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mamak
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Member # 35969
Angry  Posted: 11:56 PM, May 25th (Saturday)

My WH is away from a little while to care for his mother (who has recently been diagnosed and is a two time cheater herself), he won't be home for a while unfortunately....

So throughout the day he was texting me how much he misses me, misses cuddling with me, etc. He went on to do the same when we were talking tonight. The thing is.....I know he is trying to keep our connection going but the romantic talk....it triggers me....he talks/texts sweetly to me and all I remember is what I read him writing to her. None of it makes me feel special....I hate him (and her) for ruining this....I feel like I can't even have a romantic convo with my husband on the phone without comparing it to OW....

Things like this just make me want to throw in the towel...


Me - 36, Him - 34
Married - 10 years
Three kiddos (oldest is mine) - 9, 10, 12
DDay #1 - 4/21/2012, Discovered 3 mo. EA (texts, phone calls, nude pics, sexting, 1 kiss)
R - 4/24/12. R going well

Posts: 279 | Registered: Jun 2012
Wonderingwhy11
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Member # 34782
Default  Posted: 2:26 AM, May 26th (Sunday)

The mind movies and thoughts of how they were together kill the positive feelings. I still think about what he must have been like with her and I get very angry. I then tell myself in order to continue our marriage I have to stop (or at least limit) the mind movies and thoughts of them together. I admit it is hard. As time goes on and WH continues to work on our M and I am seeing long term positive change it is getting better. But it is so hard and work.

Whenever WH is out of town I have the worst thoughts because his AP lived in another state and she met him when he traveled. Fortunately he does not have to travel for his job anymore.

Focus on the positive. Is he a better husband today? Is he working on your relationship? Is he trying to change is behavior and reactions?


Me BW - 46
Him WH - 53
Together 23 yrs, Married 18
DDay August 2011
2 kids - 13 and 15

Gotta love the life that we livin'


Posts: 376 | Registered: Feb 2012
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