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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

... thanks for all who have sent mojo's, prayers and kind thoughts this way recently. My mother passed very peacefully this morning. What I just went through was life changing ... I mean that positively. Again, thank you friends ...

Posts: 1952 | Registered: Feb 2006 | From: PA
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, June 3rd (Monday)


sending warm hugs and comfort.

Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?

Posts: 25559 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
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Default  Posted: 11:38 PM, June 3rd (Monday)


Me (BW): 32
WH: 33 TimeToManUp
Married: 11 years, together 16 years
3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

Posts: 1720 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

Prayers to you.

Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

Posts: 2195 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Great Southwest
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

Prayers to you and your family.


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52212 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

I'm so sorry for your loss. Even expected and still hurts.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

Posts: 8007 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 17243
Default  Posted: 12:04 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I;m so sorry for your loss.

My thoughts and prayers are going out to and your family.

Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead....Adele

Posts: 960 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Upstate NY
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Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Im so sorry. Prayers and hugs to you.

BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14

Posts: 3097 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
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Default  Posted: 12:28 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Im so sorry. Prayers.

BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14

Posts: 3097 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
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Default  Posted: 12:50 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


My condolences to you and your family.

Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 7813 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
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Default  Posted: 12:53 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


I'm so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your family.


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
Limbo-ish, again (after multiple S) -- weighing my options

Posts: 2588 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Member # 16590
Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry for your loss


Me: BW - I'm much too young to feel this damn old
Him: FWH - Midlife crisis with a pathetic porn wannabe
D-Day: August 2004; Lots of false R until February 2005.

It takes all kinds of kinds....Miranda Lambert

Posts: 3235 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: So Calif
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 1:17 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9685 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:15 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


I'm so sorry for your loss. Condolences from our family to yours.

Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."

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Member # 16953
Default  Posted: 5:28 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry my friend. It hurts losing a parent. Both of my parents are gone. And while I was never that close to either of them (Kind of a black sheep of the family) I still miss them at times.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

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Default  Posted: 5:55 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

Posts: 3772 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: PA
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Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)



Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14400 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
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Default  Posted: 6:08 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry for your loss. (((Sports)))

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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 6:35 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


I understand. I'm so sorry for your loss

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

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Default  Posted: 7:05 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry. You're in my thoughts.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7659 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


I'm so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

BW (me) 31
WH 33
DS1 8 yrs.
DS2 1 yr.

Anniversary 6/09/04
DDay 6/27/09
Wedding 3/15/12
DDay2 5/5/13

presently working towards...well i don't know anymore...

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Philly, PA
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

(((((Sportsfan))))) Holding you and your family in my thoughts.

You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams

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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I'm very sorry

I'm sorry if you don't like my Honesty, but to be fair I don't like your lies.

Sometimes it's better to push someone away...not because you stopped loving them but because you can't take the pain anymore.

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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Sorry for your loss Sportsfan

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

Posts: 3416 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.

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Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17394 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Take care mate.

Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


WSO: 29
BSO: 27 mommy of 3 under 7, #4 due may 2013
D Day#1: august 25 2010 ow#1
D Day#2: jun 15 2012 from 7 mt PA/EA with ow#2
+ a couple of short term flings.
D Day #3 sometime the last week in march / false R Same ow

Posts: 222 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Tx
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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Sorry for your loss sportsfan

FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live

Posts: 37189 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
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Default  Posted: 9:32 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)


I'm sorry for your loss.

Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24514 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry for your loss. Prayers.

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
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Default  Posted: 9:45 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

sendng my prayers

I love my husband and kids, but there is something missing, LIKE MAYBE A LIFE!!!!!!!

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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

So sorry to hear this news.

Continued prayers for all of you.



Fidelity isn't a's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!

Posts: 21051 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

Posts: 6655 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)

((((sportsfan)))) Your in my thoughts and prayers

D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

Posts: 1203 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: arizona
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry sportsfan.

You, and your family, are in my prayers.


Me: BS
Him: WH

Posts: 1284 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Member # 7489
Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry for your loss, Sportsfan. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

I'd always thought that when I hit rock bottom, there'd be nowhere to go but up. Now I know running around in circles here is also an option.

Posts: 4852 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Doing time on Pine Tree Lane
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)

So sorry for the loss your mother, sportsfan. Sending warm thoughts of comfort, caring and peace your way. (((sportsfan)))

BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson

Posts: 9663 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)

(((((Sportsfan)))))Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5107 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 12041
Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)

(((sportsfan))). I am sorry for your loss.

“We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are.”... Anais Nin

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Member # 13813
Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, June 4th (Tuesday)

(((sportsfan))) May you have peace in your heart during this time.

Married 18 yrs, together 25+.
D-day: 2/18/07.
1 child
The story doesn't really matter anymore. Time is a great healer. Life is good.

Posts: 2431 | Registered: Mar 2007
weeping willow
Member # 22800
Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

You have my deepest sympathy.


BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years

Posts: 1793 | Registered: Feb 2009
Member # 30803
Default  Posted: 4:53 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

I am sorry for your loss.

Me ($39.95 plus S & H)
DS1(17), DS2(15)

Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.

Posts: 355 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

..sportsfan.. i'm very sorry to read this sad news. prayers are with you and your family at this time.


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf

Posts: 4124 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

I am so sorry for your loss.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3810 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Member # 8142
Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

I am so sorry.

((((huge hugs))))

~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

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