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inconnu
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Flame  Posted: 1:10 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

I took a half day on Thursday and all day Friday off, so I could have a really long weekend. I came in to work this morning to find someone had gone through every stack of paper on my desk. Nothing was where I left it.

Checked with my boss to see if he had been looking for something he couldn't find. And he said he had been putting things on my desk, but not going through anything.

Turns out the office drama llama took it upon herself to "organize" my desk for me. She was just "being helpful" she says. passive aggressive, nosy-ass bitch!! she's lucky I didn't show her where she could stick those file folders of hers.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Oh no she didn't!


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luv_lost
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

take her stapler!


BW (me) 31
WH 33
DS1 8 yrs.
DS2 1 yr.

Anniversary 6/09/04
DDay 6/27/09
Wedding 3/15/12
DDay2 5/5/13

presently working towards...well i don't know anymore...


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Get a sentry turret:

http://www.thinkgeek.com/product/ee85/


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

I would've been livid


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DS - 12
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idkam
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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Grrr! Take her red & black pen....


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Afraid2LoveAgain
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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Just wanted to thank StillGoing--

I've wasted an hour and $100 on the ThinkGeek website.

End t/j


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StillGoing
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Well... I guess it's good I didn't link to Games Workshop then.


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abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Oh no! My desk is organized chaos... It would make me super angry if someone messed up my system.

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Oh no she didn't!

oh yes, she did. and then she spent the rest of the day pouting because I didn't jump with joy over the "nice" thing she did for me. or maybe it was because I was noticeably pissed off.

shit, even my boss mentioned that drama llama would have thrown a fit if someone did that to her desk. she doesn't even like it if we pick up stuff from the printer that she printed.

so I'm sure, somewhere in her P/A head and heart, it's all my fault for not understanding she was just trying to help.

thank god this day is over, and this week is a short one.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

It got so bad at my job that everything was organized into folders. I had about 10 of them packed to the gills that got locked in a drawer before I left. Every morning I'd take them out to my desk area and every night they got locked in my drawer. I got tired of people going through my work and losing my paperwork.


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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, May 28th (Tuesday)

Perhaps my room isn't a neat and organized as it could be, but damnit, I sure as hell know where everything is!! FTB!!


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Rollercoaster
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Default  Posted: 1:02 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Oh I'd be pissed! I don't work very neatly but I do know where everything is and I do have a system.


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Fireball72
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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I'm getting ready to return to my workplace tomorrow, and I have the same problem - I sit in a semi-public area, so all kinds of people that I DON'T KNOW are at my desk, all the time.

This time, before I went on vacation, I literally took everything on my desk and locked it up in my coat closet. There isn't even a piece of paper laying around. The worst thing that'll happen is that my computer will be turned off (another pet peeve of mine, but I can't lock that up too, heh).

Let's see them try and use the stamp pad all over my desk calendar now. (Yes, this really happened.)


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

If she's not a supervisor or directly involved in your job, I would make a complaint to HR. Otherwise, lesson learned--everything gets put away and locked up before a planned vacation.


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NotDefeatedYet
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Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

You need finger print dust. Put it in some key places when you leave, but wipe it off when you return. It's really hard to see, but if you get it on your oily hands, it turns black. Imagine the nosy office person with a big black ring around one of their nostrils they are completely unaware of.


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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

@ NotDefeatedYet:


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

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osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I would have to use a Jumpo Trainer hidden under some papers everytime I left my desk.

http://www.jumpotrainer.com

[This message edited by osxgirl at 4:01 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

so today I found some new stuff (from last Thursday afternoon after I left) in the middle of some of the papers I'd on my desk for weeks.

seriously, who the fuck organizes papers, puts them in a folder, but puts the new, urgent stuff in the middle?


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 4:43 AM, May 30th (Thursday)

I love the finger dust stuff. I say do it.

What baffles me on this thread is why it is okay for another person/people to go through you stuff. I thought that wasnt allowed...well, if someone else needed papers you had but that person would let you know but note or verbal.

Why didnt the boss tell drama llama to leave your desk alone and go do her own work? If she has time to "straighten" your desk she needs another project...or they dont need her.

Since she fouled up your work can you take her into the bosses office and let her know she needs to keep her hands off your work


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idiot85
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Default  Posted: 5:22 AM, May 30th (Thursday)

NotDefeatedYet- Ooh mate!! I want some of that finger print stuff!! Would it work at the top of paintbrushes- I come in and my paintbrushes are where I left them BUT with teeth marks!! People use them- chew them- put them back GRRRR!!!!

I'm loving how everyone feels your pain inconnu- people messing with your stuff- not acceptable!!


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courageous
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Maybe she wanted you to miss the deadline on those papers to make you look bad. Does she hate you?


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Does she hate you?

I don't think so, but she does like to make other people look bad so that she'll look better.

Oh well, the boss spoke to her about it, so I don't think it'll ever happen again. But I do wish I could be a fly on the wall tomorrow morning when co-worker gets to the office and sees what my desk looks like now. It was one of those days and at 5 PM I just walked away and left the piles right where they were. It's a freaking nightmare. She's going to be appalled.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Default  Posted: 9:53 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Slight T/J... Just thinking about people getting in your stuff and the potential for "revenge" reminds me of a situation my dad was in. He worked night shift in a prison infirmary. He had a desk that was his desk. His paperwork, his stuff was there. Everyone else had desks to use. But they decided his was the place to congregate and eat lunch, etc. His papers were misplaced several times...he sucked it up.

Then they started raiding his fridge and stealing his drinks. He would buy the little bottles of diet coke and keep a couple in the fridge. They started disappearing. So he decided that it was fargin' war.

He very carefully opened 2 of the diet cokes, drank a little out, then replaced the liquid with cascara sagrada. If you're not familiar with this product, look it up. It's an amazingly powerful stimulant laxative. It is so powerful that by the time you realize you need to get to the bathroom, you are already actively and explosively soiling yourself.

He's always said his biggest regret was that he wasn't there to see the carnage.

But no one ever touched his desk or his fridge again. Ever.


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Him, 40 (JMSSC)
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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 12:37 AM, May 31st (Friday)

^^^^

I had to share a space once before I got my own area. I used one drawer and it was packed. My folders were neat and rubberbanded closed. I went to look for my work one day and was told by the guy I shared the space with that he thought it was some old stuff of his and he tossed it in the shred bin. The shred bin is a huge bin with a lock that gets picked up for destruction every week. I had to unlock it, only supervisors had the combo, climb into it and look for my papers. I was still missing some when I gave up. Thats when I asked for a separate area with keys to lock my stuff up.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

Do not let others be your reference for who you see in the mirror.

Stop allowing people to hurt you, because you don't love you enough to walk away.


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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, May 31st (Friday)

She sounds like a real fucking hooker.

There is no place anymore for 'organizers'. I hope you told her "no need" from here on out.

I have a boy whose daddy works with us. The boy is nearly 27 and often fall alseep at work. He also makes more than me, WTF. So I photograph his naps, which mean nothing. BUT I texted my DD today - "mama needs a nap". And she texted back, "Why don't you just go to "X's" desk".

NOT RIGHT! LOL! But my DD does have a sense of humor!


BW, divorced: 03/09


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why2008
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, May 31st (Friday)

Turns out the office drama llama took it upon herself to "organize" my desk for me.

I've never heard of someone doing something like that... ever...

So fucking rude.


Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7

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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

Move her office to the basement & take away her red stapler!!!!


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Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

Shall we plan her demise? I suggest something slow and painful...

BTW, my room is a royal mess; my desk is just a high class mess and nobody would dare to mess with my chaos because I'll turn into Hulk


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