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Shockedman
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, June 7th (Friday)

You are all so good at helping me read between the lines. My WW just sen me this email.... this all sucks so bad. I hate this an wish to fast forward my life! I want to beleive it, but just can't. She still is in the fog, no doubt.

I would like you to know that I'm working very hard within myself, with my therapist, family and God to work through this. I've come to some resolve with some things. One thing I can not do is forsake the work that I've done a long my life's journey already. I've worked so hard to deal with the obstacles to come out as a healthy individual. I truly believe that I am. I've come so far with so many things and won't blame my childhood as this I believe, would be a crutch, an excuse. I've done some work currently to see where Im at with codependency etc. Things related to being a child of an alcoholic and that truly has nothing to do with it as I've come out of those patterns and you have seen the work I've done to do so. I will also not forsake 17 years. What we've learned a long our journey about each other. The obstacles we did make our way through together. And for some reason who we were as a couple, got lost in the chaos of the last two years. We often worked through life together, we always worked on our relationship with open ears and hearts. So 2 years of alienation on both of our parts, severely hurt our way of being, the healthy way of being. We, as a couple, became unhealthy in all of it and then I made a very wrong choice within that time period. For that, I'm so beyond sorry. Sorry doesn't even cut it.
I'm so sorry that I hurt you. But please know, that my basic makeup of me is still there. Because I sinned in our marriage doesn't mean that I'm a totally different person. What that means, is now I have to work with God within the person that I truly am to work toward forgiveness of myself for that decision. I'm not in a fog, I'm not oblivious to what I've done. I'm truly working hard to come to some resolve so I can communicate with you again.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, June 7th (Friday)

Wow a whole lot of I's in that statement. I'm not sure if she is starting to get it, or if she is fishing for an attemtpt to manipulate you.

Guard your heart.

If you respond in any way at all I would lay out your rules of R. Very clearly and simply, and if she chooses to not abide by them to not bother contacting you unless it has to do with money or the business.

These types of notes from the WS can take such an emotional toll on you, it give you some hope, but caution. Don't fall for it hook line and sinker, becuase the fish on the end of that line is most likely a drum, or gar.

((((and strength))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Shockedman
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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, June 7th (Friday)

Thanks tushnurse for your thoughts. I have no plans to even respond at this point. 2 weeks after d-day and this is what I get? Of course I know she loves me and we did have a good marriage for most of the time, but until I see something that isn't riddled with blame shifting, I have nothing left to give. It is early in the process, I know. But as I said, each and everyday that passes, I step further way. I don't want to and don't feel I deserve the pain. Anger is very real in this situation as I was forced into this all and had NO choice. I plan to make NO decision in the coming days, BUT if I were forced to say at this moment what I would do, I would walk away.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, June 7th (Friday)

When a wayward,this soon after dday,starts talking about forgiving themselves,that's a sure sign that they have no idea the magnitude of the damage they have done.

It's all about her.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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rivenheart
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, June 7th (Friday)

Just ignore it. Really, that's the smartest and best option for you. Do not engage with her psychobabble. She is not attempting to communicate with you; she's just thinking (her dysfunctional, delusional thoughts) "out loud."

Leave it alone.


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doesitgetbetter
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, June 7th (Friday)

Ditto what confused said. We're over 5 years out, and my H is STILL trying to forgive himself for cheating on me. I've forgiven him long ago, but he is still working on it. My H also truly gets it though.

Your WW's letter put blame on the M, and then she "made a very wrong choice". What a pretty way to put it. Doesn't sound like what you would probably call it, or any other BS would call it. She has no grasp of the magnitude at all. I also think it's quite telling how she proclaims her health in more than one place. If she was a healthy person, she would never have cheated to begin with. She will need to stop deluding herself in order to really work through this.

What does it mean? It means she's nowhere near ready to put the effort into it that she needs. Oh, but she's healthy.


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

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brokenblackbird
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, June 7th (Friday)

I agree with everyone here. No need to respond.


