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LoveActually
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Member # 31030
Happy  Posted: 9:49 AM, May 24th (Friday)

Four years ago today I found out my husband had been having a year long emotional/physical long distance affair with a stranger he had met at a bar while away on business. Although my d-day is the 29th of May, it will always be the Friday night before Memorial Day weekend. I can't believe that four years has passed. In some ways it's been a blur and in some ways it seems like a lifetime. The pain and road to healing has been the hardest thing I have ever faced. Even now, as many of you here, I have good days and bad, but mostly good now. The universe has presented me with a true gift for today. This day for the last three years meant "that day" the day my heart was smashed and my life was changed forever but not anymore. Tonight my beautiful daughter graduates from high school with honors. Four years ago tonight I was crying tears of agony from a broken heart. Tonight I will be crying tears of joy and pride. D-day doesn't get to own this day anymore--my daughter and her accomplishments now over shadow this day forever. I just want to say thank you to everyone here that has helped me along the way over the last few years. Your stories and your courage to share your experiences and knowledge has helped me grow, learn and heal more than you will ever know.


BS (Me)
WS (Him)
D-Day 5/29/09
Married 11 yrs, together 16 yrs

Posts: 783 | Registered: Jan 2011
libertyrocks
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Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, May 24th (Friday)

AW, congrats!! So happy for you. Can't wait to be in your shoes one day...


Me-BW 36. STBXH-35,Recovering Alcoholic, M6yrs T13. Boys 2 & 4 1/2.
DDay #1 Nov,2012. 1 1/2 year false R & TT. 10 OW PA's 1LTA (W lied to) 3 years.
S Nov, 2013 again Jan,2014
Filed for D Feb,2014.

Posts: 962 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
ms521
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Member # 12008
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, May 24th (Friday)

That is the happiest thing I can think of!! Congrats to your daughter, and enjoy the new meaning associated with the day. How wonderful!!


Madhatters.
Me: FWW (STA 2002), now a BW.
Him: FWH (OW1: 2006-2007), now just WH (OW2: 2010-2013)

I will never stop trying... because when you find 'the one' you never give up. (Cal Weaver)


Posts: 429 | Registered: Sep 2006
keeponkeepingon
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Member # 32935
Default  Posted: 12:31 PM, May 24th (Friday)

Congratulations LoveActually!

That makes me so happy to hear. I am struggling with our first anniversary and antiversary of DDay fast approaching. This gives me hope.


"I know you and you know me and I know you can see. So help me get my way back to you"

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: On the corner of Grey St at the end of the world
Bellecatprincess
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Member # 38902
Default  Posted: 12:34 PM, May 24th (Friday)

This is awesome....Thank you it gives me hope.


D-Day #1 3/21/2013
D-Day #2 5/24/2013
Me BS 38
Him 37
OW 30 (8 months w/the SL*T) found out 5/24/13 more like 15 months
M 17 yrs (5/27/2000)
Together 20 years
2 sons(18,17)
D will be final 6/21/2013 nothing left to save

Posts: 58 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Colorado
ladya
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Member # 29184
Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, May 24th (Friday)

Congrats to you and your daughter. Enjoy the moment and take plenty of pictures. :)


Me:BS married 29 yrs.
5 kids

Time really does heal.
EA D-Day May 2008
PA D-Day May 7,2010 (same A)


Posts: 885 | Registered: Jul 2010
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, May 24th (Friday)

Thanks so much for sharing, LoveActually. I am so happy for you that you will be able to replace the negative with this positive event. Woot woot!

Congrats to your daughter!


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9837 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
LoveActually
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Member # 31030
Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, May 24th (Friday)

Sniff...Sniff...thanks you guys!


BS (Me)
WS (Him)
D-Day 5/29/09
Married 11 yrs, together 16 yrs

Posts: 783 | Registered: Jan 2011
SoVerySadNow
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Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, May 24th (Friday)

Ths is wonderful! Congrats to your daughter (and the whole family). Enjoy!


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
DixieD
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Member # 33457
Default  Posted: 5:13 PM, May 24th (Friday)

Yah! Congrats LA and family. Celebrate this new day.


Growing forward

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jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, May 24th (Friday)

That is wonderful!! Congrats!

Posts: 36032 | Registered: Mar 2011
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, May 24th (Friday)


BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2647 | Registered: Aug 2012
OptimisticWife
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Member # 36587
Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, May 25th (Saturday)

Thanks for sharing. I hope you all have a fantastic day!!

Posts: 190 | Registered: Aug 2012
wantingtotrust
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Member # 6313
Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, May 26th (Sunday)

Wow yoor post brought tears to my eyes. I am so happy that you can replace such a horrible day with a beautiful memory! Thank yoiu for sharing!

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