SurvivingInfidelity.com Forums
Divorce/Separation
User Topic: Brad Pitt is a doosh (ws marital re-write)
damncutekitty
Member
Member # 5929
Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

http://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/brad-pitt-confessional-esquire-interview-1904079

So Bradd Pitt did this recent major interview where he talked about all kinds of things, including the fact that he was on drugs the whole time he was married to Jennifer Aniston. In fact he pretty much blames Aniston for it, then goes on to say he Angelina Jolie helped him become a better person.


Newbies, when we talk about how the WS/AP rewrite their marital history, this is what we are talking about. When we talk about how the WS/AP need to perpetually fuel the drama with the BS because it fuels their shitty "relationships", THIS is what we are talking about.

Also, thank you Brad Pitt for inspiring me to torrent your new movie instead of paying to see it, you are a gigantic asshole.


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49482 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
ButterflyGirl
Member
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I completely agree with you on this. Re-writing the marital history, blaming Jen for his problems, treating Angie like some angel from heaven who "saved" him, etc.

But sorry to say, I'm still gonna swoon over him in Fight Club. Especially the scene by the van full of explosives where he rips of that purple jacket and exposes his chest

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 9:38 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)]


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2333 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
damncutekitty
Member
Member # 5929
Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I think his comments hit home for me because my XH was a heavy drug user and drinker during the marriage. I could imagine him saying the same crap. Like instead of being a real man and admitting the drugs made him a terrible husband, choosing to blame the marriage for the drug use. GRRR!


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49482 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
movingforward13
Member
Member # 38405
Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Sadly I still love Angelina. Don't care too much for Brad. I guess they are apart of the 3%.... Maybe because of the kids.


Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 640 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
Ingrid67
New Member
Member # 18495
Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Can't stand either one of them and would not pay to see any of their movies. Their affair makes them both ugly to me.

Posts: 8 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: Ohio
ButterflyGirl
Member
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Completely none of my business, and I really shouldn't assume about people I don't know, but I think they have an open marriage..

ETA: Make that "relationship" or whatever their status is..

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 9:37 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)]


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2333 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
damncutekitty
Member
Member # 5929
Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

IMO any "relationship" that started as an A is a farce.


Keep calm and carry on.

Posts: 49482 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Minneapolis
GabyBaby
Member
Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Can't stand either one of them and would not pay to see any of their movies. Their affair makes them both ugly to me.

Ditto.


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6540 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
solus sto
Member
Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I have a hard time working up much of a head of steam about the end of the Pitt-Aniston marriage. The rewrite rings true to me.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8848 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
reclaimingmyself
Member
Member # 27011
Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I have a hard time working up much of a head of steam about the end of the Pitt-Aniston marriage. The rewrite rings true to me.
This kind of makes me very sad since I know the ex told a lot of people a lot of lies about me and I am sure they think his rewrite is true and he is so lucky to be free from me.



Posts: 730 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Immersed in my happily ever after : )
Dreamboat
Member
Member # 10506
Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

The way he keeps dragging the M into the open to justify is actions is right out of the unremorseful WS hand book. He has been talking bad about the M for years, so typical of blamshifting. I find it interesting that he is STILL doing this 8+ years later. Meanwhile Jen has clearly moved on.

I can't stand Brangelina and will not watch anything either are in.


And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine

Posts: 17688 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: A better place :)
fraeuken
Member
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I was wondering too why he still talks about it after all these years and why in such a negative way, just to then turn around and say that Jennifer is a great person. Sounds like a desperate attempt to stay relevant and shows his lack of class.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Vulcanized
Member
Member # 33523
Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Doesn't he do this every time he's got a movie to promote?


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 766 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
suckstobeme
Member
Member # 30853
Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

It does make him look like such an ass. His ex wife says nothing about him and has moved on with her life. Yet, he still finds the need to publicly bash her and their marriage.

And Angelina Jolie is a jackass. Despite all of her humanitarian concerns, she's a very selfish person and looks like she makes no bones about getting what she wants at the expense of everyone else.

Neither one of them are relevant or classy.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

Posts: 2842 | Registered: Jan 2011
solus sto
Member
Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

This kind of makes me very sad since I know the ex told a lot of people a lot of lies about me and I am sure they think his rewrite is true and he is so lucky to be free from me.

