On one hand I want to make this better
You cannot make this better on your own.
Hurtful words, being pissy about passwords and being transparent are signs of a spouse that doesn't get it. He is either still in the A or still hurting from losing his fantasy. Either one, are not R friendly.
IMO- You are only 2 months out. You need to stop worrying about how to fix things and start working on you. Work on your self esteem, get some IC, take a yoga class, reconnect with friends.
The more you take care of and love yourself the less of an issue he will be. Let him fix himself. Make him get into IC and start working on him. Until you have 2 people that are healed with clear heads R is one mis-step after another.
It's ok to walk the next few months on your own. If he wants to R, really wants it then he will do the work. Taking care of you and making sure your needs are met will make you stronger and more able to decide what you really want for your future...2 months out, your head is still spinning. It isn't time for decisions yet.