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JustDone
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Wanting to wish you

with your mediation tomorrow.


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Good luck and sending mojo.

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, June 10th (Monday)

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!

Met with my lawyer today. Plan in place. Now just need some mojo!!

Most beautiful butterfly ever. Thanks again!!


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:22 PM, June 10th (Monday)

How did you know purple is my favorite color?


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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courageous
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Good luck!


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Sending you mojo, BG.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Had an IRL friend recommend "Rolling in the Deep" tonight. Okay, some of the lyrics fit:

Finally I can see you crystal clear
Go 'ahead and sell me out and I'll lay your ship bare
See how I leave with every piece of you
Don't underestimate the things that I will do

Baby, I have no story to be told
But I've heard one on you
And I'm gonna make your head burn
Think of me in the depths of your despair
Making a home down there
As mine sure won't be shared


I'm still partial to the lyrics in the background of the chorus:


You're gonna wish you
Never had met me

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 11:51 PM, June 10th (Monday)]


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 1:28 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Be firm and fair. I went through mediation and never once made him question my intent to go to trial if he was screwing with me. Good luck and much mojo sent to you.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:36 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Rollin' in the Deep has been one of my anthems in keeping my courage up during this divorce. May it give you the same courage & intestinal fortitude!

While we never did mediation, we did go to court. I kept a beaded bracelet in my hand that has certain beads representing certain things (Christ, strength, honesty, courage, various "fruits of the spirit"). It helped me keep my thoughts centered on character & integrity, and so the fears just didn't have any room in my head! May you also find your thoughts centered & calm.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

I went through mediation and never once made him question my intent to go to trial if he was screwing with me.

That is EXACTLY the attitude I'm going in with today. I'm still pissed I spent $5000 on a mediating puppy dog lawyer who always wanted to strike a deal with his emotionally abusive ass and let him walk all over me. I'm so glad I've been forwarding all of FuckTard's texts and emails to my new lawyer and his assistant. I spoke with the ladies in his office yesterday before my lawyer showed up, and they were telling me how they couldn't believe what a bipolar ass he is.. I said, "I know, what am I supposed to do?" And one of them was like, "Punch him in the face." Then she laughed, but she knows it's not funny..

Good luck and much mojo sent to you.

Thanks again everyone. I'm nervous! But I'm feeling so much better with my new lawyer. Like I can stand behind him and let him deal with the POS..

I will keep the fruits of the spirit in mind, Nature_Girl. Thanks for that. I have a necklace cross and a bracelet that I wear to remind me to stay calm and centered and let God take control. Though I'll probably take a Xanax before I go too


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Good luck, BG.
Dealing with this stuff is just the pits.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

BG - If it helps, picture all of us standing behind you, arms crossed and staring down STBX. And, of course, sporting killer bitch boots.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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rumorhasit
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Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Good luck today! Be strong and stand up for yourself!


BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin


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