User Topic: I've made up my mind...
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Happy  Posted: 9:50 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

It has been a while since I've posted here. After almost 2 months I have made up my mind...It's over. It's been almost 2 months since my boyfriend told me he cheated.. Even though we were not married my love for him was strong enough that I considered giving him another chance.

Needless to say, our relationship had many problems prior to the cheating. My opinion on cheating before this happened to me was always "Get out now" but i realized that it's not that easy to say until you are in the situation. Another thing I realized is that he will not change. If what he did to me didn't make him want to be better...he never will. I am tired of being hurt and I have decided to move on.

He still calls and texts, its been almost a week since I decided I don't want him to be a part of my life and I hate that I still want to be with him but no matter what, I've decided not to pick up the phone and to move on to someone that will appreciate me.

Out of this post I am looking for support but I'm also hoping to provide encouragement to those who are's possible...and even though it may hurt, you can get through it no matter what. I've had one hell of a year and I'm happy to say after hitting my bottom...I'm picking myself back up.

D day: April 7 2013

Posts: 11 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Boston
Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Good for you! I''m glad that you decided to love yourself more than someone that would hurt you so horribly, and then do nothing to change himself into a decent person. Stay strong!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4926 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Good luck and stay strong. True words and yes you deserve someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Sending you support and hugs.

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17810 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, June 2nd (Sunday)

Throwing a party here in celebration of your finding your way to freedom.

Me: BW a youthful 49
Him: alcoholic, sober now, WH 56
Married 19 years
Two sons, 16 & 17 years old
DD? He's still keeping secrets and only admits to what I have indisputable
evidence of... the $2000 earrings he bought her for x-mas.

Posts: 1536 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: California
Member # 32785
Default  Posted: 2:34 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

Good for you inlove, I hope your decision brings you some much deserved peace. Keep up with the NC it really helps, have you looked on Baggage Reclaim? It's very empowering.

Posts: 516 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Hawaii
Member # 3438
Default  Posted: 2:42 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

I was married for ten years, left, and now happier than ever! I learned to love being on my own for four years, then met an amazing man and planning to marrying 2014. You are doing the right thing!

Him: WXH

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Default  Posted: 2:50 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

Good for you! Keep being strong and NC will help you heal.

"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1358 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

Good for you!

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 640 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
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