My WH did, too.

I base my opinion of the Pitt-Aniston marriage on an interview they gave soon after they were married, when they both said they did not know if the marriage was forever, but it was for as long as it felt good.

At the time, I believed it to be a publicity stunt. I now think it was immature impulse. I think Jennifer Aniston likely became more invested than Brad Pitt.

But the fact is, he did what we wanted our WSs to do: he ended his marriage. And I think there were a lot of reasons for this that we don't know. Was his wife hurt? Of course, and that is terribly sad. But I just don't see the end of their marriage in black and white terms.

Celebrities get interviewed. They get asked what people want to read. They answer the questions. (Aniston has, indeed, spoken about him.)

I don't believe he's rewriting much, to tell you the truth.

I'm sorry. I know that he's the target of wrath for many BSs. I have been a BS for over 20 years, so it's not because I'm unsympathetic to BSs or sensitive to history rewrites. I was trashed for decades--without my knowledge. I get it. I know what it feels like to learn that everyone you know thinks you're something that doesn't even begin to resemble what you are----because a lying, cheating douche has told lies about you.

I just don't think that's what he's doing. I think that he perhaps has grown up. (And I also think he was somewhat unfairly vilified.)

[This message edited by solus sto at 3:30 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)]


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8848 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
nolight
Member
Member # 32785
Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

One thing I can never understand is how everyone completely ignores the fact that Anniston became an OW too. People love to hate angenlina Jolie over what she did but Anniston can have an affair and run off with someone else's part dr and everyone's cheering? I find her behaviour more deplorable as she still tries to maintain a poor, innocent victim persona.

Posts: 516 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
Pippy
Member
Member # 16482
Default  Posted: 4:42 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

This is what happens when 2 narcissists get together. They desereve each other.


nar·cis·sism
[nahr-suh-siz-em]
1. inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity. Synonyms: self-centeredness, smugness, egocentrism.

2. Psychoanalysis . erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development.


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


Posts: 9588 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
Crescita
Member
Member # 32616
Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

All the infidelity stuff aside, when someone faults others for their own life choices I have to roll my eyes. He's pretty much saying his personality is shaped by the flavor of the moment rather than any personal conviction. How weak and malleable. Why would he want to admit that?


“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
CallMeRed1
Member
Member # 36870
Default  Posted: 7:06 AM, May 30th (Thursday)

There's one thing noone else has mentioned yet. The media make things up, misquote and will basically do anything to have a "story".

Celebrities, and especially the huge Hollywood celebs aren't really like us. They live their whole lives in the media spotlight. It must be a total nightmare at times.

I'm not justfying anything, I just don't waste much of my time caring what "celebrities" do quite honestly.


D-Day 19 July 2012
Me - BS - 42
Status: Divorced

Posts: 187 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: England
Pippy
Member
Member # 16482
Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Remember the incident where Angelina stuck her leg out through her split dress skirt while presenting at the Oscars?

THAT was the true Angelina showing up. She's not the demure sainted madonna figure she pretends to be.

She's a publicity seeking egotistic narcissist,like the double mastectomy story. She loves the headlines and orchestrates them.

Brad says he won't do any love scenes with other women in movies anymore. Is he that insecure about their relationship?

[This message edited by Pippy at 3:49 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


Posts: 9588 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
silverhopes
Member
Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Gosh, I love coming to SI and finding people who understand. I hate Brangelina.

It would be different if he'd ever apologized. True, that's the sort of thing that should only be between them, but if he could start publicly talking crap about their marriage (and then backtrack later), suspiciously around the time his ex-wife gets engaged, then I think he could also stand to publicly apologize.

As for him leaving Jennifer Aniston, from what I've read, she left him, not the other way around. He "fell in love" with Jolie on the set, then he and Aniston took a vacation, and she pulled the truth out of him there. And then left him. She had to make the decision for him because he wasn't willing to be honest himself until she pushed him for answers. Who really knows if those are the facts or not, but if they were, then they are painfully similar to a lot of stories here.

