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FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

After 4 years of no-shows to DD's events, XH has finally decided to attend one. Praise the lord! Let the heavens open up so we can rejoice!

But of course he is bringing wifetress and new baby. The ridiculous part is that his parents are accompanying DD and I to the event because he decided to attend last minute.

I am going to look my best, hold my head up high, be pleasant, and enjoy my DD's event. I am going to be the proud mamma bear and act like the lady that I am. I will not let those two fools intimidate me or make me feel like less than just because I am un-partnered.

I am ready! So bring it on!


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Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

You go Girl!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

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cryingdaily
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

You will be fabulous! Proud and fabulous!


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

Good job, FirstLoveGone. We can't beat them at their own level, but out-classing them couldn't be easier!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, May 17th (Friday)


It will be so obvious to onlookers that you are the class act.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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PurpleBlueBella
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, May 17th (Friday)

Good for you!! ((Hugs))

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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, May 17th (Friday)

When you put shoe polish on those bitch boots they are rather elegant attire for a lady!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
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Posts: 1122 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 12:07 PM, May 17th (Friday)

Thanks ladies and gentleman!

This turn of events would have put me into a tailspin a year ago. But I'm taking it all in stride. FTG and the wh*re he rode in on!

The only thing I am not looking forward to is the post-event reception. I really don't want to stand there any make chit-chat with XH, wifetress, and the XILs(who are accompanying DD and I to the event as well as leaving with us). I'll have to somehow occupy myself while they play happy family. Unfortunately, I won't know anyone at the reception.

[This message edited by FirstLoveGone at 12:07 PM, May 17th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, May 17th (Friday)

FTG and the wh*re he rode in on!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1828 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Skan
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, May 17th (Friday)

Oh, you don''t talk to them. You do the indirect cut. The Cut Direct would be far more satisfying, but given that your DD will be there and you don''t want to hurt her, the indirect cut will do just fine.

They are, of course, persons that you vaguely know, are not interested in getting to know better, so you smile vaguely and answer the same way. "That''s nice" should be your standard reply keep it short and then move away. If wifetress has anything to say, I would look right though her and act as if I were deaf. And ask your DD to introduce you to teammates that she likes. Then introduce yourself to the parents and strike up a conversation. I''m not saying that if they notice FWH and wifetress hovering around and ask about them, that you should actually say something to the effect that "Oh, that''s my former husband and his mistress turned wife," in an amused voice, but if something like that slipped out, well, truth is tough at times. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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Jayne Doe
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, May 17th (Friday)

While you're sitting there looking amazing ~ keep this quote in mind....

"When another woman steals your man, the best revenge is to let her keep him"

[This message edited by Jayne Doe at 9:52 PM, May 17th (Friday)]


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S 11/11, D final 1/14.

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FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, May 17th (Friday)

Thanks for the advice skan and Jayne.

I'll report back to you all tomorrow!

Wish me luck!


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FirstLoveGone
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Well that was anti-climactic!

Wifey and baby were no-shows. Apparently the baby is sick so wifey stayed home with the baby.

I basically pretended that XH wasn't there and enjoyed the recital.

Till next time!


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Glad that it went well!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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