Just Found Out
User Topic: How much more can one person take???
Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

My past story is first hurricane sandy took my house, them found out my WH cheated with a hooker for BJ's and now my son was riding his motorcycle with a few friends and person cut him off and slammed on his break going from 70mph. to 30 in a second my son when head over heals over the handle bars then let the scene. Long story short my son is in the hospital with no feeling on his left side for a few days and now starting to get some feeling back. The man was arrested and charged with road rage with the intent to kill. Plus more tickets. I just pray for no more. I'm not sure how much more I can take.......

Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
Member # 24185
Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry 27.

Hang in there. Be strong for your kiddo.

What have I done to deserve this life?

Posts: 378 | Registered: May 2009
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Oh this is terrible! Your poor son. I hope he feels better quickly.

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Just keep breathing and take each thing as it comes....

"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.

Posts: 8085 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Member # 32962
Default  Posted: 10:27 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Oh my gosh. I hope your son makes a full recovery.


Hang in there. Son is the current priority. Focus on him right now.

-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

Posts: 880 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

Hope he is getting well soon!

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Member # 36579
Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

((27years)) That is a lot of stress for one person to deal with.

I hope your son recovers very soon!

Me 46
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14

Posts: 180 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 34195
Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

So sorry 27. One moment at a time and hang in there. You're in all our thoughts and prayers.

Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 59 on D-day (11/17/11) | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 904 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

I hope your son recovers quickly and fully.

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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, June 11th (Tuesday)

I'm so sorry. Please make sure the people around you know that you're near a breaking point and need support!

Married 14 years, three amazing kids
H had 17 month EA/PA
D-day 1/5/13

Posts: 787 | Registered: Jan 2013
solus sto
Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Oh, no! Prayers for your son--and for all of you. How awful

BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8848 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 27196
Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Stay strong sweetie, you can do this. I am so so sorry about your son's accident. Positive thoughts and prayers going out for you and your son.

me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
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Posts: 7102 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry, 27.

Best wishes for a swift and comfortable recovery for your son.

My life is as complicated as yours, but in different ways, and what I've had to learn is, unfortunately, to basically compartmentalize.

If you can live only for the day, in a moment, and take each event or issue as it comes to you, it helps. Some of the issues of life are huge, dramatic and terrible, but in the scheme of every day, it can actually be calming to only "Live In the Now", as Wayne and Garth say.

It's really helped me to put some major life changes and issues into more perspective and making lists when you can focus helps.

Giving yourself some space to just grieve and then put it away for a while is good. Another thing that helps is appealing to your senses and breathing and counting.

I wish you well and I wish you peace.

Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington

Posts: 2287 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Sending positive thoughts and prayers to you and your son.


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

Posts: 1882 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: UK
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Default  Posted: 9:15 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

God bless. Please hang in there and know that we are all praying for you and your family.

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Saying prayers for you and your son.

Sometimes all you can do is breathe and count the minutes till you take another breath. And that is ok.... just don't forget to breathe.



I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5272 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Gosh, you're right about that--"how much more..." Definitely over the top. Wow.

It is true. You're forced by sheer mental exhaustion to take one moment at a time and breathe. Take care of yourself. Drink, eat, and take care of your son.

Prayers coming your way.

Posts: 817 | Registered: Apr 2011
Member # 38511
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Hugs and Prayers to you 27 and your son. Good Luck

Me, 42 BS
H, 61 WH
2 boys 19 and 15 years old
Married 24 years

Posts: 314 | Registered: Feb 2013
Member # 38427
Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Prayers for strength and healing for you and your family.

"Son, you've got the future- shining like a piece of gold, but I swear as we get closer- it looks more like a lump of coal"

Posts: 135 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Ohio
Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Thanks for all the hugs and well wishes.

One breathe at a time is minute at a time and my one hour at a time.

I know people said god only gives you what you can handle....but wow I think he thinks I'm Wonder Woman if that true then I want her super powers too.

Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
Member # 16482
Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Just sending you hugs Hon.

I divorced him because I didn't like his girlfriend.
M 30 yrs.

Posts: 9588 | Registered: Oct 2007 | From: East of the Rockies
Member # 30877
Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Hugs and prayers for both you and your son.

D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

Posts: 1203 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: arizona
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

I'm so sorry 27. Please know that there are so many of us pulling for your son and you!

Posts: 22 | Registered: May 2013 | From: USA
Member # 38787
Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

Thanks again for all the suport. My son is doing great. He came home. The doctors can't believe that he is recovering so quickly. He is walking and talking and no major injuries besides road rash. He lost a lot of skin all over is body.

He must had a guardian angel with him that day. It will be a long recovery.
Thanks again for your support.

Bw (me) 47
WH (him) 59
D day 3/7/2013
Married 26 together 28
2 adult sons 25 and 22

Posts: 167 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: nj
Member # 26465
Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, June 13th (Thursday)


Honey I know. It seems to come in threes..Ugggg. I pray that this is it for you.

There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3188 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
Member # 38495
Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

My grandmother used to say"God doesn't give us more than we can handle!" I've always hated that saying. Evenmoreso after my wh's infidelity!!

I'm praying for you!

Trust is a fragile thing- once its lost it's gone forever!!

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