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lostinlv
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Member # 31663
Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Hi all. :) Not sure if some of you remember me, but thought i'd pop in and update and check in on some of you and see how things are going. :)

I finally decided that I was DONE and in December asked STBX for a D. Woot! It will be final in about a week. YEAH!

He decided to leave his job here and move to Colorado with his girlfriend. Yep. I found out that the skank he supposedly had a "one night stand" with in 94/95 when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, he actually had at least a 2-3 year long steady relationship with, and they have been "off and on" since then!!! NINETEEN YEARS! Plus there were all the others as well... OY VEY!! I'm SO glad I finally got the guts to end it. What a douche.

I am moving to the Oregon Coast in about 2 weeks and am SO HAPPY!! Seriously - if I would have known how happy I was going to be without the asshat I would have done this a LONG time ago. I let fear control me. NO MORE.


me, BS-43
him,FWH-42
4 kids (22,20,16,12)
DDay#1 2/?/97 (A with COW in 1995- turns out it never really ended and they are now living together)
DDay#2 4/18/10 -LTA approx 12mos
DIVORCED!!


Posts: 786 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Las Vegas
dmari
Member
Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)


Love. Your. Post. Thank you for sharing and best wishes to you!!


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2271 | Registered: Oct 2012
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Congrats on taking control of your life, Lost!


Me - 42
SorryInSac (WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - Stick a fork in me...

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs

I edit often for clarity.


Posts: 6541 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
lostmommy
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Member # 33440
Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Congratulations! Sounds like your new beginning is a fantastic one!


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

Posts: 485 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: NY
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Lost! Holy Cats - now THAT's an update.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25777 | Registered: Aug 2011
tryingagain74
Member
Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

Awesome! Love it! Congrats!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3621 | Registered: Oct 2011
cayc
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Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

The thrill of D''ing and getting away from a philandering, manipulative con-artist. I know it well Awesome lucky you with the new move. I predict a fabulous NB for you and can''t wait to hear about it.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3124 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
tesla
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Member # 34697
Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4687 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
stronggirl72
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Member # 37293
Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, May 29th (Wednesday)

I am SO HAPPY for you. Its a great place to be, and you did it!!


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!


Posts: 154 | Registered: Oct 2012
lostinlv
Member
Member # 31663
Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, May 30th (Thursday)

Thank you so much, everyone... now to get all of my stuff sorted and packed for the move. Douchebag moved and left it up to me to sort out EVERYTHING here. Not sure why i'm surprised...


me, BS-43
him,FWH-42
4 kids (22,20,16,12)
DDay#1 2/?/97 (A with COW in 1995- turns out it never really ended and they are now living together)
DDay#2 4/18/10 -LTA approx 12mos
DIVORCED!!


Posts: 786 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Las Vegas
scotslass
Member
Member # 39204
Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Congrats lostinlv!

It's kind of bittersweet to have this new beginning.

I moved out of our marital home last summer and into a much smaller home and I am in the process of painting the interior of our home and planting a perennial garden.

One of the most enjoyable things for me is to pick my own color scheme for the interior and exterior!! I take my small pleasures where I can get them but I have to say I am so loving these "small" things.

Embrace your new life!!


3 wonderful children (sometimes!!)
18 ds
16 dd
14 ds
Me. - moving on and upward !!!

Posts: 102 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Texas
Beautymark
New Member
Member # 36952
Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, May 31st (Friday)

Hi lostinlv,

I sent you a private message about your move to OR.

Hope to hear from you. If I don't, good luck with everything and I hope you find what you are looking for.


Me-BS, early 40's
Him-fWH, early 40's
Married 8 yrs, 6-yr-old DD
DDay#1-November 2011 - one woman (for almost 5 years)
DDay#2-December 2011 - two more women (one lasting about 1.5yrs and the other lasting about 1 year)

Posts: 12 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: east coast
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