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libertyrocks
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Concerned  Posted: 10:18 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

If he thought we were "doomed" and I would leave him anyway, then that totally makes me second choice.

The only reason none of his relationships didn't last is because all the OW were sluts and sleeping around with other men. IMO, his favorite LTA, was sleeeping around. So, since none of those girls were loyal to him, does he think, OH, MY WIFE WILL BE LOYAL, I better go back to her? I'm on a roll today...

Thanks for listening.


Me-BW 35. STBXH-35,active alcoholic, suspected NPD SA. 2 little boys. M 6yrs T13.
Year+ false R & TT from Dday1 Nov 2012 IEA - Feb 2014 count at 10 OW PA's 1LTA (all W lied to) for 3 years that I know of.
Filed for D.

Posts: 816 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
confused615
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Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

You have said that before..that he felt the two of you were "doomed."

What were those feelings based on? Did he attempt to work on the marriage before deciding it was doomed? Did he tell you before dday#1 that he felt that way?


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: R? I don't know..ask me tomorrow..it changes rapidly.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 6648 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
libertyrocks
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Member # 38924
Default  Posted: 10:54 AM, June 13th (Thursday)

Absolutely not. I asked him when he thougth we were doing bad, he said right after we got married. That's when I was asking him to go to counseling with me. I did. He didn't. I didn't cheat, I'm not broken. He is.

Are you kidding me? I had to bust him. Never, did he come to me sorry, saying he did something wrong... :(


Me-BW 35. STBXH-35,active alcoholic, suspected NPD SA. 2 little boys. M 6yrs T13.
Year+ false R & TT from Dday1 Nov 2012 IEA - Feb 2014 count at 10 OW PA's 1LTA (all W lied to) for 3 years that I know of.
Filed for D.

Posts: 816 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: So Cal, baby. :)
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