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Listeningclosely
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Default  Posted: 6:45 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

It's been quite a while since I've had this out there. I know it helped me through the darkest points of my healing journey. Maybe it will help a few of you too who are early in your healing process. This is the mantra I literally read daily until it became who I was.

I made a terrible decision which caused more pain than I can possibly imagine and has no possible justification.

Yet that decision and the moments associated with it are linked to a single season of my life. We go through dozens of seasons in a lifetime, each presenting the opportunity to choose right or wrong behavior.

My life is not defined solely by my A. While it will forever be a part of what I have done on this earth, I have been given an opportunity to enter the next season of my life and make the right choices.

I commit myself now and forever more to focusing on what it will take to make Wells and the girls my top priority and to make them happy. I know that the more I give them, the more I will be able to move away from my season of pain and toward a season of hope.

I am accepting responsibility for the A and everything it has done. But I am also forgiving myself, knowing each day I give pure and total love to my family will be my sign that I am defined as a man of integrity and honor.


BW(her)- 45, FWH (me) 48
4 month Online EA
M 24 years, together for 28
4 Daughters - 21, 18, 14 and 12
d-day 6/2/07, in R
FORGIVENESS 1/1/2008!!!
"Action expresses priorities." -
Mohandas Gandhi

Posts: 4471 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: One Particular Harbour
unforgivable5
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Member # 38797
Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

thank you for posting this. I was actually thinking about asking how WS's got through some of the tough times. I did not ask because it seemed selfish to ask as a WS considering what we have done to our BS's. Thank you so much


WH
D-day 3/4/13

Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2013
stillhere09
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Member # 24924
Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)


You have a very healthy way of dealing with this whole ordeal.


Me-50 BW
Him-55,STBXWH

Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M


Posts: 3020 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Ohio
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 10:06 AM, June 11th (Tuesday)

It's great to see you LC


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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