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Shockedman
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, June 7th (Friday)

I totally agree. If she were "healthly" like she says, then that is even worse to me. that she means she is a cold hearted bitch. She is no where near healthy. I did not respond. She followed up with:
"It is not that I don't want to respect your boundaries. Can you believe, after 17 years that we cant even have a conversation? Continued alienation? Or is it simply just that we need time?"

I responded with: "We need time" Thats it.

I don't know how much time she will need to come to reality and she may never and I have to accept that. As I already said, as each day passes, I come to new realizations and new truths. When she is finally at the point of even being ready to understand her actions and REAL truths, I will be long gone. I wish SO badly it that wasn't the case. I believe I could have and would have been able to get past this. I was very optimistic at first, but now I realize I was just delusional as well. I was/still am in BS fog. Facing reality is really hard....

[This message edited by Shockedman at 10:28 AM, June 7th (Friday)]


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, June 7th (Friday)

I... I'm... myself... my... I've... I've...I've... I...I...I've...I... I've... I'm... I've... I've... I... we've... we...we... We...we... We... I... I'm... me... I'm... I... me... I... I'm... I... I... I'm... I'm... I've... I'm...I
There are more than SIX Is for every we in her poor-me missive. The meager Wes are in a brief segment of her manipulation-fest that deflects responsibility for her actions. The gist? You, as a couple, lost your way---because "somehow" you grew apart. (Odd how infidelity does that to a marriage...)

But now, lucky devil, you get the "new and improved" wife who now has done all the hard work and forgives herself. (The implication: you will be expected to forgive her, too--and post-haste. Expect, quite soon, to start hearing about how things would be all right if you would just forgive. Trust me, the Why won't you just GET OVER IT? is traveling not far behind.)

She has no clue. The work has not even begun. Not the work she has to do for herself, and not the work she has to do if she wishes to R.

I would not respond to this in any way. (Though in reality I did, for quite a while---so there's no judgment at all if you do. Just keep in mind, as you do, that a woman who IS working hard to get it would not be focusing on self-forgiveness and other conclusions to feel better about herself, but would be struggling with the immense pain she's caused.)

ETA: I think, in future communications (if any), you should take more ownership of YOUR decisions. "We need time" implies that there IS a "we." Right now, there is not. Your marriage is over, and you are working hard to determine whether it is worth your investment--emotionally, and with your heart--to build a NEW marriage with the woman who took a wrecking ball to your first. When she needles you about your lack of response, say, "I need more time." You might even tell her what you need time for: to decide whether you choose to build a new marriage with a woman whose problem-solving toolkit includes leaving her marriage to build relationships with other men. You know, because that always makes things better.

(But really, crickets. I just took far too long to develop cricket skill.)

[This message edited by solus sto at 11:05 AM, June 7th (Friday)]


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WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
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Skan
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, June 7th (Friday)

Crickets. Very small, chirping ones. She''s essentially said nothing that deserves an answer.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



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wonderingbull
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, June 7th (Friday)

Wow.... She's pretty damn delusional...

All she's doing is throwing the dog (you) a bone...

WB


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor


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Shockedman
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Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, June 7th (Friday)

I agree. I even thought I should have said "I need more time", but I said we. I guess because I am still in BS fog a bit.

What is the crickets analogy you keep speaking of?

She is terribly delsuional and has been and will alwyas be good at manipulating me and others around her. I need time to decide how this is all going to go down. I have (for the most part ) already given up an any chance for R. She is in so DEEP and is so stubborn that it will likely take years for her to come to her senses (if she ever does) and I will long gone.

Yeah...healthy people have affairs. That, in many ways, is worse. For me, some mental issues would make it a bit better and more tolerable to get over. Now she is just saying "I am a selfish bitch, who chose to have and affair because I WANTED too"

[This message edited by Shockedman at 12:19 PM, June 7th (Friday)]


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confused615
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, June 7th (Friday)

^^That is actually very close to the truth...cheaters have a variety of reasons for cheating...but the bottom line is almost always..they did it because they're selfish and because they could.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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sailorgirl
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, June 7th (Friday)

So 2 years of alienation on both of our parts, severely hurt our way of being, the healthy way of being. We, as a couple, became unhealthy in all of it

Holy crap. Convenient how she can forget that she criticized, disrespected and deceived you, while you actually worked your ass off in IC and in the marriage.

now I have to work with God within the person that I truly am to work toward forgiveness of myself for that decision

Sure, she can make navel-gazing and self-forgiviness her priorities. I guess that's a lot easier than taking full responsibility for your pain and the devastation of the marriage.

