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Question  Posted: 8:10 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Last August/Sept my DD6 got her ears pierced. We decided on the titanium starter studs because my mom was allergic to her earrings and I had an infection in one of my piercings, so we were trying to be cautious.

We kept up with the normal cleaning routine and then in Dec her ears, around the holes, felt a little bumpy. I pushed on it and puss came out and a little blood. So I cleaned her ears with hydrogen peroxide and more of the ear solution from the store and I soaked her studs in more hydrogen peroxide until they were clean. Before I put them in her ears I put some antibiotic ointment on the posts. We did this for about two weeks. This worked and her ears seem fine.

The questions I have are:

1. When I look at the back of one hear the top part around the hole is red. It doesn't hurt her she pinches her ear and she feels nothing. Around the hole (again the back of her ear) looks a little crusty, I think it might be some skin but it's hard to get a really good look.

2. When we switch earrings (I clean the new ones before they go in her ears) they seem to go in tight and come out tight. I have to hold her lobe in place to pull out the earring. This doesn't seem normal. Is any of this normal?

I'm worried there is something wrong with the holes.

My original piercings (I was 14 yrs old) still close up if I don't wear earrings all the time. I hope this doesn't happen with her.


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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I don't have pierced ears, but could it be that the cleaning solutions are drying out the skin?


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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I didn't think of that, but would the solutions only dry out the skin on one side of one ear?


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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I have no idea, just basing on what you described, crusty, dry, tight skin.


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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Sounds like she is allergic to the earrings and they are aggravating her ears. I know my ears will do the same thing if I wear any earrings that contain any nickel.


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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

That's why we went with titanium. We wanted to stay away from the nickle. I asked how the posts were attached to the earring (if it was nickel) and they didn't know. Plus the regular earrings (not her starters) are for sensitive ears. I suppose they could still have some amount of nickel in them.


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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I might bring her to a dermatologist. I had my ears pierced when I was 10. I got terrible infections. I tried titanium, hypo allergenic, 24K gold, platinum, you name it. My infections, however, were far worse than what your daughter has. It could just be temporary, could be an allergy to the cleaning solution, maybe something a round of antibiotics could clean up, but I think a quick doc appointment could do the trick.


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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Unfortunately, Titanium earrings also contain nickel. The only earrings that don't are the ones that specifically state "nickel free" or plastic earrings.


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Default  Posted: 8:40 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I have ultra sensitive skin. Even the ones made for sensitive ears bothered me. The only thing that I have found that doesn't irritate my ears is solid gold.

Even with solid gold my ears will still sometimes get dry and crusty. I think this is because of water/hair product that gets trapped in between the ear and earring.


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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Tattoo knowledge isn't my only forte! I've had quite a few piercings in my life...most of them gone now. But anyway, a majority of people are allergic to earrings you get at the mall and places like Claire's. Most of the time it's the nickel. Even if it says sensitive ears. Sterling silver works however it will discolor your ears and it won't go away. What you need is surgical steel. Look for things labeled as body jewelry or go to a tattoo/piercing shop. They sell them at many gauges so they will have something that is the same size as a regular earring post. The gauge is how thick the post is (ie like people who have the giant holes in their ears). I found very cute, small, rainbow, horseshoe earrings for my daughter in a 16 gauge. If you have trouble getting the earring in it could be a few things...scar tissue, lymph, the direction the earring went through when she got it pierced. Wash her ears well with a soap like Dial. Then soak a cotton ball in sea salt and water. Let the cotton ball soak on her ear.



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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B004K2TVT0

These are similar to what she has. Look for 16 gauge. But 14 will slip right in, too. And you can order it using the SI Amazon link! Just look up horseshoe surgical steel earrings. I also suggest horseshoes because they are easier to get on. The captive bead rings (the hoops with a ball inte middle) are a PITA.


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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Thank you all so much. I was hoping that since it's coming up on a year that her ears would be fine.

I did call her pediatrician and they said that since she's not in pain and there's no swelling that we can hold out until her physical this summer. They did say that if it changes and she's in pain then to bring her in. That seemed fair.

I will read the cards on earrings. They all did come from Claire's.

I'm going to have to start looking for nickel-free.

