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Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

Would you tell the wife of the "new" guy that OW is currently sniffing around that she is a whore looking for her forever love ticket? Or, be thankful the bitch has moved on to a new victim and be quiet?


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1458 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
Conflicted1
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

If I personally knew the wife I would. Probably not if she was a total stranger though. You'd almost have to be willing to disclose your history for her to trust your motive.


Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don't expect it from cheap people.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Me=BW 45
Jospehine85
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

Send the wife of the "new" guy an email stating OW's history of sleeping with married men and that a woman who has no respect for the institution of marriage is probably not a good friend of her marriage.

Only say what you know for a fact. I believe in warning. If someone had warned me...life would be different.

[This message edited by Jospehine85 at 11:05 PM, June 13th (Thursday)]


Me - BS 40s
WH - 50s
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 839 | Registered: Jun 2012
Ostrich80
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Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 11:53 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

Do it!!!

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 11:55 PM, June 13th (Thursday)]


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 4940 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

Tell.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9538 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Lovedyoumore
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Member # 35593
Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, June 14th (Friday)

I think an early warning would have changed both my actions and my FWH actions. If we had both been told who the OW was and what she had previously done, I think there is a good chance our history would be different. Who would not think twice if you were told she is a money, status, husband grabbing whore?

But, if she has new blood, the vampire goes away and leaves us alone. Blowing her cover brings us back into the crosshairs of her attention that we have spent 2 years trying to keep NC to get away from her. Ugh.


Me 52
WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


Posts: 1458 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Southern, bless your heart
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