I'm truly working hard to come to some resolve so I can communicate with you again.

Probable translation: Stay tuned for future monologues about my open heartedness, healthiness, and God-like forgiveness of myself. Do not expect me to ask how you are doing or imagine how this is affecting you because, damn it--this is all about my journey to find me me me!

I agree with crickets, unless you feel like sending a simple list of your requirements for R.


Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling

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k9lover1
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, June 7th (Friday)

I read what she wrote and then some of the responses you got.

I got a completely different vibe from her note. To me it sounds like:

She is sorry;
She doesn't want to use childhood, etc as an excuse;
She doesn't want to throw away 17 years;
She knows she screwed up big time;
She's trying to find a way to work toward R.

Just my opinion.

I know you're hurt, but in her own feeble way, I think she's hurting too. And I think she's starting to realize that she let the marriage slip away.


D-Day was 10/9/05
He promised NC. He lied. After 4 chances, I kicked him out 1/05/06.
Since then I have survived cancer surgery and a heart attack.
Now he's sorry, but it's too late.

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sailorgirl
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Oh, and crickets is slang for silence. As in, "Nothing but the sound of crickets chirping."

And btw, Shockedman, I think the BS fog stays pretty clear of you! You rock.


Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13
Reconcilling

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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Hey Shocked. I don't normally post too much in the JFO forum but had to chime in here.

I don't know your story, I checked one of your recent posts and saw that your dday was about two whole weeks ago. I can't believe you haven't just forgiven her and moved on with this yet! Can't hold onto the past forever right? I mean, it's been over two whole weeks. (insert sarcastic "f-that-shit" here)

I agree with those who point out that this email reads all about her, and shows that she has no damn clue about the enormity of screwing away 17 years.

As far as her not using her childhood as an excuse...um... if you aren't going to use your childhood as an excuse...then don't bring it up. Don't bring up the fact that you're a child of an alcoholic. Simply by pointing that out..she is using it as an excuse.

Good to hear her say she's not in the fog..I mean, just two weeks ago, she was telling you that she loved the OM..right? But now she's decided she done the work and isn't in the fog..that's convenient. And, for lack of a better word, bullshit.


I see a lot of blaming you for this. "2 years of alienation on both our parts"...correct me if I am wrong..but wasn't she cheating on you during at least 9 months of this? But sure, it's your fault that the marriage suffered while she was living a lie.

My response is probably coming across as a little heavy handed. But I went through similar shit when I found out about my wife's affair. Eventually she pulled her head out, but she tried this same tactic with me early on. Blaming me, telling me to get over it. Blaming me some more.

You were in the same marriage...you didn't cope with it by cheating. It's not your fault man. Don't take the blame for it.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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Shockedman
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Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, June 7th (Friday)

((wonderboy))

Thanks for your comment. Always interested in other BS who shared the same experience. My WW was abused as a child and I know that her past had something to do with it. I think she knows it too. She is extremely prideful and that will be her downfall. As she said, she isn't in a fog and she is "healthy". What the hell? I guess I am the one being delusional, right? I should just understand this and move forward. F that. Yes, she calims to have "checked out" 1 year ago and has been in the affair for 7-8 months, during which I tried my ass off to make the marriage better. No wonder it was getting any better?

I will continue to push forward and live my own life as she stalls in her delusion. Likely 2+ years from now she will start to realize the gravity and enormity of her actions and be able to start to heal, but I will be long gone. How long did your WW take to get her head out of her ass? My WW is SO stubborn, I think it will take her forever....

