SurvivingInfidelity.com Forums
Divorce/Separation
User Topic: 14 hours of no contact. I can do this.
Faithful w/Love
Member
Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, May 17th (Friday)

Man this is hard but I can do this. First 24 hrs is the hardest.

I hate this but I can do this. He tossed me that quick and I need to remember that no matter what my heart says. NC NC NC.
I want to yell and scream but for what. It is over!

Just please be there SI. It will be the first weekend alone in a LONG time. Ill keep busy however.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!

Posts: 2661 | Registered: Aug 2011
FaithFool
Member
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, May 17th (Friday)

It is very difficult but with a good strategy you can pull through.

Been there, that's for sure...

Nothing wrong with yelling it out. Give yourself a set time to do it and then go do something else.

Exercise lots. Walk, ride, gym, yoga, whatever makes you feel good. Knock yourself out with endorphins and you'll sleep better.

Big hugs. You can do it!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17165 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
devistatedmom
Member
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, May 17th (Friday)

You can do this!

DON'T take your phone from room to room with you.

DO turn the sound off on it.

Anytime you start to think about him, do 20 push ups, jump on the treadmill, take the dog for a walk, clean something!

Post here anytime you want instead!

You can do it!


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5373 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
nolight
Member
Member # 32785
Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, May 17th (Friday)

It's hard but it's worth it so dont give in!! Thing about how hollow you would feel once contact had been made anyway...

Posts: 464 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
Sue1964
Member
Member # 37057
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, May 17th (Friday)

It is so hard me and mine both having problems not texting each other but now the days apart are getting longer.

Posts: 287 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Uk
jo2love
Moderator
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, May 17th (Friday)

(((Faith)))

You can do this. I believe in you. If you want to reach out to him, type what you want to say here instead.


Posts: 33938 | Registered: Mar 2011
Nature_Girl
Member
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, May 18th (Saturday)

Be the Little Engine That Could. I think I can! I think I can! And before you know it, an hour has gone by, then half the morning, then half the day...

You can do it!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9313 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
nutmegkitty
Member
Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, May 18th (Saturday)

You CAN do this.
We will be here for you. Post here if you have the urge to contact him.


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2570 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
sunshine226
Member
Member # 38851
Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, May 18th (Saturday)

NC is tough sometimes, and other times, it might be hours when you realize you havent even thought about contact them

It CAN be done, I broke NC a few times, but i keep trying, I wont give up

Stay busy, do something, anything to take your attention away from making contact


Me-BS (44)
Him-WS (47)
DDay 1/1/2012, common law for 22 1/2 years when he began A in September 2011
Status: moving on without him

Posts: 234 | Registered: Mar 2013
nowiknow23
Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, May 18th (Saturday)

How are you doing, FwL? Sending you tons of strength.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


Posts: 24437 | Registered: Aug 2011
Nature_Girl
Member
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Thinking of you, hoping you're able to find something to keep your mind busy and forward thinking to a new future.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9313 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Topic Posts: 11