Jennie, I've had that happen, too. I just thought it might be the shampoo getting stuck like you said. With what happened in Dec worried me.

TCD, I don't feel any lumps anymore so I hope there's no scar tissue (that happened with my mom and she can't wear earrings at all) it's just that the holes are tight, almost like they are closing up.

I'm definitely going to start to look around more and see what's out there. Maybe I can try and talk my husband into buying her some gold studs to try out.


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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

TCD knows

My daughter's are surgical steel. We also just cleaned hers with salt water oh and try not to shampoo/conditioner on them. I wouldn't recommend hydrogen peroxide because it prevents healing... Honestly sea salt is brilliant- not table salt though because iodide also prevents healing... Remember you want the body to heal around a foreign object, not reject it

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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I85, I used the peroxide because I wanted to really clean her ears if she was starting to get an infection. Now, I only use it on the new earrings.

Is there measurements for how much sea-salt and how much water to use? I'm assuming warm water is best?

I'm going to look at her ears again when she comes home and clean them out again.

I have some piercings but this isn't the place to post about them haha

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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Don't use hydrogen peroxide! It's not good for piercings AT ALL! You can use sea salt and water or a saline solution (they have it at Walgreens) or if you really really feel like you want a little more umph, a tiny bit of rubbing alcohol.

I've had tons of piercings. I'm sure you will figure it out.


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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

No on the alcohol! Rubbing alcohol will dry the skin out. To make the salt solution just dissolve 1/4 tsp of sea salt in warm water.


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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Honestly hydrogen peroxide damages all cells so healthy cells too and they're needed for healing- remember it doesn't usually kill bacteria- which is mind boggling I know!! It just creates a bad environment all round- I digress lol

I always do a little taste test on the sea salt- really salty but not crusty basically. Warm water in a glass, stir in some sea salt- sorted

Do them morning, in from school and before bed- she'll be fine in no time- guaranteed idiot's advice haha


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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

guaranteed idiot's advice

Should I be taking idiots advice?


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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

KeepCalm, did you mean rubbing alcohol on the earrings?


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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Yes, sorry, I went back and read that and realized I didn't type to clean the earrings. TCD is correct, alcohol will dry out the skin.


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Thank you, that's what I thought you meant


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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Don't use alcohol on piercings!! It's caustic so they just create a bad environment- I know it's an antiseptic but sea salt will do the same without damaging healthy cells

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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Oh and if you can get hold of H2Ocean, it's awesome- it's basically a saline spray.

When you want the body to accept something foreign it's best to create a healthy environment so the body doesn't freak out- alcohol on a gravelly wound- fine- on a piercing- no!!

Edited to add- I wear a titanium ball closure ring only 2mm and I have a small flesh tunnel in the other ear- always used sea salt when healing.

As I said I have more sensitive piercings and they healed fast using H2Ocean

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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I only wear the earrings that you pierce your ears with. I like them because I don't have to worry about the backs falling off. I can't even get them off by myself!


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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Our DD has the same problem and the only earrings she can wear are 14k gold (not the gold plated...actual gold ) and plastic. She will get pus built up and it forms into a little ball on her ear (much like you said with your DD).


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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Are you just using the backing that comes with the earrings? I have trouble with the metal squishing up against my ear at night and the silicone tubes are much less aggravating.

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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Mama, that's what I think is going to happen with my DD. She's going to be expensive

Crescita, we use the backs that come with the earrings. The starter backs don't sit near the ear and with her regular earrings I make sure not to push them on too tight.


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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

FYI Titanium does not contain nickel.

I have plenty of metal allergies- allergic to nickel, stainless steel, 10k gold, 14k gold....pretty much all I can wear are platinum, titanium, 18k and above gold, rhodium, and palladium.

I can't wear any post style earrings at all, no matter what the material.

You may want to try a thin titanium or 14k gold hoop earring to see if that helps.

Luckily worst case is you just stop wearing jewelry...normally the infection clears up as soon as the irritant is removed.


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So I sifted through here and I have another hypothesis, that might be running concurrent with getting the right kind of antiseptic.

I had a piercing in a... um, less than conventional place, and it started to reject after several years. At first I thought the skin was getting inflamed and hard around the openings, but the place I went to get it removed (tattoo parlor - Hi mom!) told me that my skin was trying to push the piercing out.

