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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, June 10th (Monday)

QS got home from work early so we ran errands. Mom called in a panic warning us of storms and possible tornados, so we pulled into a semi-protected area, waited for it to blow thru.

The sun came out we headed towards home. Our neighborhood has some damage. Downed trees and stuff. We turned the corner to go to Moms. She's 2 blocks from us on a secondary road.

We were stopped at her driveway, with the blinker on waiting for oncoming traffic when I heard a terrible shrieking noise, followed by an explosion. I saw black and bursts of stars.

A guy was preoccupied, trying to reach his mother because of the storm, couldn't get thru to her, wasn't paying attention, and rear-ended us. He was going 40mph. We were standing still. Yeah. He shoved us about 40-50 feet down the road.

I fear my beloved Bronco may be totaled. Waiting for insurance and adjusters and all that. Fingers crossed that it's a relatively "easy" fix.

Kids are shaken up pretty bad but safe, QS is safe and just a little sore, and I took an ambulance ride. Severe whiplash and a random cut on my toe.

I'm thankful nobody was hurt worse. We were transporting some building materials. Those boards could have seriously hurt and one of us. Our vehicle could have been pushed into the ditch and overturned. There could have been more oncoming traffic and we could have been sandwiched.

Crummy day. Extremely sore. Thankful to be alive.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Sending mojo on the bronco and that glad to hear that all are ok


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Dark Inertia
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Holy moly!! I am so sorry! Please take care, and thank God no one was hurt. I am sorry about your bronco though. :(


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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, June 10th (Monday)

So, so, so very glad you are all okay!

(((Aubrie & family)))


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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Crap! You are so lucky it wasn't worse. Thank goodness.
Gentle hugs to you and yours- and a better tomorrow. You might be sore for awhile.


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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, June 10th (Monday)

I'm so glad you're okay. Sorry for such a crappy day. Prayers for quick healing and car repairs.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Wow and ow...take it very easy for a few days. Don't try to soldier through it. I'm very thankful that you're all ok!


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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, June 10th (Monday)

I'm glad you're ok


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, June 10th (Monday)

(((Aubrie & family)))

I'm so glad all of you are ok. I hope your neck feels better.


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Thanks guys. Everyone keeps saying to rest. Even drugged, I'm too keyed up to rest. Nervous. Scared. Still processing.

The nurse was annoyed I refused shots and made her find pills. Wah. My day sucked enough. Don't terrorize me with needles.

Really hope my truck is ok. I love that old thing.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, June 10th (Monday)

((((Aubrie, QS, and kiddos))))

I went through something similar a few years ago with the kids in the car. Don't be surprised if they have some anxiety or troubles sleeping. Give them plenty of opportunities to talk about the accident and/or any fears they might have. This is pretty big stuff for the littles. Especially if they saw you taken away in an ambulance.

Gentle hugs for all of you.


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- Carlos Santana


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Awww!
The burst of stars is your head hitting the headrest (goes backwards).
You'll probably be sorer in the next coupla days.

A good old folk remedy is to lie face-up with one of those gel ice packs under your neck. "Curve" over it, like a budget cervical pillow.
Put heat on your thighs at the same time (hot water bottle). 20-30 minutes. Or fall asleep...

Pls make sure you have a "checker". Someone who can tell if you're not acting right - to get you to the hosp if necessary (head injuries are tricky & you want to be safe)
(((Aubrie & family)))


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, June 10th (Monday)

nik is right on about the littles too.

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jjct
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, June 10th (Monday)

To clarify - use some thin material btwn the ice and your neck.

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JustDone
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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, June 10th (Monday)

How scary!

My dad says any accident you walk away from is a good accident, but I'm sorry you are sore, and your car is totaled. Try to remember cars can be replaced but you never can.

[This message edited by JustDone at 10:23 PM, June 10th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, June 10th (Monday)

OH NO!!! I'm so sorry, hon.

I'm really relieved that you are all ok, and I'm sorry about your Bronco.

I'm just sick thinking about what you went through.

Sending you big hugs.


(((((Aubrie, QS, Kiddos)))))


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Default  Posted: 11:31 PM, June 10th (Monday)

(((Aubrie, QS and kids)))

How scary! I'm glad you're okay.


