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scangel3
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Default  Posted: 4:44 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

I don't understand why some people (my WH in particular) even bothers with saying he's "sorry"! I don't believe those words from his mouth for 1 sec, and I'm not just talking about the A. This had always been a sore spot for me, I feel he only apologizes because he knows he's suppose to, NOT because he is truly sorry!!! And especially about his A! He shows no sign of remorse, or even trying to show remorse! He gets mad when I trigger, he says stupid things, and if I bring up that he should be sorry, then he'll say I'm sorry.

I just don't get it, if your not sorry but you say you are, it's just another lie to add to the shit pile of lies, so why do it?

Sorry just had to vent a little before falling (or trying to) sleep


BS-me 31, WH-31, M'd-10 years
DD 8.5, DS 6, DS 5.5
Dday 03/01/10 (our DD's bday)
A ended 08/31/10-09/02-10 (with multiple ddays in between).TT on 08/2012, 09/04/12, 11/16/2012, 01/2013, 6/25/2013 Says he wants R, but not proving it

Posts: 714 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Portland
DeadMumWalking
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Member # 25341
Default  Posted: 4:58 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

Yeah, it really does suck to get those insincere 'apologies'.

Here's how my WH apologized: 'I'm sorry you feel hurt'. WTF?????

Way to take RESPONSIBILITY for YOUR actions asshole!!!!


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2537 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Bluebird26
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Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 5:21 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

Sorry is about actions not words. Why don't they all get it? Because they are selfish and it means they have to face what they have done. It's easier to keep living in lala land.
((Scangel13))


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1280 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Bravenewgirl
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Member # 36267
Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

I could not hear the word sorry often enough. I need more affirming words from WH (I guess its one of my love languages).

I would prefer an "I'm sorry" to his daily question of "What's wrong?".

You know dammed well what is wrong, doucheface.


Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty

Posts: 661 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Canada
Loyalty2Liberty
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Member # 36714
Default  Posted: 6:14 AM, June 3rd (Monday)

Mouthing a few small words you don't even mean = side effects of wretched behavior substantially reduced or even eliminated.

Why *wouldn't* he bother with "sorry"?


me:BW
him:stbxWh


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