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WhatHaveIDone??
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

So yesterday OM appearently tried to call my BH. Numbers are all blocked, so BH didnt answer the call but he said he knew it was OM. I am hald way around the world for work, so I received a text message from BH telling me of the attempted contact and asking if I have been in playing him for the last 3 year. I havent had any contact with OM since the last time BH and I called him together 3 years ago and I re-assured BH of that. There has been no attempt of contact since then either. Being as far away as I am doesnt help as all we can do is text and briefly call.

BH was pissed, naturally, that after 3 years he shows back up again, that he is never going to go away. I just feel sick. I have hoped and prayed that we would not try to contact either of us. R has been going well, we just passed the 3rd antiversary of DDay last week. We are starting to heal and move forward and how this.

This sucks. It is totally the result of my actions and my decisions and once again, they are wreaking havoc on BH. I can't wait to get home, give him a big kiss and tell him how much I love him.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

That really sucks. How long until you get home? Is there anything you can do for him in the meantime. Being gone and having this happen can be a HUGE trigger, even 3 years out.

I'm sorry you both have to deal with this. Let him know you want to deal with it as a team and that will hopefully help him to feel less alone in his own head.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

Numbers are all blocked, so BH didnt answer the call but he said he knew it was OM.

Just curious, how did he know it was the OM? Is it possible that your BH was just triggering?

If it was an actual attempt to contact you or your BH, a restraining order might be needed. That seems obsessive, especially after all this time.


Me (BS)-45, WW-43
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
M - 18 years, 4 children
Reconciling

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WhatHaveIDone??
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

So he called again today and BH answered. Apparently he asked for me in a attempt at a woman's voice, then owned up to being him when BH said he knew who it was. BH told him to f*** off and never call again. OM sounded drunk and said BH ruined his life.

I just want to throw up. BH didnt ruin his life he did along with me. BH had nothing to do with it!

I will be home in the next day and I am very much looking forward to getting back to BH. He seems to be handling it as well as can be expected, but I still wish I was there instead of here......


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Mrs Panda
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, May 23rd (Thursday)

He was using a woman's voice? What a tool. Proof that we, as FWSs, don't exactly have great judgement when we handpick our APs.

I am sorry you and LHAP are hurting, and wish u a happy reunion soon!


Me-41 FWW Him-45BH
M 13years. Reconciled.
DDay#1 Nov 2008 (OM2)
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Confessed to OM 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut

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WhatHaveIDone??
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, May 23rd (Thursday)

Mrs Panda-

You hit the nail on the head! AP is a complete POS. I just hope he leaves us alone!


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