[This message edited by Shockedman at 2:02 PM, June 7th (Friday)]


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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Child abuse is a terrible thing. I am not trying to minimize its damage, as my own child was abused by a care giver. That being said, there are many child abuse survivors who remain in faithful marriages.

Yup, big surprise the marriage wasn't getting better while she was having an affair. Convenient how the wayward mind still blames you for the "alienation on both our parts." Nothing new there.

In my situation, it took my wife a good 6 months before she fully pulled her head out. The first month was terrible, though. She blamed the affair on me, told me that I could never make her feel as special as he could...yadda yadda (he was married with 2 small children--real stand up guy).

After a couple of months she started trying, but it was still half-assed. A lot of blame shifting and rugsweeping. "We just need to move on" I think she finally "got it" when I served her with the divorce papers at about 6 months.

But it's been a long process for both of us. I had to learn how to deal with the betrayal, just as she had to fully extract her head from arse. The first year was really rocky. But, we are at about 18 months now...and things are going really well.

Just remember, you can't make someone come to their senses. You can control you...and that 's it. Accepting that is pretty freeing.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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circlingthedrain
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Shocked,

Her saying she is not in a fog concerns me. Did you use the term fog to her ? If not I'd be concerned that she knows you are here and is reading your posts.


BH (me), 53
FWW (Her) 55
DD18, DS15
D-Day 12/23/2007
R going well

Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then --- Bob Seger


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1Faith
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Shocked

She is displaying narcissist traits. Google traits of a narcissist and see how many apply to her. It will shine a light to her psyche. And hopefully save you a lot of pain and time in trying to get through to her.

She is still projecting. All about her. It needs to be all about YOU at this point.

I don't give a rats ass WHY she cheated at this point. Right now it's about atonement and making it right with you.

She is being way too selfish to consider WHAT she did. Gggrrr

Se is not worthy at this point of your time or attention.

So sorry. Stay strong.

[This message edited by 1Faith at 2:42 PM, June 7th (Friday)]


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Shockedman
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Thanks wonderboy. Your story at least gives me hope. Same situation. WW cheated with married man with 2 small kids. Personal question....How did you manage to make it so long and not give up hope? Or did you? I am only 2 weeks out and can't see any hope? How can I wait 6 months for her to pull her head out? Seems to hard to bear.

((circlingthedrain}}
I did use the term fog with her as did her therapist. I did/do have genuine concerns that she may stumble upon the site and recognize me by my posts. In some ways I wish she would find this site and get some support from other waywards. She is just far up her own ass, she can't see anything. Feeling "so" judged makes it hard for her to see her own mistakes. If she had other WS to let her guard down with, maybe they could help her to wake up a bit. BS can't give any advice because we are "part, if not all" of the problem in their eyes. I am afraid if she can't get some real help, she will struggle to wake up for a long time. Having SI has been crucial to me. I think her going to IC once a week is not even close to enough to et her on the right track. Will take years that way....


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SuperDuperWonderboy
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Hope is evil son of a bitch. I waited 6 months because I told myself I would give it six months before I decided what I would do with my life. After 6 months, I hadn't seen real remorse, so I filed for divorce. But I had already started detaching before I filed.

I made it so long by knowing that I, and my kids, were going to fine one way or another. Sure, I really really really wanted to stay married to the wife that I thought I had, but there was no way in hell I was going to stay married to the person she revealed herself to be.

Buddy, you are two weeks out. At two weeks out, your whole world is destroyed and just breathing seems like a chore. I am sorry you are here, it fucking sucks. There is no making sense of it.

At this stage focus on you. Focus on eating, working out, taking care of your kids (if you have them).

You can't wait six months for her to pull her head out. You can wait six months before deciding whether or not you even want to try to reconcile with your WW. Hell, if she keeps up this behavior, I wouldn't wait six months.

Read up on the 180. It helps you get some sanity back into your life. With all the shit swirling around in your head, try to minimize the crazy.


My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.


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alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Did you notice that when you didn't respond she came back with manipulative language in order to attempt to coerce a response?

Don't be guilted into a response & don't use her ready made a) b) c responses either. If you don't want to respond, then, don't. If you want to say I don't care to communicate with you, now, say so and follow through, for you.

