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welcome14
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

My beloved 24 y/o daughter steals my stuff. all. the. time. from my clothes iron to my flat iron to my shoes that her dog chews to my nail polish remover. She then never returns them. Stole my best eyebrow tweezers this week. To take a tick off her dog. Told her I needed them back. got nothing from her. Finally get them back and I say "dang it, this is going to lose me my spot on the 'I found Sasquatch show'" I told her that we had had a hot Brigadier General in the clinic the day before and if I had done my eyebrows he might have asked me out.... She responds...."I doubt it Mama. Maybe you should look into a push-up bra" This. This is why you should eat your children like other species do......

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Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

This is why you should eat your children like other species do

Or maybe just push them out of the nest...


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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

Yeah, I know. But she is going back to school and is working three jobs so I have to support her in that. Plus, I like not being alone in the house....her stealing is the only problem I have with her.


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1197 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

Does she not have any good stuff you can steal. I mean borrow?


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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

Yeah; I get it. DS completely trashed his room (I never went in there ) but he was such a good person and such great company, I didn't care. He's worked since he was 10. He was his own person. So, I do get it.

(And I moved out before he did, so the X was stuck fixing up the room )


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Default  Posted: 12:37 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

Same here, bras gone, lotions etc. DD is 15.

I keep telling her to just ask me or tell me what she needs. But somehow it does not get through.

Trying again next week when she is back...


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Default  Posted: 3:24 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

I've got 4 daughters... willing to share for those that would like to experience girls...Sad?????


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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

Sorry, Kajem; I was never more happy than when I heard the words, "It's a boy"


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Default  Posted: 7:30 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

When my DD is home from school she brings her much more extensive wardrobe than I have home with her, so it opens up a whole new world for me!

It's fun, we share! And I like her clothes a lot more than she likes mine so it totally works for me.


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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

1. I have an extra bottle of ketchup you can have when you decide to lite up that grill, lol

2. I agree with borrowing her stuff...or kicking birdie out of the nest

3. My dd is only 7 but now Im thinking maybe its good I dont lose weight. At least she wont be able to fit into my clothes. Good luck for her with the tweezers: im constantly losing them


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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

I think the stealing happens at every age.. my 15YO is constantly taking my stuff & then claiming it for herself. She is ALL girly girl ( who can hit a mean lay up) & I bought the new spray on lotion.. she went ga ga.. over it... "let me try it" has now turned in to me having to go into her room to get MY lotion.

Fortunately for me, I'm short & overweight & she's 5'9" 130lbs so she doesn't steal my clothes but make up & jewelry.. oh yes!! I used to have a caboodle (remember those) full of make up (I'm a cosmetologist & LOVE the make up aspect of it) but since she's gotten older I now have one small (& I mean SMALL) drawer in the cabinet in the bathroom.. DD keeps taking all of my stuff! Her reasoning "You hardly use it!"


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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

so, from all your replies, it would seem to just be a girl thing, not evil motives or bad boundaries. Philly, my daughter is a size 2 and I'm a size 6, so no worries on the clothes either...but shoes! Not got one dress pair left that survived the beagle puppy. Luckily she stopped chewing (the beagle, not the dd..) and Sad, she is great company other than the occasional uproar her tweezer-stealing ways cause. She just left for work at her main job with a hug and "luv u mama". Stealing her stuff doesnt work, because she doesn't even know what she has in that messy room or assumed the beagle ate it. latest disaster- a tube of aveeno hand lotion beagle chewed a hole in then proceeded to lotion herself and the carpet. she sure smells good though....


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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

I am with sad on this, this is one reason I am glad I have all boys.


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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

Reading this post makes me wish I had kids!


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Default  Posted: 11:20 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

(((random thoughts)))

I'm sure there are more than a few people here who would be willing to lend you theirs for awhile.


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

oohhh, random thoughts....pick mine! pick mine! lol


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, June 9th (Sunday)

We have three daughters. All moved on now. At the time it bothered me that they took my stuff...now I just miss them and wish they were here to do that. :( empty nest feels pretty lonely many days. Enjoy it.


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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, June 9th (Sunday)


Those three words are said too much and not enough.
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, June 9th (Sunday)

My DS#1 lives here part of the time. Regularly steals my leftover restaurant meals. UNLESS I mark them with a large "NO!" Which makes for interesting conversation in the teachers' lunchroom...

But seriously, I think I'd but a strong keylock on my door. It would keep the peace. You are entitled to your stuff, and shouldn't have to fight about it. A lock would set a clear and real boundary...


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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, June 10th (Monday)

this has never happened to me, although my DDs are a different size than me, especially in the shoe department, and I wear cheaper makeup.
HOWEVER, I could do without the drama that still seems to permeate their lives, even at age 24! Seriously, if you don't have a boyfriend at that age it's a good thing, not a bad thing...!


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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, June 10th (Monday)

yes, the drama occasionally sucks, but the stealing restaurant leftovers that are to be my lunch the next day is really the worst! I'm going to try writing "NO" on them also! You guys are so creative...


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, June 10th (Monday)

her stealing is the only problem I have with her.

It is amazing what a locked door will do.

Trust me.

I know


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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, June 10th (Monday)

Oh yes. I have two teenage daughters and a teenage son. All the drama and pilfering occurs from my daughters. From my daughters I get drama and sneakiness. My son is very transparent and straightforward. If they were all like him it would be easy. I think teenagers drive us crazy so we are eager to see them on their own. When they were little, I couldn't imagine ever having them move out. Sometimes now I fantasize about it.


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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, June 10th (Monday)

I too am glad I have boys...That said, INAB gets his stuff stolen all the time by DS18.


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Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, June 10th (Monday)

I really don't think it's a daughter thing, it depends on the kid.

DD was never about the drama. She wanted to borrow something, she'd ask. She's upset, we talk.

DS....now, you want to talk about drama??? He's the king.


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, June 10th (Monday)

funny how sometimes the stereotypes skew...my daughter has drama because her dad is the only male drama queen I know. I swear, she totally gets it from him. My son is also straightforward and transparent, different father.....hmmmmm...


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Soooo what you're saying is, if my three-year-old already takes my stuff, it's not going to get better?


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, June 10th (Monday)

And I enjoy having a girl's opinion on things. We had a party yesterday and she helped me with my outfit! I wound up wearing one of her blouses .


Take up your space (and do it well).

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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, June 10th (Monday)

I have three daughters and if I wanted to keep anything away from them I just stored it with the cleaning supplies and the vacuum sweeper. Problem solved.


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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, June 10th (Monday)

meaniemouse- that is hilarious! and would probably work really amazingly....as well as hiding my lunch under the kale in the veggie drawer..... She did try to help with the yard the other day (first time ever) and it took her 15 minutes to figure how to turn on the electric weedeater. as we say here in Tenn....bless her heart!

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Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, June 10th (Monday)

She did try to help with the yard the other day

What did she want?
I love my 16 yr old dd to pieces but if she cleans something without being asked there is a request coming. It's so transparent that it actually makes me laugh.



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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, June 10th (Monday)

very funny..but true. I was mad at her for the stealing thing so this was appeasement for that...and really, now that I think on it, the hiding behind cleaning stuff wouldn't work because the thefts are so random, everything I own would b in the broom closet


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


Posts: 1197 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, June 10th (Monday)

I think if my DS steals my eyelash curler. I would have bigger worries

BTW I found the greatest curler, it is heated and does a fantastic job with no pinching!!


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