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still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

DH has been NC for 4 yrs now.

A few months ago I was on his Classmates page, which is how he reconnected with bitchface . I showed him that she had left a message last summer. His response: hmmmph! As he is no longer a paid subscriber I could not see what she wrote.

Well, this morning I went on again, and FUCK A DUCK there's another message that "she left a pic that H requested"!

fuckity, fuck, fuck, what the fuck is wrong with this bitch???? She is a fat, ugly pig!!

I know, NC. Heck I even give that advice here. BUT when it's you it's a different story

I so want to pay (the minimum) to see what the fuck she has to say!!! And have DH write a NC. It was never written due to 1)I didn't have SI, and 2)she wrote her "I will miss you but understand we can't be friends" piece of shit.

PLEASE hit me with 2x4's!! Actually I'd love to hit HER with a 2x4 or more like a 6x8!!

Haven't told H yet. He will just say "hmmmph". Since MC, last summer, he has really stepped up, and I have to LOVE him for that!

GDSOBMF!!!!!!!!!!
I am shaking with rage!! Haven't felt like this in ages.


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

If you truly believe that your H is NC with her--STOP LOOKING!!! Seriously, this is only hurting you, and nothing you say to her will help you or convince her in any way.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 19963 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
LonelyHusband
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Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

This is what happens when you break NC. Now there could so easily be a spiral into more contact - not initiated by your WS or the AP, but by you.

Let it go, let her go. Move on with your husband.


BS ( me) 41
fWS (OktoberMest) 35
D day #1 29/10/2011, D day #2 15/112011, D day #3 15/03/2012
Reconciling.
“It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all”, is inadequate consolation when you vacuum up a child's hamster'

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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

PM me, sweetie, I have classmates.com.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9494 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Thank you for your advice.

I have to chuckle at my own stupidity, as I KNOW all of this. I give it as advice.

Yep. NC is best! (but can't I just see the messages??

Stupid bitch!!

[This message edited by still2suspicious at 11:04 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)]


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1275 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

there's another message that "she left a pic that H requested"!

I understand NC means NC, but this sounds like he broke that. When did this message come in?

There's also another saying that goes around SI a lot, Trust but verify. If you didn't double check this how would know if NC may have been broken?

(((HUGS)))


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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Tiredofthepain
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

Not to add fuel the fire, but she said she sent a pic your WS requested? When did he request it?


ME-BS 48
HIM-WS 38
WS is SA, multiple visits to prostitutes.
Status: Hanging in there

I would rather be told a hurtful truth than a comforting lie.

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still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, June 4th (Tuesday)

TP-

That's the thing that scares me!

Did he really have contact with her at some point?

I know he did not contact her thru Classmates, as you can't send messages without being a paid member.

Is she just yankin' my chain, as she knows I can see this?

Is she just pissed off that he did not respond to her last summer?

When I showed him the first one, that we can't see, I watched his face, and he truly did not know about it.

Do I lose my trust in him b/c of her pokin' the bear?

I HATE, HATE, HATE her!!! But I guess that is what OW want, right? To get into our heads, mess with us?

GRRRRRR!


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1275 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, June 21st (Friday)

Update:

Well, I broke down and paid the subscription! It was driving me absolutely crazy to see what she might have posted!! Was it of the 2 of them? Was it from our HS days? Hell, he refuses to let me post him on MY FB page, so WTF could she have posted??

I did it while H was away.

Well, there isn't anything there! No pic. My BFF said it was a ploy to get H to write back and say "hey there's no pic. BTW how are you, yada, yada, yada. Stupid bitch!!

When he got home I did confess to what I did. He was none to pleased with me! (I guess I get that )

Just to clarify H DID NOT break NC, nor did I. She is the one doing the phishing. The first time it got her nowhere, so I guess she thought the second "you requested" would do the trick.

After my reunion we are deleting his account, per HIS request.

Man, I am pathetic!! Can't even follow advice I've seen here for over 2 yrs, and I even give out!!


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

Posts: 1275 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, June 21st (Friday)

You're not pathetic. You can still back away from this situation. Don't go on the website ever again. Cold turkey. Close that door, lock it, and throw away the key.

BTW, it seems pretty obvious to me that it was a ploy to either get to you or him. If someone's sending a requested picture, they don't say "Here's the picture you requested." It was totally an attention grab. Now you know what she's up to, and anytime she tries to step into your space just throw that wall up and let her bang her head against it until she goes home.

(((still2suspicious)))


If you can't learn to enjoy your life when you have problems, you may never enjoy it because we'll always have problems. - Joyce Meyer

Posts: 16829 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
still2suspicious
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, June 22nd (Saturday)

J

I know you are right. Heck I've said it to myself.

I will delete his account as soon as my reunion is here. Right now it's the only way I see what's going on at my school.

And I so would love to see her face when she sees his name gone!!

At least I did restrain myself from actually writing back to her. That's something, right?


Me: BS
Him: WH
DDay: LTEA

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