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TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

But I put a stop to it before he continued his verbal barrage. Wow. He has absolutely no loving feelings for me. He won't unless I let him have his way and pay attention to his needs only. Makes me wonder how he'd be with the kids if I wasn't around. What is going to happen when they can't provide the attention he needs...what if all 3 are extra needy an entire weekend he has them? This is going to suck.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

Posts: 1719 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Welcome to Hell, sister. There's quite a few of us here who fear for our little ones as they spend time with their emotionally-abusive parents without us there to protect them.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9673 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
ButterflyGirl
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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

^^ ditto


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
ButterflyGirl
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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Double post, but deserves another

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 7:49 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)]


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2239 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
TattoodChinaDoll
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Member # 34602
Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

I really need NC with him and obviously complete no contact is impossible. He actually just needs to leave. I need to move on without him and his abusive ways. Even though I'm ready for that. I'm not ready yet to do it to the kids. The oldest will be devastated. If she does a complete 180 from her normal self and ends up needing intense therapy, I wouldn't be surprised.


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 2, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

Posts: 1719 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

My girls had two sub-standard parents during the M. In S/D I'm far more present and all round better parent than I was back then. He on the other hand is worse.

They only need one good parent.

((TCD)) I deeply regret having children with him. He is undeserving of that precious gift - TBH he always was.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5558 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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