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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 2:46 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

I'm not sure where to post this so I figured Off Topic was best.

My cousin found out her husband was cheating on her at about the same time I did. We have been supporting each other. Talking occasionally. She lives in another state. We are the same age and grew up together.

I found out today that her WH came home from the store and found her dead. Her daughter says there are some missing medications. The anniversary of her DD was coming up. I hope it's natural causes but I have my doubts. My heart is breaking for her and her daughter.

This is so sudden and incomprehensible.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 3:02 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

(((falling)))

I'm so sorry. Saying a prayer for you and your cousin's family.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


Posts: 7779 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
TrustNoOne
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Default  Posted: 3:08 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

((((falling)))))

I'm so sorry for your loss.

It's only natural that you might draw parallels between you two. Know that while the pain you shared may be similar - if the missing medications lead to a tragic conclusion, that isn't YOUR outcome. OK?

My heart hurts for you.


Posts: 1320 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: SoCal
fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 4:11 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

Don't worry, TrustNoOne. I have no desire to die at all. I have very much to live for.

It breaks my heart that she might not have felt that way, too. She was a lovely, fun, in your face kind of girl. She was my sister's best friend. She has two children and parents she loved with all her heart and who loved her in return. I know she was devastated by her husband's actions but I didn't expect this. I hope it turns out to be natural causes, especially for those she left behind.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

(((Hugs)))

I'm so sorry to hear this. My heart is breaking for you and your family.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

Does everyone know about the infidelity in her life? Was she is a real R situation with her WH?

I'm sorry if this is painful, but this sounds like the beginning of a True Crime show to me. If it had been a secret, you might think about anonymously tipping off the police in her area.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

I'm so sorry.
{{{hugs}}}


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7685 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, June 1st (Saturday)

I'm so very sorry, falling. Keeping you and your cousin's family in my thoughts. (((((hugs)))))


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, June 1st (Saturday)

(((falling)))

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cass
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, June 1st (Saturday)

((((falling))))

That's awful. Sudden death is doubly difficult because shock and grief together makes it so much harder.

Holding you and her family in my thoughts.


DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!


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fallingquickly
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, June 1st (Saturday)

Thank you for your hugs. This is so hard to understand. She's so young.

Sad in AZ,
Yes, everyone knows about WH. He was very remorseful as far as anyone knows. She did not forgive him or even care about him much anymore. She was staying with him because she had worked too hard all her life for the life they had. My mother and I both think there might be something more to her death, but have no foundation for that.

The year mark was very hard for me. It's when I began to think there had to be more based on my WH's behaviors. A few months later I found out there was a lot more. I spoke to my cousin last week. She was really sad as was I. I'm sure they will do an autopsy to find cause of death.


Me-BW 50
Him-STBXWH

2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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