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Shockleader
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Geez, almost surreal to say it. I HAVE A DATE! Been 25 years, and I'm still pinching myself.

After talking with her on the phone, it was go for a date! I found a nice place for us on the 20th after work. It's a very classy rustic tavern, live band will be playing, they have incredible food, great wine list... Boy am I looking forward to this.

Only concern is the date is a week out, and it gives her plenty of time to back out... Should I contact her any more, leave it as is? I don't want to appear "clingy", but also don't want her to think I have forgotten about her either. Ideas?

Thank you!


D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 47
XWW 44
One DD 18
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A

The path to salvation is narrow, and as difficult to walk as the razor's edge


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Can't help with the advice. Just wanted to give you virtual fist bump.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, June 14th (Friday)

A woman's perspective here, it would be nice to hear from my date a couple of times before the event. A text or email simply saying, "I'm looking forward to our date" or to check in and see how her day or weekend is going. She may be worried that you will back out too, you know. To me a phone call or two in a week's time feels about right and not clingy.


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Can't help with the advice. Just wanted to give you virtual fist bump.

I am cosigning this as well! Have fun Shock!


D-day 5/24/11
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STBXWW = Her
2 children
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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, June 14th (Friday)

So happy for you. I think reaching out between now and then is a good idea. Don't forget to let us know how the date goes.




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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, June 14th (Friday)

I agree... don't not talk to her between now and the date. Have some small talk in the mean time. Let her know you're thinking of her, but don't be creepy!!

Can't wait to hear how it went!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Shockleader
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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, June 21st (Friday)

Oh yeah, the date tonight....

WAS FANTASTIC!!! ... Just try and wipe that smile off my face! So laid back, easy conversation, no drama. Dang, so that is what a non psycho acting women is like.

We are going to get together again, and see where this goes. My expectations are in check, taking it as it comes, and simply enjoying the experience with transparency, honesty, and no B.S. Seems my NB is really underway, and I want to thank everyone here who helped me along, get where I am today. Thanks!


D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 47
XWW 44
One DD 18
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A

The path to salvation is narrow, and as difficult to walk as the razor's edge


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