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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Last night he went crazy and assaulted my kids and me during my sons ball game. I'm in shock right now.

Who is this man? He is not the man I loved, married, and built a beautiful family with. He is a complete stranger to me. And a scary one at that.

He was arrested for DV since we are married. In our state it's mandatory, but there was plenty of evidence anyway. I have ugly bruises on my arms and a swollen elbow from him throwing me into a fence.

I can't believe this. I am in shock and haven't slept yet. My children are completely traumatized and slept with me, afraid he would show up at our house.

The judge ordered a protective order, but I don't think it covers my kids yet. Still working on getting all the details straight.

I hate this. I am very sad and disappointed that he has resorted to violence against me and the kids- and in front of all those people. How is this real? He was supposed to be my protector, not this monster he has become. And now I'm mad that he has hurt my children like this.

I am waiting to hear about when he is released. He'll probably get out today on bond. Just want him to get help and leave me alone.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Oh my god, PR! Thank god you were in a public place with plenty of witnesses!
(((((PR and kiddos))))
You are your children's protector now. Do whatever you have to do.

FTG...may someone make him his bitch while he's waiting to post bond.


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TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Oh my God!!! (((PR and kids))). What makes them turn into the monsters they do is beyond me. Maybe this will be his wake up call that he totally F#$%ed Up and needs help. Just keep you and your kids safe and away from him. Make sure you are not alone if you can. Have an escape plan in place with your children. (((HUGS)))


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WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
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dmari
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Oh no!! No no no no!! What the fuck? I am relieved you are alive and your children are alive! I don't know what to say. Shit. I wish there was more I could do or say. I am so sorry you and your children were traumatized by this monster. Hugs hugs hugs!!


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((((PurpleR and kids))))))

So sorry to read this. Keep yourself and your kids safe from him. Glad that you're okay. This is awful.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

OMG! PR - I am so very sorry you and your children were put through such a traumatic incident.

Stay safe. Keep your guard up. Press forward in every way possible to ensure that you are all ok.

((((((PR & kids))))))


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((PR))) I am SO sorry to hear this. Keep yourself and the kids safe, and please keep us updated - we are all very concerned for you.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((PurpleRose and kids)))

I am so sorry. Please notify your childrens' school so they are aware of the situation. Stay safe. Sending you strength.


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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

I believe you need to insist on the protective order being effective for your children as well. I'm sure he will pull out all the stops with apologies to get you to drop the charges but if he will do this once, he will do it again and it might escalate to something worse. There have been enough news reports of people killing their spouse and children in the news to make me leery of anyone who would become violent like that. Don't drop this. Next time, it might not end with bruises.


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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

((((Purplerose))))

I am sorry. I hope you and your children are afforded every protection and justice.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Reading this has made me feel quiet. Scary quiet. Like the kind of silent quiet before a storm.

Are the locks changed on your house? Garage door codes changed or the doors unplugged? Don't leave your garage door opener in your vehicle(s). Do you have magnetic alarms on your doors & windows? They're cheap & simply glue into place. Do your children know about calling 911? Have you rehearsed exit plans in case someone breaks into your home & attacks you? Do your kids know where to safely run/hide/get help if you cannot do it for them?


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Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
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Together 20 years
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Jayne Doe
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

PR - first of all - I am sending you & your kids hugs, lots of hugs.

Do you have anywhere you can go? Family? Friend?? Anywhere to get out of there??

Someone else posted you should let their school know. I AGREE!!!

Stay safe sweety, stay safe!


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S 11/11, D final 1/14.

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

As of right now he is still in custody. They will let me know if/when that status changes.

He has been increasingly passive aggressive lately. I really don't post much because he is reading here, so I just give support instead of asking for it now. Part of his escalated PA behavior is due to the fact that I am moving out of our marital home.

The kids and I move at the end of the month (not news to him). I'm pretty sure he is pissed about my NB, based on his recent ridiculousness. Last night was just a complete explosion of his lack of control over me and my decisions any more.

We are safe and have a flight plan should we need it. I've got an enormous network of friends in my large neighborhood (I teach here) and we already have multiple offers of places to go should I feel unsafe at a moments notice.

I am sore and shaken today, but looking forward to moving on. I really don't understand his PA or his anger, and certainly not this level of anger. I can only control me, so I will continue on my path where I do the right thing, keep all of my kids healthy and safe, and move forward with my divorce.

It took him 4 months to sign the temporary orders. I don't get it. This is what he wanted - divorce from me. He's getting that and I get assaulted!??!

Sorry I'm rambling. Wonder what his "proud parents" must be thinking now?? The fact is, he has made a grave error here, and his assault charge will follow him forever.

