I agree. The reasons why they allowed it in the first place is what needs to be addressed.
Things I was advised not to ask, were sexual details. I'm so glad I listened. I have never had a "real" mind movie, only made up stuff in my head that wasn't true. Our sex life has been the best during our HB and I refuse to let OW in my sexual world. It's mine and all mine.
But, I still can't go on a vacation because that would require going to a hotel, which I'm not ready to do bc that's where FWH took his loser tramps.