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healingtree
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, June 6th (Thursday)

Okay - I am working my new beginning. I call 2013 the "I don't know what the F*** is going to happen" year...and it has lived up to its name in both good and bad ways, I'm not complaining....

BUT

I get asked out by single guys I am not really attracted to,

And I get hit on by the guys I am attracted to then find out that they are in relationships????

Why is that? Is this just a phenomena in my life or do you experience it too? So frustrating...

[This message edited by healingtree at 7:50 PM, June 6th (Thursday)]


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, June 6th (Thursday)

Personally, I don't experience it... Mainly because nobody asks me out. Ever.

I guess sometimes, that's just the way it goes. You know, frogs and princes and stuff.


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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, June 7th (Friday)

I've poured a glass of red wine over two married douches who hit on me.

I hate wasting wine but y'know....

I haven't been through that phase - I hope I don't. Is there something common in the guys you are attracted to? Something in their personality?


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healingtree
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Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, June 7th (Friday)

I don't know what it is! I am taking it all with a good sense of humor, and a beer.

I guess I have to look at it from the perspective of the male who might not be in a relationship that makes him happy, and he is looking for something different, and I am definitely different!

So weird being on the other end of the whole thing...

Please know that I have boundaries I won't cross, and I make that well known. Boom buddy, you are in a relationship and you are flirting with me? Um, no. Been on the wrong end of that stick too many times.

And then there is this other side of me just cussing, Damnit! Why? I liked that guy...

Hmmm....I don't feel like I am putting out any weird kind of vibe. I guess guys may take my open, honest, and friendly attitude as something else, like an open door.

I hope that when they meet me, and hear what I have to say, it makes them think about their relationships. But that is a stretch eh?


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

Personally, I don't experience it... Mainly because nobody asks me out. Ever.
Me too, nanners. Wanna join my Invisible Lady club?


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Default  Posted: 9:43 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

I'm also on the weird end of the spectrum. I'd join the Invisible Club...if I joined clubs.


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