I find Brangelina disgusting because of that whole thing. Like I said, it might be different if he apologized, showed some remorse. He didn't. And Trampolina Holie still grins like the cat who ate the canary. Not to mention, if the rumors are true, she was the OW to Billy Bob Thornton's previous relationship as well, when he was still with Laura Dern. So she's experienced at this.

Either way, it really shouldn't matter at all - they're celebrities, their lives are always on display - but they sure are a trigger. Unremorseful cheaters who appear to do about anything to get attention (really, if the world ignored them, they probably wouldn't know what to do with themselves), who the world "loves" because they're "hot" and are involved in international issues. Since the media won't stop talking about them, better to just turn off the TV.

ETA:

Anniston became an OW too.

She was? What the-? One more for the madhatter club.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 4:13 PM, May 30th (Thursday)]


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3905 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
wannabenormal
Member
Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

You know, I've always sorta thought that my XH and his OW would liken themselves to Brangelina and after reading that Esquire article, thought - they (or XH at least) surely does!

He tried to come off as all cool and deep and it's not her fault (but was)...it was just gross.

I didn't care for Brad much as a person before, but don't even more now. Even with 'Angie's' recent surgery struggles and all; they just seem so high and mighty, so above it all.

Fuck his opinion and fuck his movies.



Posts: 14389 | Registered: Jun 2008
newnormal
Member
Member # 21925
Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Im 99% sure that Angelinas mastectomy choice was medically driven. If so, that is the first time ive appreciated her speaking openly about breast cancer.

But the other 1% wonders if she just got a lift/ implant job because she looked like she needed one.


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
wannabenormal
Member
Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

While I get Angie's choice, now she wants her ovaries out. And I hear she's not attending her Aunt's funderal (aunt being the sis of her mother that also passed from breast cancer).

I don't know, just seems odd. She's in London for Brad's new movie and apparently they weren't super close, but THEY made the big deal about it...



Posts: 14389 | Registered: Jun 2008
Holly-Isis
Member
Member # 13447
Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, May 31st (Friday)

Never heard of Aniston becoming an OW either. This is what is found:

http://www.popeater.com/2011/06/14/jennifer-aniston-justin-theroux-heidi-bivens-other-woman/

He claimed "just friends" and we all know what that's code for.

I really can't stand it when a BS becomes an OP.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

Posts: 11229 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: Just a fool in limbo
Pippy
Member
Member # 16482
Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)

I don't doubt that Angelina's choice to have the mastectomy was medical.

What I am saying is the way she handled it is typical Angelina. 'Let's get as much publicity as we can out of this.'

I have no doubt that she is looking to be the next Mother Theresa.


I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.


Posts: 9588 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
LadyQ
Member
Member # 32847
Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)

I find it difficult to get my knickers in a knot over celebs. I figure their whole lives are lived in an alternate reality from mine, so it's not a shock when they turn out to be ow/om/WS.


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

Posts: 1650 | Registered: Jul 2011
ButterflyGirl
Member
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, June 2nd (Sunday)

He claimed "just friends" and we all know what that's code for.

Funny how they always forget to mention the "with benefits" part of their friendships..


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

Posts: 2333 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
debbysbaby
Member
Member # 32962
Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

That couple is a HUGE trigger for me. Poopsmear and OW/NW thinks she looks like her and once when I was getting the kids from their dads, I noticed one of those life sized card board props of Angie in their house (a tomb raider one). Kids told me it was so dad wouldn't get lonely missing her while she was away on business. Angie was supposed to be her.

[This message edited by debbysbaby at 2:29 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)]


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 880 | Registered: Aug 2011
Want2help
Member
Member # 20547
Default  Posted: 1:28 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Thread jack-

I noticed one of those life sized card board props of Angie in their house. Kids told me it was so dad wouldn't get lonely missing her whilshe was away on business. Angie was supposed to be her.

Oh... my... god...

That is the WORST case of soulmate schmoopiitis I have ever heard.

End t/j.

[This message edited by Want2help at 1:28 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)]


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
OC born 3/08
OC Adopted 2014

Reconciled


Posts: 2312 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: PNW
Random thoughts
Member
Member # 2959
Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Google Brad Pitt morphs into girlfriends.

He seems to pick up their identities while dating kind of weird.


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW

Posts: 1608 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey
Topic Posts: 31