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meplustwo
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Member # 39082
Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

I wrote a letter to my husband today and clarified what I expect and that I'm not willing to wait. He cheated on me. He should be begging me to take him back, not the other way around. I don't deserve to be treated like someone to spend time with when his ow isn't available. I deserve more than that from my husband. He is being totally disrespectful by not writing a NC letter right this instant. I give up.


Me(34) - BS
Him(35) - WH
Married: 9 years
Two Kids: 4 and 6
D-Day #1: 7/12, D-Day #2: 4/24/13
Affair: EA to PA with coworker
Status of A: Says he broke it off after I went to her house and confronted both of them

Posts: 59 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Maine
FightingBack
Member
Member # 34770
Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, May 15th (Wednesday)

You are absolutely right. You deserve better than that. Much much better. Don't sell yourself short.

My husband's affair began when I was 37. I wish I had found out then. It would have been difficult, especially with four young kids, but not impossible.

I know he would have honoured his financial support responsibilities, I would have resumed my career and I may have had a chance for happiness. Instead, he stole my happiness and I continued in an unfulfilling marriage for 15 years.

You are young and you sound strong. Your best years are yet to come.

Don't waste them on someone who does not cherish you.

Don't settle for anything less than you deserve.


Me 53
WH 58
Married 25 years
4 children S30,D24, S23,S21
D-Day Nov. 29, 2011
15 year affair with married employee.
Together trying to make sense of it all!

Posts: 785 | Registered: Feb 2012
Topic Posts: 2