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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

Okay here's the thing, my sweetheart is 11 years old. I've had her for close to a decade and she comes from an abusive home. She was 1 when I got her and terrified of belts, newspapers, brooms, anything she can be hit with. Shes gotten past this but lately she is driving me insane. It used to be thunder would send her into a panic and she'd scratch the floor. Then she'd start getting under the microwave stand and wreck the pots and pans. Irritating but tolerable. Now she goes into panic mode if the TV is loud or she hears a loud noise from outside. There is a little boy upstairs and my landlady lets him rum and throw things that creates loud crashing noise in our apartment...I really need to complain about that. That starts around 6:30am and ends around 8:30am and then starts again around 3pm and has lasted as late as 10pm. My furbaby will panic for all of it. Now she likes to find paper or clothes and tear them up. She has torn her nails scratching. She found my wrapping paper and destroyed it. All my shopping bags that I save she has destroyed. She has torn clothes, she rips up the carpet, all my Christmas decorations are in plastic bins because she tore the boxes holding them. She seems to seek out something she can destroy. She has wee-wee pads in the kitchen because she needs to go when we sleep. Now she uses them whenever instead of asking to be let in the yard and for the past few weeks has been peeing where ever she wants to. Yesterday I took her outside 5 times and she still peed in my living room twice and once on her wee wee pad, not to mention the pile of crap I found next to the pee but she barely does anything outside.

Please someone help me. She has been trained for years and yet for the past few months is getting progressively worse. Yelling at her does nothing, she knows she is doing something wrong and hides and does it again. Increasing how many times she goes out does nothing she just holds it and goes inside and I don't know how to stop her panic attacks as the methods of soothing and swaddling her that use to work no longer do anything. Please any advice is welcome.


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Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 11:02 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

I would complain to management, but also look into a vet trip. Maybe there are some anxiety meds that your pup can take as needed? My cat is getting up there in age as well (she is turning 12 in Sept) and I just don't play around with her health, be it physical or mental. I NEED her alive as long as possible.

[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 11:03 PM, May 16th (Thursday)]


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

How long has this been happening?

If it is new bahavior a talk with your vet may be in order. She could be loosing her hearing..(my golden did that) and it frightens her when she 'feels' the noises rumbling.

have you tried a thunder shirt? /some friends swear by them.

Hope you find something that works and soon.

Hugs,

K


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

Hugs to both of you. Have you talked to your vet? They have anti anxiety meds for pets. Might be a place to start.


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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

I will be taking her to the vet in the next couple weeks. I feel like her eyes need to be looked at and her teeth need to be cleaned too...I hope they can help her.

As for talking to management it is a 3 family house and my landlady lives above us. I need to speak to her about the noise. Its her, her husband, her mom, her 3 grown sons, her son's wife and her grandson...so loud all the time and it used to be so quiet. Thanks for the advice guys.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, May 16th (Thursday)

Maybe some white noise would help make the sounds from upstairs less sharp? We have an air purifier that is kinda loud but consistent... when it runs the dogs don't hear the noises (cars, neighbors) that usually make them bark.

It's quite peaceful, even with the humming of the fan.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, May 17th (Friday)

Unagie, if this is a new or worsening behavior, she may be sick. She may have something as simple as a UTI, and just doesn't feel good, so the things that normally bother are much worse.

She is older so she may in fact be losing her sight (many dogs get cataracts) or losing her hearing and that can make them very panicky. I had to have antianxiety meds for my first golden after a tornado went by our house while we were away. First it was just wind that bothered him, but as he got older more things made him anxious. (he had also had significant sight loss). The meds helped tremndously.

Lastly some animals get dementia just like people, and that can make them do all kinds of crazy stuff. Some of it can be managed, some not so much.

((((to your furbaby))))


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osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, May 17th (Friday)

I echo what everyone has said about the vet visit. That should be the first check whenever a pet changes behavior like this.

I also wonder - does she have a "safe" place to go? I'm more used to cats than dogs these days, but most animals have the same instincts when they are afraid - to hide. When our cats get startled or afraid, they go under the bed. I'm wondering if some of the behavior you're seeing isn't her trying to find someplace to hide where she feels safe, and she can't find one.

I don't know how big she is, but is it a possibility for you to get something or set up something where she could "hide"? Thinking in terms of my cats - aside from under the bed, they have a "condo" at the bottom of their scratching post, and also a small teepee-style bed. The idea is that it should be something with only one opening that she can go into and know that nothing can come at her from behind/above, and she can guard the entrance.

If you have a crate for her, this would likely work - but I'd try also covering it with a blanket or something to make it feel more enclosed. Another thought would be a box big enough for her with only an opening just big enough for her to get into it.

I'd also make sure there is padding on the bottom of it so she doesn't get vibrations from the floor.

Definitely talk to the vet about her behaviors, especially the change in where/when she urinates/defecates. But it wouldn't hurt to try giving her a "safe" (from her perspective) place to hide like this too.


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