That explains why it wasn't painful or infected, but just kinda got hard.

I reluctantly took the piercing out and everything healed up just fine.

Maybe her ears are just rejecting having a piercing?


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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Jrazz- for less conventional piercings glass is awesome to help stop rejections- just so you know

There'll always be an attempt to reject on anything other than cartilage but even they can be rejected. The trick is to take really good care of the healthy cells- such as being super careful with antiseptics- nothing caustic... Happy cells make a happy little hole ready to be speared


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Good to know for my next life. There is no WAY I am repiercing in this particular locale. I'd rather go through labor againn.


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Yeah, I heard labour's easy, it's natural...

Had to edit: I was joking if my wife had seen that as it was I'd be starting a thread "thoughts on castration" ha

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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

Ok here's an update.

We put new light dangles in her ears this morning. We took them out before her shower. They almost didn't come out. It was like the hole closed up around the post. She said it hurt to pull them out. We pressed on the hole and there was no lump, no puss, no pain, nothing. I wanted her to shower without earrings in, but when that happened I put her titanium starters back in. After her shower and our card game we spun the starters and they moved fine, again no pain so we were relieved. I told her until we can figure this out she should stay wearing only her starters.

We don't want them to close up, she loves her earrings.

Now my over-protective mom guilt is kicking in and I feel like a mutilated her little ears. I feel so bad for her.

My mom was worried for DD because she had an allergic reaction to the nickel in her earrings (back in the 40's/50's) and now she has a lump of scar tissue in her ear lobes. She's scared DD will be the same

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You might wait longer to take her earrings out. Taking them out and putting them in each day may be irritating or even wounding the lobes. Leave the earrings in, use a good non drying cleaning solution, move the earrings gently to ensure there isn't a crust forming over them. This is from my own experience with pierced ears. I have two sets.


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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, May 16th (Thursday)

Old fashioned preparation H is great for pierced ears. Does not try the skin, decreases inflammation and has some antimicrobialmproperties. Sounds strange, but I have seen it work numerous times.


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Stronger, I'm not going to switch them again. Not until we get this all figured out.

My ears are double pierced as well and the only issue I had was in my left ear, second hole. It got infected. My MIL who's a nurse helped me then (when she was nice) so when my daughter had issues in Dec I remembered what my MIL did (hydrogen peroxide and antibiotic ointment on the posts)

I would have imagine my DD's ears would've been fine by now. But I guess not.

Pentup, I never would've guess to use that.


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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, May 16th (Thursday)

I couldn't resist mentioning it to my Dad- I called you a 'friend' haha- he said pretty much what I told you- nothing caustic!!!!!

If you create a bad environment for healthy cells- the body will reject it.

I really am like a broken record but I'm so excited that know the answer so please trust me!!

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I don't mind you calling me a "friend." It might be a bit difficult if your father asks to see her, though. But hey! That would be a UK g2g so it's all good

I appreciate all of your advice and everyone who has chimed in. She's wearing her titanium starters (especially today and tomorrow it's gym days at school) and we're keeping it that until her ears are better.


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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, May 16th (Thursday)

Regarding spinning the earrings. Don't so it. Soak of the crusties and then the earring should move freely. If you pick off the crust or spin the earring, it can cause the crust to rip of healthy, new skin both outside the hole and inside.

The advice that a mall place gives you is dead wrong. Go to any tattoo/piercing parlor's page and look at their aftercare info. If possible always get piercings done with a needle, not a piercing gun. Piercing guns are not sterile. The people aren't educated in blood born pathogens or even how to do anything sterile. They use te same marker for everyone's ears. Earrings in a piercing gun cause blunt force trauma by ripping a hole through the ear and damaging the inside of the hole. Needles slice a clean hole that an earring can slide through. Ok now that I sound preachy and annoying, I'll get off my soap box.


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Woohoo TCD

It's true- I'd only ever get done with a needle- I think it's clever how the guys who know what they're doing even slightly alter the angle to avoid rejection and it's not noticeable once done... I could literally talk tattoos and piercings all day haha


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In their defense there are plenty of people who get there ears pierced with the piercing guns and never have an issue. I'm sure it's just my daughters system. She has other allergies as well (seasonal and food) so I'm almost not surprised if she has an allergy to nickel.