Like I said before, I am mostly sad about this. He really was my KISA, and I deeply loved him. Now I grieve the man he was, as that man is dead and gone to me forever after this.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Yes, the schools already know(even on Saturday) as I teach at my sons school and have tons of friends at my daughter's school. No worries there.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

So sorry to hear this PR. Prayers for you and the kids.

Get proactive: windows and doors, and bug spray is a good mace substitute.


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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((PR)))

hang in there. You sound very strong and calm. Don't feel crazy or afraid to ask for help if you have a moment of weakness or fear or any PTSD symptoms. The body's reaction to trauma and attack can be delayed.

I am proud of you and I am sorry this happened to you!!!

Super huge (((hugs))) and peace to you and the kids.


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doggiemom12
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

wow - he sounds very dangerous. It will only get worse the closer you get to leaving. Any way you can leave now while he is in jail? That would probably be safest. Hope he does not have a weapon.

Take care of yourself.


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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

His bail is rather large, and the officer who called me said he won't be getting out until he pays the bond. Since I know he doesn't have 2 nickels to rub together, I'm fairly confident we are ok for now with him in jail.

The protective order was granted. He cannot come within 200 yards of me, cannot contact me or my family member in a harassing or threatening manner, and is prohibited from coming to my house.

Not that I am naive enough to believe violent men always follow a PO, but as long as he's behind bars I am ok and safe. When he's released I will evaluate our situation.

My dad will be flying out to stay with me in a few days ( don't want specifics posted). Thank you for the support my friends.. All of your PMs mean a lot to me!!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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courageous
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

That is so horrible! I am sorry that he did that to you. With passive aggressive people a lot of the things they do/ get angry about doesn't make since.

Sounds like he is out to punish you....please stay safe.


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((PurpleRose)))

Thinking of you and I'm so glad that he'll be behind bars for a while yet and that your dad is coming out.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

This is horrible. Just horrible. I'm so sorry you and your children had to subjected to violence. I'm stunned.

Please do everything you can to stay safe and know that we are all thinking of you.


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ExWH - "that one"
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Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((PR))) Stay safe. Hopefully your stbx will end up in an anger management class as a result of this. Passive-aggressive people really have poor coping skills when it comes to anger, and when the person they've used as the outlet for their anger stops playing the game, they often don't have any way to express their anger, except by eruption.

The only time I was ever scared of ex was during the divorce. I had finally changed the locks on the house so he couldn't keep walking in whenever he wanted (he had been gone for over 5 months at this time.) The next time he came to the house, and couldn't get in was not pretty. The anger was radiating off him, and he kept clenching his fists and rocking back and forth onto the balls of his feet. I seriously thought he might hit me, and I couldn't for the life of me figure out how it could have gotten to that point between the two of us. It still makes me sad to think about it.


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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

I am absolutely stunned.

For all of their POS wayward behaviour this kind of thing is a whole other bucked of fucked up.

Violence towards his children? Yet another bucket of fucked up.

Last night was just a complete explosion of his lack of control over me and my decisions any more.

Absolutely - I'm so glad you see that. Now that you see what he is capable of you know just what to do.

He has just fucked himself royally.

I am so sorry you and your children had to go through this. So very sorry.

What a fucking monster.

(((((PR)))))


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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((PR)))

that's all i can think of. i'm stunned


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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Default  Posted: 11:22 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Hugs from me too.

I usually imagine this type of violence to take place behind closed doors. The fact that he did this in front of so many people is really pretty scary. Talk about losing control of yourself. I don't think anger management is going to be enough. I hope the PO continues for a very long time, if not indefinitely..

Lots of healing hugs to you.. Will be thinking of you and praying for your safety.. ((((PR))))

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 11:27 PM, May 18th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((hugs to you and your family)))


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Default  Posted: 2:04 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

(((PR))) That is really scary, and I am so, so sorry.


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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 4:23 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Here we are, 4am, and the kids have made me check the doors again. They are sleeping with me again.

He was released last night and they are both aware.... This is just so unbelievable. If I start to really think about it for too long I break down, it's simply devastating to try and process this.

I was never afraid of my husband. I never feared for my life, my safety. In fact just the opposite was true. I knew he would protect me- protect US- no matter what. He is a strong man and I felt safe with him.

And now I'm reduced to this?

Worried for my kids? Scared to bits at every noise because the kids are so jumpy? This is not how my life was supposed to be.

I am tired of saying, "How could he______?" and each time I fill in the blank with something worse than the last time I asked myself the question!!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 5:13 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Oh PR, please stay safe. Can you go stay with someone, or family until you can get to your new place?

I can't imagine how scary this is, now that he is released.

((PR))

[This message edited by Bluebird26 at 5:14 AM, May 19th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 5:52 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Oh PR, I am so sorry for you and your kiddos

Please please PLEASE ask your local police to drive by your house from time to time - they WILL if you ask. They might do it anyway, given what's going on, but DO ASK.

