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User Topic: First "Date" in 14 years - Thank you SI friends
traildad
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Content  Posted: 10:11 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

Whew, I haven't been that nervous in a long time. I stumbled, talked too much, talked too little, managed to make an awkward good bye outside the restaurant. All normal first date stuff I suppose. It was a nice evening. I am hoping to see her again. I don't know all of the dating "rules", about when to contact her again, etc. I hate all that stuff. I got signals that she liked me too.

Regardless of how this turns out, what a fantastic moment this was for me. I never imagined I would get to this point, with a clear head, and enjoy an evening with someone new. Thank you SI friends for being there.


Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.

Posts: 650 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Michigan
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, May 17th (Friday)

I'm so happy for you.

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Sue1964
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Member # 37057
Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, May 17th (Friday)

I'm thinking of going on a date and frightened to death as h put so many doubts in me about my crap body.

Posts: 287 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Uk
brokensmile322
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Member # 35758
Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, May 17th (Friday)

Congrats Traildad! Way to start living again!

No matter what happens, enjoy the small successes!!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


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7yrsflushed
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Member # 32258
Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, May 17th (Friday)

Thanks for posting this traildad. I am nowhere near even being close to dating but I do like seeing posts like yours. It helps me stay positive and realize that once I am through with this D and have my head on straight life does go on and it can actually go on in a positive direction.


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

Posts: 1905 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
wildbananas
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Member # 10552
Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, May 17th (Friday)

WTG, traildad! Good for you for getting out there.

And if I may t/j... Sue:

my crap body

Don't even think like that and don't let the voice of your XH invade your NB. All bodies are good bodies.

end t/j


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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SoHappyNow
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Member # 8923
Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, May 17th (Friday)

I'm a gonna echo wildbananas: all bodies ARE good bodies!!!

I'm 64, 295# and losing, in a wc sometimes......and I have found a new love right under my nose and having more fun (in and out of bed) than ever before! If your body functions at all, it's a good body and can give pleasure to you and to the right partner!


In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus

***Used to be hit-by-a-train***
Remarried 2/14/14


Posts: 2294 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: USA
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, May 17th (Friday)

Yay, traildad!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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