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SBB
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Flame  Posted: 11:29 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

Aaarrgghhh - 2x4 to me.

He sent me one of those sanctimonious "you are teaching our child to lie" emails because my 5 year old told a lie.

Complete fabrication - the hypocrisy was intended to bait me and I bloody well took it.

This part of his email made me laugh for those of you who recall my "Lower Muppet" thread.

http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=484659

Perhaps also, you could refrain from sending me your 'fuck you, I know it all' type responses such as 'noted'.....I'm very happy to never hear from you again and consider these emails one-way traffic.

That part was intended to bait me into responding simply because he told me not to.

I did start my response with "Noted" though.

I wish had stopped there.

Damn. Dammit. More ego kibbles for him. Back on the wagon for me.

F.T.G. Go back to being invisible already.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, May 31st (Friday)

The thread you sent the link to above was the FUNNIEST thing I've read in a long time. It really should be in the healing library.

I showed it to almost all my family, and they actually remind me to use one of those when dealing with STBX's texts and emails. For real, that was sent from the heavens, and I will be forever grateful for that.

My personal favorites?

Thank you = fuck you. I'm grateful you're not being a fuckwit for a nanosecond.

And

Agreed = fuck you. I suggested that a month ago.

It's pretty funny he actually figured one of them out *snicker*

Sorry you fell off the wagon. It happens to all of us. Just get back on and keep riding! You can do it!!

Oh yeah, and FTG!!!!


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, May 31st (Friday)

t/j

Actually, there are so many good ones in all 4 pages of that thread from above..

Hey mods! If I compile them for you, do you think they could be added to the healing library? While there seems to be a lot of great information in there for spouses trying to reconcile and what it takes to reconcile, there doesn't seem to be a lot of info on how to treat an unremorseful spouse.. Perhaps there could be some good tips and tricks added to help the members deal with this? Just a thought! Thanks!

end t/j


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ asurvivor

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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, May 31st (Friday)

That original thread was hilarious and full of awesome! It has completely new meaning to me now that I detached. There have been times where I want to say something in response to my STBX but I literally just say yep, nope, or okay and in my head I say what I really mean. Maybe this is some natural progression of things once you detach but I am so there. It's just so much easier to ignore them.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

I definitely feel better when I stick to the NC code...

I have to remind myself that not responding will mean he will disappear one day.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

Sucks, SBB.
Post that reply here next time...your humor, cutting wit and logic are wasted on that mother-fucker. But we get gems like "co-parenting with a lower muppet."
From a completely selfish point of view on my part, please, keep NC up!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Catwoman
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Default  Posted: 10:49 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

Silence is the biggest and loudest F-you you can say.

Cat


FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 25 and 22. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, June 1st (Saturday)

I haven't read the link yet, but one I get that raises the hairs on the back of my neck is, "Enjoy!!!!!!"

I can't stand that one anyway, but when it comes from he who causes all the pain, it is a multi-faceted insult.

Many thank you's come and also "Fine." Which really is just another four letter word that starts with F.

It's amazing how many ways the same word can be interpreted.

FWIW, I've been accused of "meddling", when I had the nerve to ask what DD's plans were after being told I had every right to know all about their visit and vice versa-it's in the decree!

But he was having a fit so decided I "meddled" and caused DD pain by asking her to keep her routine and have him not change more.

It feels kind of similar to SBB teaching the child to lie. Sigh.


Ashland 13

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A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, June 1st (Saturday)

No 2x4's are needed ... unless you want us to use them on him.. which would be useless. How do you beat some sense into somebody? I don't know.. but I really would like to try it one day.

Hugs,
K


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, June 1st (Saturday)

SBB, I didn't check the link to know whether it was to the *lower muppet* post or the *translation* post.....

BUT...I did say *damn* when he figured out what 'noted' meant.

Shit. I thought you said he was a *lower* muppet????


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, June 1st (Saturday)

@Gonna, Ha! I doubt it took more than a quick rub of his half a brain cell to work out that all interaction he attempts with me will get him a chuckle and a mental Fuck You.

I do wish OWUmpteen would keep her bitch on a leash. At least give the douche enough ego kibbles so he stops seeking them from me.

Gah! Funny as hell but I'm still annoyed at myself. I'll stick to "Noted" - he'll soon learn that this is as good as it gets for him.

Good idea Tesla - I'll post my response here instead. Better out than in as they say.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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