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AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 5:34 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Our First Garden:

I Tilled It
She Planted It
I Water It
She Weeds It
We Harvest It
Our Whole Family Benefits from It

[This message edited by Chicho at 6:50 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)]


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

This post sums up everything.

It shows so wonderfully the hope that exists here.

Beautiful!


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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brokensmile322
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Member # 35758
Default  Posted: 6:09 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this!!!!!

So much work to get it ready, so much work to keep it going, so much work to reap the benefits! Just like R...

AWE-some!!!

Thanks for sharing Chico! You and broevil should be so proud!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1415 | Registered: Jun 2012
RockyMtn
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Member # 37043
Default  Posted: 6:23 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)


Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
Kids: Yep
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.

Posts: 667 | Registered: Oct 2012
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Nicer Chicho! Thanks for sharing.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2112 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Knowing
Member
Member # 37044
Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Congrats!

(I haven''t touched my garden in 3 years, but that''s another story)


Me: BW, Him: fWH
Together 12 years
My EA (?) 2005-2011
His STA/PA: D-day: 19/09/12
TT: 08/12/12

We are in R.


Posts: 697 | Registered: Oct 2012
Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Awesome! Make sure you plant some basil between the tomatoes - it's an excellent companion plant. Guess you don't have a deer problem up there?


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3760 | Registered: Dec 2011
sisoon
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Very nice.


fBH (me) - 65+, fWW (her) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 9773 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
wert
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Member # 34478
Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Very nice.

I would recommend Giant Maragold's around the tomatoes as well, natural insect repellent.

Good for you guys.



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DixieD
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Member # 33457
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

This is wonderful


Growing forward

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tired girl
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Member # 28053
Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Really like this!


Me45 Him 45 Hardlessons DS 25,23,20
D Day 1/18/10 his 3/8/2012 mine
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt

Posts: 4524 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: az
happierdays
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Member # 38537
Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Your picture gives me hope for a brighter future.


Me - 40
WH - 41
Dday - Oct 7, 2012
Dday 2 - June 4, 2013
Married - 7 years
1 DD

Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada
RoadtoPeace
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Member # 39141
Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Just what I needed to see. A hopeful future that both people are working towards together. Thanks!


me - BS
him - WH
Married 5 1/2 years
Dday#1 - 10/2009
Dday#2 - 3/2013
Status - He wants R, I am not sure I can get on that ride again

Posts: 41 | Registered: Apr 2013
knightsbff
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Member # 36853
Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Like!


FWW 40's
D-day August 27, 2012
3 kids and 2 dogs

Posts: 1392 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Deep South, USA
Joanh
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Member # 39146
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Beautiful. We have done the same and find it to be a symbol of growth. It was done together and it will be nutured together. Thank you for sharing 


BH 39
WW 43
D day November 9, 2012
3 children 22, 8, 6
Just....

Posts: 387 | Registered: Apr 2013
brokensunflower
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Member # 38674
Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

love this


me 32
him 32
5 wonderful kids 12 yrs 8 yrs 5 yrs 4 yrs and 2 yrs ..and new baby
married 10 years together for 12 yrs
working on R

my give a damn is busted


Posts: 210 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: cold ohio
5454real
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Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 4:38 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Awesome


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 2567 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

I really like this post, and all of the positive implications tied into it. Thanks for sharing this.

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MissD
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Member # 39377
Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Thanks for sharing, it's lovely!


BW 40's - WH 50's
M 20yrs, T 23yrs
2 children
Multiple EA, OA,& PA's
Thankful for my faith in God to be my strong tower.

Posts: 70 | Registered: May 2013
TarheelMom
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Member # 35726
Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

I love this! :)


Me: BW

Posts: 252 | Registered: Jun 2012
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 4:58 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)

Watering the garden while the sun is coming up is quickly becoming my favorite time if the day. Everything is coming to life!!!


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 6:35 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 36649 | Registered: Sep 2007
brokensmile322
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Member # 35758
Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, June 22nd (Saturday)

You'll have to let us see how its progressing!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1415 | Registered: Jun 2012
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, April 14th (Monday)

After slacking off all winter it is time to get back to work!!!


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
Morhurt
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Member # 40166
Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, April 14th (Monday)

The original post was from before my time here... but I want to say, I love the message and thank you for re-sharing.

Also, your changed user names confused the heck out of me!


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 883 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
lordhasaplan?
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Member # 30079
Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, April 14th (Monday)


D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10)

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karmahappens
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Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, April 14th (Monday)

I love this, I was out with my husband last weekend buying seeds and discussing landscape and I thought of it.

I am glad you shared it again.

You may have changed your user name, but I hope it's still ok to call you Chicho.

Thanks


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3775 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
AFrayedKnot
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Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, April 14th (Monday)

Sure Karma, I won't mind


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2527 | Registered: Aug 2012
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, April 15th (Tuesday)


We are what we repeatedly do, excellence, then is not an act but a habit. - Aristotle

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Skan
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Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, April 15th (Tuesday)

A fallow garden, coming into spring is just bursting with possibilities!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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