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User Topic: Obsessing/Searching - Found ons - Do I say anything??
bewildered22
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

I have been obsessing again lately..I guess it may be because one year DD is this month. When I found out about the ONS I became obsessed with identifying these people. One was a women who was engaged to WH friend...she new he was married, had kids etc. This was over 20 years ago. I couldn't find her then..but..I just located her on facebook. I just want to tell her that I know and what I think about her. She actually invited us to her wedding..WTF..and we went. Just wondering what all you BS would do.

Posts: 19 | Registered: Aug 2012
redrock
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Member # 21538
Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, June 12th (Wednesday)

It is hard to answer a question like that for you. If you really want to get something off your chest and have taken the time to consider the outcomes and still want to do it. then do it.

Do you have expectations attached to having your say?
Are you looking for an apology? It bears some consideration before taking the action.

I never did contact the single OW.

But I have read many threads on this site where posters got information from or had their say to the OW and were glad they had the experience.

It really is up to you.


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

Posts: 3157 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Michigan
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