New Beginnings
User Topic: It's official - from dating to SO...
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, June 14th (Friday)

What a whirlwind the last few weeks have been.

'Special friend' and I have progressed so far from initial dating and spending lots of time together and getting to know each other on a deeper level. We talked every day and saw each other if we could and even if it was just 5 minutes to say 'Hello' and acknowledge each other.

And then one day we spent 13 hours together, starting off with church, then heading to a flee market, cruising through the Santa Cruz mountains listening to music and chasing the sun, stopping for drinks and dinner and laying in the grass together just talking and sharing our life stories. It was so easy to share the good, the bad and the ugly and be totally open. And even after all those hours and stories, neither one of us wanted to go home.

And somehow we naturally progressed from that day to talking about being together and making plans for the weeks and months to come. When I get back from my trip to Europe and my kids are back with their father for several weeks, SO and I will head out on a roadtrip to Yosemite. I am really excited because just like me he likes exploring and just see where the road takes us.

And I do have to say, there are some serious perks to dating an older, more experienced man. And I am not talking about holding doors open for me and being a total gentlemen..
. Definitely off the bus and planning staying off for a while

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, June 14th (Friday)



Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52561 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 14833
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, June 14th (Friday)


The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor

Posts: 5982 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: A better place
Member # 26912
Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 14th (Friday)

So happy for you!! ENJOY, you deserve this!

DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 46)
WH (him) - 43 (now 48)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 19)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm

Posts: 802 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Mid Atlantic coast
Member # 11089
Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, June 14th (Friday)

You give me hope! Good luck!!!

3 beautiful boys (20,19 & 15)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1096 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:47 PM, June 14th (Friday)

You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams

Posts: 25687 | Registered: Aug 2011
million pieces
Member # 27539
Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, June 14th (Friday)

there are some serious perks to dating an older, more experienced man

Yes, there is!

Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1262 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
little turtle
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, June 14th (Friday)

So glad to hear this!! Happy for you!

Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4202 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Member # 24261
Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, June 14th (Friday)

Delighted for you

DDay - April 2008
Me - 54 and doing great. Found myself again and loving life
Him - who??

I can see clearly now, the rain is gone (Johnny Nash)

Those who stir the shit soup get to lick the spoon!

Posts: 4965 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: UK
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, June 14th (Friday)

So happy for you!

Posts: 35791 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 35695
Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

smiles from me

Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 471 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 33857
Default  Posted: 5:40 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Good for you Frau!

Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 727 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
Member # 16953
Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

Yay !!!! Us older guys do know our way around a bedroom. You might not get quantity. But the quality sure cant be beat.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5718 | Registered: Nov 2007
Exit Wounds
Member # 32811
Cool  Posted: 7:04 AM, June 15th (Saturday)

All I gutz to say is


Posts: 2486 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: With my dad...and my dog...
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

Stronger08, I had no idea until now. Rather have quality than quantity

Heading out to Europe tomorrow for almost four weeks. I will certainly miss him but it will also be a good test to see how crazy we will be about each other when I get back. I have a feeling it will be even better...

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, June 15th (Saturday)

What a great post fraeuken!! So excited for you!! And enjoy Europe!

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
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