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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, June 10th (Monday)

I have really bad depression - have had it for decades - and of course this whole thing with infidelity, separation and eventual divorce has made it worse. However, I've made some changes in the past couple weeks that have been huge.

- My shrink started me on an additional anti-depressant, one that is supposed to help the others that I'm on to do their thing.

- I've totally stopped drinking.

- I've been going to bed at a decent hour.

- I've started leaving my alarm clock on my dresser, so that I have to get out of bed to turn it off.

- I've joined a walking group for exercise.

- Whenever I feel sad, I either go for a walk, or pick up one of my musical instruments to play.

- I've accepted offers to hang out with some new people, and been seeing my existing friends more.

- I've been eating better.

I don't know which parts of that recipe have been effective, but SOMETHING has. I didn't cry at all last week; I did some work and started seeing clients again; I've been getting better at playing my music; I've just been feeling better!

And really, none of that shit is hard to do. Well, okay, I do miss having some wine with dinner, but seriously, a pretty small price to pay for what could become happiness.

I even caught myself smiling to myself while I was shopping the other night. Now how cool is THAT!

I guess the bottom line is that if you start acting like you love yourself a little, you may start to believe it - and you may even like it.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1944 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 10:35 AM, June 10th (Monday)

That's great!

Even though I KNOW these things help, sometimes when I get in a downward spiral, I can't seem to act on them.

Glad to see things are lightening for you!

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, June 10th (Monday)

Wonderful news! I have struggled with depression, and I remember feeling such joy when I began to see the world in color again.

Keep up the good work, Pass.


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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Helen of Troy
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Content  Posted: 11:12 AM, June 10th (Monday)

It's really nice to read positive updates like this.

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Pass
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Member # 38122
Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, June 10th (Monday)

Newlease, I know what you mean. I've spent over 20 years struggling with these. Finally my meds, my shrink, and my kids got me to the point where I was able to do the other stuff.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1944 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Pass
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, June 10th (Monday)

And thanks, Chrys and Will!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1944 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Newlease
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Member # 7767
Default  Posted: 1:20 PM, June 10th (Monday)

I've been on meds for 15 years, and did talk therapy during and after the D.

When everything is clicking - I feel pretty great. But even with the meds, sometimes I just get in a downward spiral. At least I never get to the point where I can't get out of bed. BTDT

Sending strength and peace.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7692 | Registered: Aug 2005
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Wow, Pass - what an amazing update. You're making all the right moves here, and it shows. Keep up the good fight.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Cautiously:


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


Posts: 1944 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
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