I know you're doing everything you can to keep yourself and your babies safe. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

{{{PR}}}


XOW.

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jackie89
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Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

PR thinking of you too.

We all think sometimes that we are in horrible situations, but until something like this happens, where your safety and the safety that your kids should be able to feel is taken away from you in a moments notice.... that is just something else.

Praying for your family.


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Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

(((((PurpleRose and kidlets)))))

Laura


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

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Default  Posted: 6:30 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

PurpleRose,
I never post in here, but I really wanted to give you and your kids a hug.

(((PurpleRose and kids)))


Take up your space (and do it well).

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 6:55 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Holy moly. Please stay safe. This kind of situation has always crossed my mind...my EH losing control.

How are your kids??


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WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

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neverbeokay
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

I just wanted to also offer my support and hope you and your kids stay safe.

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Thanks for all the supportive words. My friends are so great- they are all checking on us constantly and making sure we are ok.

Last night was tough for the kids, and I'm so glad they finally fell asleep and are still sleeping. Their minds are running on overdrive right now I guess.

The kids both drive to and from school with me, so it's all good there. My daughter catches the bus to her school from MY school, but my principal has offered to take her in the morning so she doesn't have to be waiting for the bus outside even for those few minutes.

My elbow is feeling pretty jacked, and I don't know if it was adrenaline or what - but I barely even noticed the injury until late yesterday. I mean the bruises are there, big ugly ones, but it was numb I guess. Now it's tweaked and hurts when I move it so I'm getting it checked out today instead if waiting until I can see my reg doc tomorrow.

Add that ER bill to the list of things I shouldn't be paying for!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

So sorry that he did this to you and your kids

I sent you a PM about soaking your elbow in Epsom salt, or your whole body in it to get rid of the soreness and pain.

Stay safe.


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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Im so sorry.


((((((((((PR and kids))))))))))


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M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

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Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

(((PR)))

Hang in there. Let the community of caring support you! Kudos to your principal for the offer and DO TAKE her up on it. Let the greatest number of eyes be on alert. Plus, it helps to highlight for the kids that there are lots of good people in the world too at a time when it can all look so scary.

Be sure to document the injury before treatment.


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DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Can't stop thinking about you and your kids. I'm relieved to hear that you have support rallying around you. Stay alert and safe, honey.

(((((PR & kids)))))


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-Hayley Williams


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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Omgosh, I am so sorry. That is horrible.


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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

(((PR)))

I am so glad you have such a supportive network around you and a PO. Maybe I missed it but did it include the children? I truly hope it does cover them also.


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Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

I'm so sorry-- sending you prayers and positive thoughts. I'm glad that you're not alone and that his horrific actions were committed in front of many witnesses. Stay safe.

(((PR and kids)))


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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

((Pr))

It is awful. How did it ever come to this? I will never understand them.


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VeryUncertain
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Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

PR, that's terrible. I am so sorry. I'm with ButterflyGirl...the fact that it was out in the open is particularly scary.

Stay safe.


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2 beautiful, precious daughters: 4 & 2
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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

My kids are so jumpy.

The doorbell rang tonight and my son peeked at the door and freaked out because he thought it was his dad. He came running saying MOM!! I think it's dad! It's a grown up and looks like dad!! (Our door has frosted glass)

I grabbed my phone, locked the kids in my room and went to see. It was our new neighbor, thank god, but I felt a huge rush of emotion and lost it after opening the door. I bet she thinks I'm a freak.

I hate this. My son came down from his bath to show me marks on his arm that look just like mine- a line of fingerprints on his bicep. :( damn it. I'm so angry.

My poor baby. This is just so wrong.


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

(((((PR)))))

Just sending you love and strength. It's a whole new level of crazy, and I'm so sorry you and the kids having to go through it.


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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

I'm sure you've probably already done this but make sure you take pics of all yours and the kids injuries. It'll help with the VPO.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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keeponkeepingon
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Member # 32935
Default  Posted: 3:45 PM, May 20th (Monday)

PM sent to you and lots of love.


"I know you and you know me and I know you can see. So help me get my way back to you"

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: On the corner of Grey St at the end of the world
crazyblindsided
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Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, May 20th (Monday)

((((PurpleRose & kids))))

My heart just breaks for you and your kids. May you all rise above this and find peace.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
jjsr
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Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, May 20th (Monday)

I don't normally post in this forum but wanted to say I hope you and your kids are safe. Sending you all good thoughts


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1617 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, May 20th (Monday)

This is just so wrong.
Yes, this is categorically and completely wrong and very fucked up - but what matters most right now is that you and your kids are safe. ((Hugs)) We're all thinking about you my friend.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4470 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
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