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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, May 18th (Saturday)


In Sept my senior high school DD decided to go off anti-anxiety meds without any medical supervision. She had the worst of all worst reactions... A full manic psychotic break in school.

Her BFF since kindergarten next door neighbor turned her back on my child. Everyone in her group of friends followed suit. I have watched her put on 30 pounds, break out in cystic acne and cry everyday.

In the past few months she has rallied! She kept calling the ExbFF and begging her to forgive! ( forgive for what??) Recently she told me that she has nothing to be sorry for and the ExBff should apologize to her for not being there.
You go my girl!

But last night was senior prom.
She was not asked.

I know down the road this will not matter as much but to watch your child in pain and sobbing.


Sucks!


There is life on the other side of hell.

Posts: 1462 | Registered: Mar 2004
cayc
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Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

I'm sorry your daughter is hurting. High school "friends" can be so cruel.

I'm glad she has you in her corner. A loving mom is an awesome thing to have to navigate those tough times.


BS 45, WH 38
M 8 years, together 10
Real DDay 10/07/11
Too many OW to count.
D final on 6/21/12
You have to walk away from the past in slow motion as it explodes behind you, like in a John Woo movie.

Posts: 2782 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

((((rising and dd)))))


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

Hugs to you an DD. No matter what happens to us, when our child it hurting it's a million times worse.

I hope that she can get to a place of comfort and peace.


For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

(((((rising))))) (((((((DD))))))



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4002 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

(((((Rising and DD)))))


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 6:22 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

((Rising/dd))


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

(((Rising and DD)))

I'm so sorry. Your DD deserves friends with good hearts. Not this sad excuse for people. Please give her a huge hug for me.




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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

huge, huge hugs to your DD, and to you as well. That former BFF was a real sh*t, but it hurts terribly regardless.

In the past few months she has rallied! She kept calling the ExbFF and begging her to forgive! ( forgive for what??) Recently she told me that she has nothing to be sorry for and the ExBff should apologize to her for not being there.

She is on the right track! The 'friend' may be ignorant of mental health issues and possible medication-related issues, so in that regard a brief explanation might be in order. However, so would a statement like, "the way you treated me after all our years of friendship really hurt me".

I'm so sorry your DD was hurting so badly. I'm with you: down the road the prom doesn't amount to a hill of beans, but in the moment, it matters a LOT. It can feel like being publicly branded "a loser". I wish her all good things in the future and much success (a.k.a. The Best Revenge). Sounds like she's got a strong spirit and that will serve her well in life.


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

Posts: 3767 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
incredulous
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

((((((rising and DD)))))

I know how heart-breaking it is when our children are sad. It sounds like your daughter is very smart. Someday, as you said, she'll recognize that senior prom means nothing.

For both your sakes, I hope she continues to rally, and that day comes sooner rather than later!

((((hugs))))


me: BW, now 52;
DD now 16 (adopted by me as single mom, so XWH was "Dad")
married: June, 2005, together since July, 2002
d-day: 10/21/07;
Divorced July, 2008 and he never looked back...

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