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Yakamishi
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Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Grrrrrrr. Had fight with WW. She had spent a week at her sisters shortly after D Day. I felt that her sister wasn't being supportive of the marriage. Saying things like, " you need to do what makes you happy." Instead of saying things like "do what you must to save the marriage you fucked up."

At any rate, we got into it and she storms off. Just like every time else. She runs. Hence her affair when she ran to another man.

Now all my anger and resentment is full tilt. Can't get the images out of my head. Friggin sick of this emotional roller coaster. I was never like this before. I used to have a thick skin, now I'm Mr sensitive.


Me: BH
Her: WW Mrs.yaka
Kids:4
Variouse clues to EA. WW promised it would stop.
D-Day of EA 9/13/2012 2:01PM found 2 yrs of text messages, confessed to EA
D-Day of PA: confessed on 9/22/12 11:53 PM. Worst moment of my life

Posts: 222 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Massachusetts
knight
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Member # 36859
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

I feel your pain.

Is your ww in IC? Doesn't seem like you will get anywhere if she continues to run every time there is conflict.

No wonder you are triggering. You probably can't feel safe with her running.

Sorry you're suffering.

[This message edited by knight at 7:38 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)]


BH 40s
fWW (her) 40s
D-day Aug 2012
M 16
kids - 3 beautiful ones, DD22, DD14, DS10

Always be yourself, but always be your better self. - Karl G. Maeser
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Dyslexic...please ignore my spelling.


Posts: 58 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Hell
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 11:36 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

That's really rough. FWH's best friend was telling him the same thing DURING the affair. His bf waited until the night before HIS wedding to apologize to me. Super bad timing, but at least he was sorry.

Your WW needs to understand that people with that attitude are not friends of your marriage, or your healing. Family or no. If her sister isn't helping her uphold her morality, she's not doing her any favors as a person.

I'm sorry... for the images and the triggers and everything.

(((Yakamishi)))


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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