Basically, I just want her ears to be better. As I've said, the infection is gone, there is not puss, no lumps, no pain, nothing. The holes seem to close up around the posts when we switch her earrings and that is a concern.

I just want her ears better so she can enjoy wearing her earrings.


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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, May 16th (Thursday)

I also can't wear anything but nickel free earrings. My ears fill with pus and it's gross. There is a company called Simply Whispers that is nothing but nickel free earrings and jewelry. They have stuff geared towards kids, too. http://www.simplywhispers.com/ I hope it helps. It's not fun seeing the pretty earrings at the mall and knowing you could never wear them.


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Don't worry, they'll heal- sea salt!!


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Thank you, his#1. I appreciate the link, I'm going to check it out now.

I85, I know, it's just hard for me to see her so worried about her ears and she loves all of her other earrings. Her uncle (my BIL) picked her out special earrings for Christmas, they all look like diamonds and pearls but now she can't wear them

Will the sea-salt and warm water sting her ears?

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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

The advice that a mall place gives you is dead wrong. Go to any tattoo/piercing parlor's page and look at their aftercare info. If possible always get piercings done with a needle, not a piercing gun. Piercing guns are not sterile. The people aren't educated in blood born pathogens or even how to do anything sterile. They use te same marker for everyone's ears. Earrings in a piercing gun cause blunt force trauma by ripping a hole through the ear and damaging the inside of the hole. Needles slice a clean hole that an earring can slide through. Ok now that I sound preachy and annoying, I'll get off my soap box.

as for piercing guns? people survive having their teeth pulled with plyers too, but that doesn't make it optimal.

TCD is right. i've had more than 25 piercings, (some with guns <<shudder>>). with regard to aftercare, advice even among the pro's will vary, but there are standards that all professionals should be following.

if it were my kid, i'd try the following:

1) BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE, I'd replace the current jewelry with thin gauge, surgical stainless steel jewelry. a nice small barbell would be good because it doesn't move much. stop taking the jewelry out.

2) soak it with a salt water solution. put a small cup of it over the ear to form a seal against her head. let it sit for 1-2 minutes. use a solution of about 1 tbsp of sea salt per 6 oz of water. TCD is right - DO NOT spin or rotate the jewelry...soak it and rinse it thoroughly. if necessary, use a q-tip or something with some saltwater on the end to remove any visible debris.

3) keep it clean - only once or twice a day, use a mild, fragrant free soap in the shower. lather up a small amount, soak it into the piercing and leave it for no more than 30 seconds. rinse it very thoroughly. pat the area dry with something clean and disposable.

4) i hesitate to say this part, because you should use it so judiciously, but if it's really bugging her or is "stuck" you could put a tiny dot of neosporin on the shaft and work that through the hole....that's way better than peroxide and it can be a lubricant if used very, very sparingly.

5) this part might seem extreme...but honestly, if my kid's ears didn't completely turn around in two weeks with surgical stainless barbells, i'd let the holes close and get them done by a professional piercer. i'm not sure i'd wait actually, i'd probably just start over. it just creates a more natural, better healed, usually better placed adult piercing.

check this site out from the Association of Professional Piercers:

http://www.safepiercing.org/piercing/

[This message edited by stretch13 at 2:00 PM, May 16th (Thursday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, May 17th (Friday)

If it stings it won't be much- it definitely won't if peroxide didn't sting.

Barbells would be good- I'd use titanium at this stage. Get good quality (not titanium coated alloy).

I personally would say to avoid soap- my Dad always tells people who are healing to avoid soap-stick to salt or H2Ocean.

I'm going to say my favourite word on this thread- don't use ANYTHING.... Guess what??? CAUSTIC!!! Bad environments reduce healing and increase the risk of rejecting a foreign body- FACT.

Defo stop taking them out her ears and only clean them twice a day- if they're not on the mend after 7 days of following that advice, get hem re-pierced by a piercer.

I did all this with my piercings and my daughter's ears- all 100% fine after a shaky start with one of mine!!


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