[This message edited by alphakitte at 2:53 PM, June 7th (Friday)]


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Ladyogilvy
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, June 7th (Friday)

This pushes my buttons. The A delusion compounded by the god delusion. God forgives me, I forgive myself, and then you'll be expected to forgive her as well, not for her but for your own well being because all that matters to her is she has god and her own forgiveness.

I have a very personal bias here.this was the last thing I heard from my birthfather who was a serial child molester and a rapist... Before I cut off all contact with him for life when I was 16 years old.

All marriages have ups and downs. Alienation for a couple of years, half of the time she was having an A, justification for an A after all the years you have been together? Wow, just wow. After 17 year, you'd think she could come up with something better than that.

She needs to have remorse tattooed down one arm and empathy tattooed up the other. She clearly does not have those in her heart or she would be doing everything she could to help heal the damage she has caused you. Instead she is completely focused on herself.

I'm have lots and lots of empathy for abuse survivors but allowing her to emotionally abuse you this way is not helping her at all. It's allowing her to stay stuck in her delusional state. There is no growth that can come from this delusional pattern of behavior and thinking. The only hope for her and your marriage is for her to take responsibility for her actions and pour her whole self into understanding how much she hurt you and the work she needs to do to heal it.

I do not believe in forgiveness without empathy, remorse and restitution. Without those things, there is only acceptance and moving on.


Me: BW a youthful 49
Him: alcoholic, sober now, WH 56
Married 19 years
Two sons, 16 & 17 years old
DD? He's still keeping secrets and only admits to what I have indisputable
evidence of... the $2000 earrings he bought her for x-mas.

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hard_yards
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Boy, this really yanks my chain...

She's totally delusional, doesn't realize what she's done or the implications of it.

She had an affair because she wanted to, plain and simple. No amount of shape-shifting or blame laying will change that.

Again, her affair is 100% on her.

You can respond, your choice, but I personally wouldn't be contributing to her justification mind-f...k.

My response would be "please keep contact to business matters only". Clear and to the point.

Take care man, we're all thinking of you.



I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...

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Twitchy
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, June 7th (Friday)

Hi Man,

I have a slightly different view.

The thing the struck me most about this and the other texts your WW has sent is the recurring "We" aspect to them. It's as if she just assumed that no matter what, you were going to be there. But in twisted way. Like no matter what, he'll never leave and even though I did have an affair he'll always just be my husband.

In your previous thread with the text exchange, I got a sense she couldn't believe this could be a deal breaker for you. That her internal dialogue was something along the lines of "Why isn't he getting over this like I thought he would and just come rushing back to me?"

This newest text appears to be, for her, a concession. That she's starting to believe you actually have an independent opinion about all this that doesn't include you automatically forgiving her unconditionally.

I think it's a small positive step, but it needs to be built upon. You still need to get through to her that this just might be a deal breaker for you. She needs to feel a true understanding that she may have just killed your marriage before the reality of her actions well hit home for her.

[This message edited by Twitchy at 5:02 PM, June 7th (Friday)]


BH(me)-49, FWW-43,
D-Day #1 - Oct 2007 - On-Line EA leading to a failed rendez-vous
D-Day #2 - Nov 2008 - In person EA caught early.

Away you will go, sailing in a race among the ruins.
If you plan to face tomorrow, do it soon. Gordon Lightfoot


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MissD
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Funny  Posted: 1:25 AM, June 8th (Saturday)

Child abuse, child rape, molestation, children of addicts, we should not get a pass on keeping vows. I say this because many of us who have been abused or raised in disfunftion do manage to emerge from the horror of abuse to lead lives sans adultery.
I see it as an excuse or justification personally. Once a child has grown to adult it is his/her responsibility to not perpetuate abuse on others. Period.

[This message edited by MissD at 1:26 AM, June 8th (Saturday)]


BW 40's - WH 50's
M 20yrs, T 23yrs
2 children
Multiple EA, OA,& PA's
Thankful for my faith in God to be my strong tower.

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