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girlsbird
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Aubrie, QS and the wee ones. So glad your OK. Sorry about your Bronco. Hope all goes well. And truthfully...it is pretty easy to annoy us nurses, especially when you don't do what we want you too!


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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, June 10th (Monday)

Oh no - how scary! Be gentle with yourself, and heal. ((hugs))


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Default  Posted: 12:45 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Prayers for a swift recovery for all.


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DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
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DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 1:01 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

OUCH!!!!

Sorry about your accident, I hope you are all ok.

((((Aubrie, QS & kids))))


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 25 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 30
Dday: Dec 2008
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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

NIK, thanks for the heads up. DD7 was traumatized. First the whole family was going to die, then she refused to get out of the ambulance because she thought I was going to die. I had to promise her it was really ok and they were just going to check me out. I'm not dying, just hurt. Friends across the street kept the kids while we did the hospital thing. DD refused to eat till she saw me again.

DS4 was trembling and crying but once the fire truck and ambulance showed up, he thought it was pretty cool and started telling responders about sharks and dinosaurs. When we all got back to Mom's to eat, he was munching on his pizza and murmured, "That wreck was horrible scary."

My sister kept the kids over night so I could rest. DS didn't want to go. Was scared he wouldn't see me again. Promised him I would. I just can't properly care for them on my own for right now and Aunt would bring him to me in the morning. He seemed ok with that.

Somehow the impact tore me up the worst. As painful as it is, I wouldn't have it any other way. I couldn't bear to see my kids or QS in pain.

jjct, I'll be breaking out ice packs and heating pads today. Will try your suggestion. Mom will be babysitting me today so she'll keep an eye out for any crazy symptoms.

girlsbird, the nurse meant well but I *so* do not do needles.

[This message edited by Aubrie84 at 6:50 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)]


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Wow!!! Hugs all around!!!


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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Glad you and your family are all ok, Aubrie.

I remember when I was 5 or 6 my dad got into an accident with me in the car. I had nightmares for weeks, and every time we had to go somewhere it was a fight to get me in the car. I was afraid that every time we drove someone would hit us.

I got over it...I think my mom said it took a month or two before I wasn't afraid of the car anymore.


I hope your Bronco is ok.


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Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Glad to hear there were no serious injuries Aubrie.


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

I think my mom said it took a month or two before I wasn't afraid of the car anymore
Yeah, I suspect it will be the same for us. I spent the day on Mom's couch so she could keep an eye on me. The kids were there as well. Neither said anything about the accident till Mom took us home.

As we were pulling out of the drive, DS started whining, "I don't want to get hit again." DD threw in a couple comments too. (Shoot, I'm scared to get in a car.)

Once home, DD was joyfully proclaiming, "YAY! We made it home without an accident." Then DS curled up on the couch with me and said, "I didn't know that a Mommy could get hurt. I thought just kids. Why did you get hurt?"

This is going to be a process.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

((((Aubrie & family))))

It is a process. And you'll handle it beautifully, one step at a time.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

(((((Aubrie, QuietStand and kids)))))

I'm glad you all are ok and I'm so sorry you went through that. As someone else said, the Bronco can be replaced but you can't. Take it slow the next few days and rest up.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

(((((Aubrie, QS, and Kiddos)))))

Take it easy with yourself and with kiddos... They process so very differently than we do. It is great they are talking to you about it. That says a lot about your relationship with them.

Lots of gentle hugs all around.

It is a process... take care of each other gently as you process this.

I am so glad y'all are ok.

K


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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Aubrie! I'm glad you guys are all safe and relatively unharmed. I hope things with the insurance, etc, pan out the way you need them to. If you need anything (idk what I could actually DO here but I'm trying to offer support!) don't hesitate to let me know.
(((((((Aubrie and family)))))))


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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Wishing everyone a speedy recovery, emotionally and physically! I know you're so involved with the kids but please don't get antsy and rush anything!


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WH: 34 TimeToManUp
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3 daughters: 9, 5, 3, and and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)


Glad to know you guys r fine!


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Default  Posted: 6:46 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Holy pearl!!! Im glad all of you are okay. Fingers crossed for your bronco.


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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Im so sorry to hear this..but relieved that it wasn't any worse.

((((Aubrie,QS,and kids))))


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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry you were in the wrong place at the wrong time. I wish you all a speedy, complete recovery.

(Aubrie, QS, and kids)


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