH...And boy, the ex-OW handed the BW everything she asked for once she realized the BW was the one holding all cards. Don't that beat all?

And wouldn't that be a riot if you did the same thing?

BOOM, BOOM!!

Out them. Out them now. Send her harassing emails to everyone she knows along with the story of how the ho helped to blow up your marriage. And out him to his job, his family, and all of your friends. They should know what kind of faithless asshole is breathing the same air as them.

BOOM, BOOM, BOOM!!!

I know that your head is reeling from this shitfest!

Take your power back. You are worth so much more than what he is giving you.

Him colluding with the whore is horrible (GAH!) but as you know he is a POD person now. Not the same guy you married, hell, he may have never been the guy you married. With all those lies he has been feeding your, its hard to tell.

Hang in there, we are rooting for you.

Strength and Light to you Stang!



WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

Never forget what is worth remembering or remember what is best forgotten.
Unknown


Posts: 1138 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: La La Land
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