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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

So.....I screwed up. Plain and simple.

Yesterday....sperm donor emailed my email and I was shocked when I saw his name in my inbox. I opened it up and he asked me why I was sending pictures of him to him. I thought... ??? WTF?? So, I checked my sent box and low and behold..there were like 4 or 5 emails sent from my email address to his new email (which I didn't even KNOW his new email) 3 with an old picture of him in them.....1 with a picture of some chick I don't know....and one email looked like a filled out application for his personal property with his new car in it.....(and all of his personal information).

I proceeded to tell him that I had no idea about the emails and that they were sent at 12:35pm and I was at lunch at that time and not even at work or near a computer. I reminded him that his mom and I have some odd problem where it looks like our emails are linked somehow because I get email responses that are meant for her from random people ...but sent to MY email address.... and this has been an ongoing problem for a couple of years....

I "TRIED" to be cordial.... and then as always.... the inevitable happened....and he became disrespectful. He said to not contact his mother (hadn't planned on it) because she had enough problems than dealing with me, my sister, or the baby (her name is PIPER). And, he said to never contact him again...I was getting my "$15 a week" (a nice jab that he got the lowest possible child support ordered because he is lazy F*&king loser pond scum and is unemployed BUT working under the table to avoid his parental responsibilities....)

So....I will admit it.... I lost it a bit. I told him that #1... Piper was not a "problem"... she is an innocent child. #2 Shame on his mother and on him for turning their backs on her. # 3 $15 a week is more than he had been giving AND if he didn't want child support ordered, he should have done right by his child.....

I finished the email by saying that he would not hear from me again and reminded him that HE emailed ME... and told him that Piper and I were better off without him. Goodbye.

Now...I'm mad....and want to punch him in his smug jerk-ass face! So, now I'm gonna block his NEW email. How the hell did this happen? Spam? I changed my password on my email so that if its been hacked that I can fix that...but this is just a bunch of BULL$*it!!

But....I had to confess. He broke NC...and I fell for the bait..... I'm so stupid.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 7:35 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2713 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Can you close this email account and open a new one? I know it would be a hassle, but I sure as heck wouldn't want to keep an account that is somehow mysteriously linked with his mother's.

Climb back on the NC wagon.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 24720 | Registered: Aug 2011
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

close this email account and open a new one

This.

I would be very surprised if he doesn't have log in info for your email account and is messing with you.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13648 | Registered: Jul 2011
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Good Point....I think its about time to change emails anyways.... I've had that one forever and it has enough junk mail in it to sink a ship now.... I'm probably due for a new one....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2713 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

When I have gone NC, I changed my primary email. I kept the old email just in case and check it about 4 times a year.. quarterly cleanup/out.

I have about 6 email accts... and rotate between them as needed. My current email acct has been good for about 4 - 5 years now, so it's not like I bounce between them much.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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Posts: 4979 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Hey Shell, if you keep your current email, also change your security questions and see what the alternate/recovery email is set to. Oh, and check to make sure your email isn't being forwarded to a certain address and check to see if the out-of-office settings are set to something. Go through everything - you'd be surprised what spammers/hackers will do.

As for breaking NC, don't beat yourself up. It'd be hard NOT to get in his "smug, jerk-ass face."

Today is a new, NC day.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

Posts: 15378 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Now an AZ girl
She11ybeanz
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Revenge  Posted: 9:23 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Thanks Wildbananas.... he just makes me SO freakin mad!

I created a new primary email account and will use the old one for junk. I changed the password and security questions too..... hopefully that will work....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2713 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Check the other stuff, too... just in case. Can't be too careful.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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