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windowsnotwalls
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

Complete panels today together, blood draws and all. Can be up to TWO WEEKS before we get the results. I didn't think it would take so long.

On the drive home, I explained to him what my family dr said yesterday, that the biggest risk here is HPV, that there are many strains, it's extremely common, but that the problem really comes in when a woman gets multiple aggressive strains, and the chances are high now that's the case for me, that my risk of cervical cancer would be very high then. He sat patiently listening, didn't seem to get mad, but was pretty quiet. I tried not to scream "You've put my life at risk you SOB!" ... we were both calm, but I was reeling inside.

Feeling kind of numb and drained now, like I'm just empty inside. Today somehow made the past 2.5yrs of my life more real. I've been tested before, but never both of us going in, holding hands, the cute little couple....oh getting tested for every STD out there due to infidelity. Why does it feel like Dday??? I thought I was way past feelings like I'm experiencing today.

The message he had waiting for me on my IM when I returned home was kind. "I know today was for you, but thank you for letting me be able to give you peace of mind this way today.
Thank you." Not his normal reaction. For him to thank me for allowing him to give me some peace of mind, that's new. However, there's not going to be any peace of mind until I get those tests results back for both of us.

[This message edited by windowsnotwalls at 2:51 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)]


"She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails" (Elizabeth Edwards).
http://youtu.be/62oby83NtGw
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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

My results took 3 days. Hope yours come sooner than 2 weeks.


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windowsnotwalls
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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

My results took 3 days. Hope yours come sooner than 2 weeks.

Thank you. Let's hope. I sat with what had to be quite a dumbfounded look on my face as they explained to me that since I have insurance the labs will be sent out to another lab to process. That they only do the free clinic non-insured / underinsured results there. So, why did I tell them I have insurance???

My neighbor and I talked some of how much today is oddly affecting me. She said it's because I've known a long time, but it's only recently I've begun to accept the severity of things, and today was a big chunk into accepting the reality of the severity. Very true.


"She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails" (Elizabeth Edwards).
http://youtu.be/62oby83NtGw
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

((((wnw))))


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

I'm a phlebotomist.....

It really doesn't take 2 weeks for results to come back. Unless the testing ordered is extremely specialized/they only run them on certain days/it has to be sent across the country for testing.

Most testing is ready for doctor review in a couple of days.

I hope yours is back soon so you have your peace of mind.

(((((((wnw))))))))

eta: cultures take at least 72 hrs to "grow" but, I don't believe blood or urine cultures are standard for std testing. (one of SI's doctors could confirm that, I'm sure!)

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windowsnotwalls
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

It really doesn't take 2 weeks for results to come back. Unless the testing ordered is extremely specialized/they only run them on certain days/it has to be sent across the country for testing.

Thanks. :) Yeah, they said the labs get sent out on Fridays. Not sure, but the HIV testing may be what the hold up is. We had to sign several forms specifically for that test, actually with two different people there.

Talked with another in my support system last night. She helped me feel much better. She related her own experience of the test day and said she was angry too. That anger is a healthy emotion, no better no worse than any others. All emotions are valid. Anger occurs when things don't go as we'd hope. It's easy to fall into the victim mentality that we don't have choices. She suggested I set myself a 5min timer and just let myself wallow in that victim mode for those 5mins, but when those 5mins were up, it was time to figure out what choices I had.....that the anger would remain until I took action and made a choice.

It really helped. I realized I do have tons more choices today. Well, I always had them, I guess, but I was nowhere near strong enough to make them last summer. I no longer deny my gut instincts. I trust when something feels off it is. I don't feel obligated to drop my boundaries when I don't feel safe. I don't feel guilty protecting myself today. I choose to take much better care of myself than ever before. I choose to require support of my healthy living in my partner. I choose to react calmly (as I did yesterday) and process emotions that confuse me with trusted confidantes.

Most of all, I need to remember, he's SA, he isn't a bad man, he's a sick man, that this addiction is horrible, and it didn't just affect me. It harms both of us, and that he never intended to harm me. That today we're both taking positive steps towards a healthier life. Today, today, today.

I was feeling guilty for having been SOOOOO very angry with him yesterday over his PAs from last summer. Now, I understand why, and I feel I processed the emotions in a positive way....for once.


"She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails" (Elizabeth Edwards).
http://youtu.be/62oby83NtGw
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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

I'm surprised about the HIV---(I noticed your location is Pittsburgh, I'm in Erie). We don't have to do the consent forms at all anymore.

I wonder why they had you sign them?

But that definitely could be the hold up, I do think it takes a bit longer for that test to come back.

I'm glad you had someone that helped you feel better.

Also, I hope you didn't get any damage from the storms last night! (we got nothing up here...not even a little rumble)


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windowsnotwalls
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

Also, I hope you didn't get any damage from the storms last night! (we got nothing up here...not even a little rumble)

Actually, I'm in Greene County, S of Pittsburgh, and the tests were in Washington. The tornado watch was til midnight, but the worst seemed from 4am-5:30am. No sleep for me after that! LOL There were some really crazy sounds going on. Doesn't seem to be any damage, although my porch furniture got blown into a couple yards away.

My pup was pretty freaked. He wasn't too sure he wanted to come out of his crate this morning. Couldn't blame him. I can honestly say I was considering crawling in there with him about 5am!

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"She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails" (Elizabeth Edwards).
http://youtu.be/62oby83NtGw
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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

awww what a sweet puppy!!!!

My dog does not like crazy weather either. He would have been up all night long if we'd gotten any of what they predicted. I slept, and so did he!


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